Save the dates?

[mengarelli09:)]

Should I do them?


I do not have the money but I am catching grief.......help.



i was planning to send the invitations out early but i have been told that is not the right thing to do....

[carolinalady67]

If you don't have the money I'd skip the STD. STDs are nice but not anything that is at all necessary and a good thing to save money on if you need too.

I wouldn't send out the invitations super early, just send them out on the early end recommended (I want to say that is three months before the wedding but could be wrong, I'd have to look it up for sure).

[Liz&Cailen]

I agree, skip the save the dates. However, you want to make sure that everyone that you really care about being there knows the date, especially if traveling is involved. Perhaps give them a call, or add a note if you send a xmas card.

On vistaprint.com I just priced out 100 std's for under $30 including shipping. Just add addresses and postage. Sometimes, postcards on this site is free (for 100) but not today. My cousin used them although she added magnets and mailed them in an envelope which are $4 for 100 on this site. I was impressed with the quality considering the price.

[Sk8ermaiden]

OK, who is really giving you grief? STDs have only become common (and they still aren't THAT common) in the last 5-7 years.

If someone is expecting a save the date they are a little too needy.

[Winter_Bride]

We didn't send any out, and all of DH's family was OOT :shrug2: ITA with Liz - are you sending out Christmas cards? Include a little note with them, otherwise give those that you really want to make sure are there a call to let them know.

Come to think of it, I don't think I've ever recieved a save the date either :ponder:

[Mel]

also, for those who are internet savvy -- you can send it our via e-mail.
my MaoH was only engaged for 4.5 months and her family insisted on StDs - so she sent one out via e-mail...

[Liz&Cailen]

The vistaprint.com postcards are now free! 100 postcards for shipping and handling only now through Dec. 6.

[Amy]

We made ours and they didn't cost us too much! You could do something simple but I don't think it's necessary if you don't want to or can't afford it!

I've never actually received a STD card for any wedding I've attended and the only reason we did them is because we are going to Mexico, if we would have been getting married here, I wasn't going to do them.

[mengarelli09:)]

The Gref is from my FSIL. Long story...


The invatation paper is shiny and if you print them on a bubble jet printer the ink just wipes away (I tryed it on my home printer) and his mother said that her work has a laser printer so...I gave her half the paper I needed (hooby lobby was out) and now They have had the rest of the paper for about three weeks.


The Problem is the FSIL is now wanting to do the STD and I am ok but she wants to send them out in the end of January and I would have to send the Invataions in Febuary.....I do not even have any of the addresses yet....I know they want to help but they are not doing what Chris and I asked.....


Thank you for all the input..... :) I thought they are so common place.. thank you again

[Mimzy]

Please, remember - this is YOUR wedding! Anyone [besides your HTB] giving grief about anything should be ignored! Say - "thank you for your ideas" and then go about YOUR plans!

STDs are nice but no one is going to miss your wedding just because they don't get one. If people are travling - give them a heads up on day and time.

[km]

they are not necessary.

[wannabeNurse2]

Save the dates were originally designed for people who are having a destination wedding. They are sent out 12 months to 6 months before the wedding to warn the guests. That way the guests have more than enough time to save up the thousands of dollars required for the trip. Like many wedding things other brides thought it was a cute idea and insisted on doing it also. Now the forums make it seem like they are necessary or common place when they aren't. It's up to each individual couple as to what they want/wish to do.
IMO, sending out save the dates right before you send out the invitations would be a waste of time and money. They are by no means necessary. If you don't have the money to spend on them then don't. Take your FSIL's insistence to do save the dates and file it right with the other dumb suggestions that you've dismissed.

[mengarelli09:)]

Well the Gref is gone. Thank you for the advice. My FSIL just told us this past weekend after we asked " Have you sent them out set?" She Replied Oh well I ran out of time and the money was just goign to be wasted. So I just had to ride the wave and I got me way in the end.

That so sounded horible but I just could not understand why we had to have them after I said I am not sure.

[*Diane*]

You did the right thing. I never recommend STDs unless the wedding is huge, a destination wedding and/or more than 8 months away.

[mengarelli09:)]

Thank all of you again. This really eased my mind.:)