What constitutes non-traditional?

[Emily]

what do you consider non-traditional?

[Ally]

There are a lot of the "traditional" things that we arent going to do. Such as no garter, Im not throwing the bouquet, im not doing the something old, borrowed, and so on, we arent having a unity candle or anything like that, i have a guy on my side and FH has his sister on his side, the guys are wearing converse with their tuxes. those are just a few things that i can think of right now.

[Jill]

When I think of non-traditional, I think of gay couples, older couples (like me) who involve children and grandchildren in the wedding, people of varying cultures marrying and changing traditions, etc.

Ally, I love the stuff you are doing~sounds wonderful! :)

I did the something old, etc. thing, didn't throw the bouquet, didn't do a unity candle and I had my sister, four nieces and step-granddaughter as my attendants and my husband just had his two sons. We did stay with the female/male thing, but we were way uneven. :heee:

[Ally]

Thanks Jill!

[Coze]

Hi hi-

Non-tradiational is something that goes against the norms of the basic and ancient ceremony. When you think about that, though, most everyone goes against the basic and ancient ceremony somehow and in some ways. Does that make every wedding today non-traditional?? No, but it makes us all unique....

My wedding is considered non-traditional because:
1) We are wearing costumes (although I considering a wedding dress and tux a costume too)
2) We are not getting married in a church
3) We have a male on the bride's side and a female on the groom's side

You know what... it's our day... I don't care...

TTFN...
D.J.

[*heather*]

Hmm, I guess I think of non-traditional weddings as really far out. We got married on a sailboat, I wore a short dress, we didn't have dancing or cake cutting or throwing of anything, I hung out before the ceremony with everyone, but I still think our wedding was traditional. :)

[*Ashley*]

I think of non-traditional as really far-out too -- I saw a LotR wedding once -- that was definitely what I'd consider non-traditional. The bride wore fairy wings -- it's on WE, called Weird Weddings.

I love the converse idea Ally! LOVE IT!

[Ally]

Thanks Ashley!

[SarahMarie345]

Love this thread!

When I think of non-traditional I think of something away from the norm. Away from the stress...

I am not planning on having a traditional wedding.

1) It is just going to be me and my FH. (I don't want all the drama or the stress of worrying about other people. It is our day. It's just going to be us.)
2) In Vegas. (Although I want it to be simple and beautiful.)
3) no dancing
4) no throwing of ANYTHING
5) comfortable but dressy clothes (I'm thinking a sundress or something..?)
6) no reception
7) just celebrating our new life and on with our honeymoon
) post bridal showers (after the wedding) (I THINK!)


LOVE THIS THREAD!

Sarah

[rowdaminch]

Our wedding started out just being us, our parents, our sisters and their families just hanging out at the cottage. It's gotten a bit bigger: we are inviting aunts, uncles and some cousins and close friends, and having the entire wedding on a boat. I wanted more people there and once I tried on the more traditional wedding dress, there was no going back for me, but there our still things I don't want like bouquets, garters, place settings, centrepieces.
Does anyone have an alternative to using bouquets? I am only having my sister stand up for me, but she said she wanted something to hold. I was thinking of just having a wrist corsage for myself, what do you think?
Any ideas would be appreciated.

[Kari]

rowda, how about candles?

feathers?

a "bouquet" of seashells?

a book? (The Bible, if you are so inclined)

a fan?

There are MAnY options!!

[renee]

Non-traditional is just going against the "norms" of what people think make a wedding. Personally I don't like most of the traditional stuff - for myself that is - but I appreciate others who do it in the traditional style.

I wouldn't say that non-traditional is "far out" or only for gay couples or older couples :lol: It's just not following "the rules" or the guidelines of traditional wedding planning.

Mine will be non-traditionally traditional:
1) Just the 4 of us (me, Ron and the kids)
2) Destination Wedding
3) I will most likely wear a black dress, not long either
4) There won't be unity candles or sand ceremonies and we'll probably write our own vows
5) I will make vows to the kids, and give them also a token of my love for them
6) There won't be any traditional reception or anything like that afterwards

Traditionally though I would like:
1) to have some nice, simple flowers
2) for my step-daughter to have a lovely dress
3) the whole hair and make-up kit and kaboodle
4) If I can convince them, FH and step-son in a smoking black suit
5) Pictures
6) maybe some music (at least one or two songs)


For the rest, VERY much NOT a traditional wedding.