Long Distance Lounge... [Archive]

JerAndKathy

07-27-2006, 10:33 AM

Well, I couldn't recall seeing the LD chat thread anywhere, so figured I'd throw it in here.

Kathy & I are about 10:30-11:00 hours apart, I'm in Ohio and she's in Ontario. Immigration process will be started shortly. What about you?

saraw04

07-27-2006, 10:40 AM

Good idea! Before we were married DH and I were in a LDR for four years. For the first two we were 8 hours apart and the last two we were four hours apart. It was really hard, but we got used to it. Thankfully his mom had unlimited long distance so we were able to talk on the phone a lot. It is funny because now I can't imagine being away from DH for so long. Sometimes he has to be away for a week for work and that is so hard!

I am here for support if anyone needs it! I know how long it can seem, but trust me, in the end it is worth it. I think our relationship was able to grow so much stronger because we could only communicate by phone and talked a lot.

Sara :)

JerAndKathy

07-27-2006, 10:41 AM

And a Question, to get us started...

Have you ever planned a trip to go see yer hunni without them knowing?

I did. :D

She thought I was "at the dentist" all day to get checked out to see if they could deal with a wisdom tooth of mine. Told her that they said if they thought they could do it, they'd want bloodwork and stuff and then set up an appt to come back and get it taken care of. Sooo, didn't know how long I'd be.

I got up early, and hit the road. Made it to Ottawa and called Kathy's friend who was taking her to dinner, said friend (MOH) had to 'make a stop' to 'check on something' before dinner and they pulled into WEBB'S MOTEL. :lol: And it took Kathy a few, but she noticed my van and my chair sitting outside the motel room (there was a hefty step up into the room) and then just did this 'deer in the headlights' thing. :D

The only catch to it all was that the random weekend I picked to pull this all together...The frickin' Grey Cup was in Ottawa. Now, this is like the Super Bowl and World Series of Soccer, all rolled into one. The city was packed. Thus, the reason we ended up at Webb's Motel. Which, by the way, dollar for dollar, is not a bad place.

Krissy

07-27-2006, 10:54 AM

JerAndKathy

07-27-2006, 10:58 AM

Most times drive. We can fly NY to LA cheaper than Ottawa to Columbus, Oh. As soon as you jump borders, the price skyrockets. :( When I go up there alone, I fly - I have to. All of my 'quick trips', tho, are driven. She's flown down here...At least once, maybe twice?

Deidre98

07-27-2006, 11:05 AM

We were in a LDR for 2.5 years. We were about 8 hours away from each other. He always knew when I was coming up to visit but one time he came down and surprised me. I was chatting with him on the phone and as it turns out, he was driving down to see me. Awww....

mrs.g

07-27-2006, 11:09 AM

The last 2 years that we dated were long distance. I was in GA and he moved to the other side of the country to CA for his business. In this case you had to fly because it made no sense driving 36 hours when you could take a 4 hour flight for less $$. He came to see me most of the time; I flew out there a couple of times, mainly because of my job.

Have you ever planned a trip to go see yer hunni without them knowing?
I didn't, but he did and at that point in our relationship, that didn't go over so well. We ended up taking a 3 month break after that (my decision). Then we got back together, got engaged and then eloped! :)

saraw04

07-27-2006, 02:41 PM

Have you ever planned a trip to go see yer hunni without them knowing?

I never did, but DH did at least a couple times that I can remember. The last time he did was a month before we got married. My mom was taking me to go see the musical Movin Out. I was really excited to see it. I got home from work and was starting to get ready and my mom was just taking her time making dinner. I thought it was kind of funny that she wasn't starting to get ready but didn't think anything of it. A little while later DH walks into my house! He surprised me and told my mom he would take me instead. He worked early that day so he could make it in time. He took me out to dinner first and then to the show. It was an awesome night. It was actually his wedding present to me. He had to leave the next day so he could work, but it was worth it! :lovestruck:

Jer - What a cute story!

Sara :)

KathyandJer

07-27-2006, 02:55 PM

When we met we were only an hour apart. But then his boat moved up to ME and we were 2 1/2 hours apart. Still not as LD as some, but since I was in college we saw each other only on weekends. (Most weekends, but not all) But that was soooo hard! I used to cry driving home on sunday nights. I don't know how you guys do it being 10 hours apart.

Do you drive when you see each other or fly?

Crying definitely happens here too - I have alot of time to think on the drive and that's not always a good thing :sigh:

But we're working towards never having to do that again :)

MrsRea

07-28-2006, 09:15 AM

I met my DH 6 days before he was going off to college in 2000. I finally moved down there in June of 2004. We ended up only living there for 6 months and then we both moved back to Memphis and have lived together ever since. LDR are so hard and sometimes are just not fair. I am so glad I do not have to go through that anymore.

Oh during the LDR we were about 3 hours apart.

smiles

07-28-2006, 10:24 AM

The first year when we were together when I was away at college we were 1 hour apart, but only saw each other every other weekend. It's not that far compared to some people. It was tough, but we learned a lot by communicating on the phone. I almost took a job 3 hours away from him when I gradutated college, but I realized I couldn't be that far from him anymore. I couln't do a LDR for very long, I feel for you that have been in a LDR for years.

Have you ever planned a trip to go see yer hunni without them knowing?
nope- we were not to far apart and it wasn't for that long. There were times I would decide to go home at the last minute and see him.

lizaanne

07-29-2006, 08:13 PM

I'm in Michigan, he is in England. Yesterday was our two year anniversary of meeting on a Catholic message board (not a dating site) - two years since I sent that first email to him that changed our lives forever.

After six months of agonizing immigration waiting, we finally got his visa in April. He has stayed in England to continue working and saving money to cover the outrageous costs of moving to another country, immigration, and a wedding.

He will finally be here - for good - on September 1st. I have not seen him since January.

Yes - I know very well how difficult a LDR is. I thank God for Skype, it is a blessing to us, I don't know how I would have gotten through two years without it.

~Liza

lunarmagic

07-29-2006, 10:00 PM

No longer long distance, but was for over 3 years. LONG distance.... all day on planes and airports to get there. (Vancouver Canada to Western Massachusetts US.)

We originally applied for my Fiance Visa in November of 2004. I was expected to graduate in June 2005, finishing my courses in April/May. So we wanted the wedding that summer, and for me to move as well. We finally got approved for the Visa in... March I think? So I booked my flights for the week after my last exam. ;) Moved, frantic planning, got married July 16, 2005, just as planned.

Planning a wedding from a long ways away is not a whole lot of fun, especially when your future hubby doesn't understand that weddings require planning ahead. He got SO lucky on so many things that he put off until last minute (like the freaking CATERER).

QOD: No, we never did any surprize visits... when you have to fork out over $500 per trip for the flights and get only one visit every 4 months or so, you better be darn sure you can spend as much time with them as possible while you're there and that they don't have to work or have exams or whatever. :)

RDC_girl

07-30-2006, 12:13 AM

QOD 1 - Funny story. We both did, on the same day! We lived two hours apart and we must of passed eachother on the highway. I showed up at his parents house and he showed up at my aunts house at about the same time. My uncle told him that I went to see him and his mom told me the same thing. We both laughed. I ended up waiting at his parents house until he came home.

JerAndKathy

08-08-2006, 11:13 PM

We met with our lawyer again. We are filling out his questionairre which he (or his underlings) will use to fill out the official paperwork. We hope to have it finished by the end of the month and have it along with all of the "supporting documents" submitted to him by early September.

Another question:
Had you been in any LDRs before this one? And if so, did you learn anything from them?

I had been in...6 or 7, maybe? Before Kathy. They all had their problems. Serious problems for most of them. When it finally came to Kathy, tho...It just seemed so easy, the day-to-day stuff. Maybe because we were such great friends...Maybe because I had learned how to deal so easily from the others. :dunno: The only consistent hard part for us is the being apart. :(

lunarmagic

08-09-2006, 06:58 AM

Yes, I was in one LDR before I met Den. We never got to meet in person though, because he lived in Australia.... despite that we managed to carry on a relationship for over a year. However... it always seemed like so much work, like you said. By the end he was complaining about feeling "smothered" because I wanted to talk to him every day, I wanted to know where he was going and with whom - not because I worried, but because I wanted to feel like I was a part of his life.

So when Den and I started dating online... I was surprized. In three years we talked every single day, except for when one of us was away without a computer (and even then we'd usually managed to wrestle a computer for at least an email!). We WANTED to. And I really realized that it has to be a two person commitment, or it just doesn't work.

~Sara~

08-09-2006, 09:31 AM

I'm jumping in here too! Jim and I did the LDR thing for two years of our four year long relationship. We were only about 2 hours apart but it was still really hard. It was right after we both graduated from college and he moved home for a job that he found there. It was definitely not a fun time in our relationship but I really think it made us stronger. Not seeing each other during the week made seeing each other on the weekends that much better :heee: We also talked on the phone and computer a lot.

QOD1: Jim did this once. I was working at a bank and he called me right before my lunch break (which was odd because he never called me at work..it was frowned upon). Earlier that morning he had roses delivered and I figured it was calling to make sure they got there. He asked what I was doing for lunch and then told me to look out the window. He was sitting in his car :heee: I only got to spend an hour with him before he had to drive back home...but it was the most romantic thing ever :happysigh: I should have picked up on the hints because the next week he proposed! :jump4joy:

QOD2: Nope..he was my first and only "real" relationship.

saraw04

08-09-2006, 09:59 AM

Another question:
Had you been in any LDRs before this one? And if so, did you learn anything from them?

Nope, DH was my first and last LDR!

Sara :)

Aubrey

08-09-2006, 11:33 AM

Scott and I were LD for about six months when he moved 4 hours north of me; thankfully, we're back living in the same area now. We also were LD for about three weeks when I moved home to Massachusetts after graduating college, but after three weeks of being apart, I moved back to Indiana.

Have you ever planned a trip to go see yer hunni without them knowing?

I haven't, but Scott did, for our proposal! He definitely surprised me that day!

Had you been in any LDRs before this one? And if so, did you learn anything from them?

I've been one LDR with a previous boyfriend; I lived in western Massachusetts (actually not far from where lunarmagic lives now!), he lived in Indiana. We dated LD for the first nine months of our relationship before I transferred schools and moved out to Indiana. A year later, I broke up with him, and soon after that I started dating Scott. I'm happy I ended up moving out to Indiana, as I ended up meeting Scott!

lunarmagic

08-10-2006, 04:58 AM

I lived in western Massachusetts (actually not far from where lunarmagic lives now!)

Hey cool! :D Not many people from this neck of the woods.

mrs.g

08-10-2006, 11:22 AM

Another question:
Had you been in any LDRs before this one? And if so, did you learn anything from them?

Nope, this was my first and only LDR.

lizaanne

08-10-2006, 11:55 AM

First and last for me! :)

~Liza

Renny

08-15-2006, 09:06 AM

Tom and I are in a LDR. I'm in TX and he's in FL (18+hours away). we lived together here in TX then both moved to FL. I lived there 6 months and some stuff came up that caused me to move back to TX. that was Aug 27 of last year :(
We've visited each other 3 times since then, him once here and me 2 times there. we haven't seen each other since the end of March. He's planning a trip here if all goes well Sept/Oct and I'm planning to spend Thanksgiving with him in FL.

neither of us have planned a suprise visit, though he tells me he's going to one of these days (I don't think he will because he's not good at keeping secrets from me).

to me the one thing that helps is the webcam, we leave it on even when we are sleeping so we are together doing our normal routines together. :happysigh:

~Crystal~

08-15-2006, 10:50 AM

How could I have missed this thread??

FH and I have been in a LDR for 4 yrs now. He's from Chicago and I'm California. He joined the army and was stationed in Monterey (45 min. away from me) for a year. That's pretty much how it all began. Then he was stationed in San Angelo, TX for 1 year. Now, he's been stationed in San Antonio, TX for 2 yrs. Last year though he was stationed over seas for about 1 month he was in Germany:( We only communicated through email for that entire month. It was so hard. These 4 yrs have been SO HARD but praise God he got us through everything. Now, we're 38 days away from spending the rest of our lives together:)

Renny

08-15-2006, 12:12 PM

Crystal- will he still be stationed in TX with you moving here?

~Crystal~

08-15-2006, 12:22 PM

Crystal- will he still be stationed in TX with you moving here?

Yes, he has about 11 more months left in his contract so after the wedding I'm moving to San Antonio, TX!!

lizaanne

08-15-2006, 01:18 PM

17 days and my FH will be here! :bliss:

Shipper is coming to pick up his stuff tomorrow, his last day at work is the 23rd, he goes to see his parents in Scotland on the 24th, then to me on the 1st!!

Wow! Over two years, and it's finally all coming true.

I am completely overwhelmed.

~Liza

Renny

08-15-2006, 02:14 PM

Renny

08-15-2006, 02:15 PM

Yes, he has about 11 more months left in his contract so after the wedding I'm moving to San Antonio, TX!!

it is so beautiful there :happysigh: . have you been to TX much to visit him?

KathyandJer

08-15-2006, 02:29 PM

neither of us have planned a suprise visit, though he tells me he's going to one of these days (I don't think he will because he's not good at keeping secrets from me).

to me the one thing that helps is the webcam, we leave it on even when we are sleeping so we are together doing our normal routines together. :happysigh:

Be careful what you say :lol: I used to tease Jer about his inability to keep a secret! Then we went on a date, and well, instead of just being a date, he proposed! :floating: He can keep a secret when it's important :lol:

I know what you mean about the webcam - it helps if I can just sit and look at Jer while I'm doing other things :)

Renny

08-15-2006, 02:57 PM

I would love Tom to suprise me.... soon would be nice :laugh3:

yep I love the cam, we get to eat "together" and clean. we even leave the room or the house and leave it rolling. just like we were int he same house. it had to be the best invention :happysigh: :floating:

KathyandJer

08-15-2006, 08:38 PM

Surprises are nice...but Jer and I talked and even a short weekend "surprise" (or even not a surprise) isn't really worth it - the short trips still cost us around $500 even if we meet halfway...and right now with immigration costs, wedding costs and moving costs? We have to sacrifice a couple of days of seeing each other...so we can work towards never having to say goodbye for a long time again!

Renny

08-15-2006, 09:04 PM

Kathy- I totally understand about cost. trips for us cost a small fortune so surprises just don't happen:sigh: and with gas going up even more I'm afraid planned visits may become farther apart, just pray soon one of us can get moved to whre the other lives. the positive by Nov 10,2007 we will be married and not worrying about this LDR EVER again :happysigh:

KathyandJer

08-15-2006, 10:02 PM

I totally understand! The price of gas is killer on those of us in LDR's!!! First time I drove down to visit friends - we actually went out to Nebraska...and I can remember laughing because a full tank of gas was costing us $11.00! Then as we got closer, the price of gas got cheaper (in Iowa, we got it for $0.89/gallon or something ridiculous like that) - heck that's when I decided I loved road trips so much :lol:

Now, it's ridiculous!

JerAndKathy

08-15-2006, 10:03 PM

Especially for those of us with 30 gallon tank gas hogs! :lol:

Renny

08-15-2006, 11:23 PM

Especially for those of us with 30 gallon tank gas hogs! :lol:

:pointlaugh: sooooooooooooo true

Uma

08-30-2006, 09:31 PM

I'm in a 7000-mile apart relationship with my husband. I saw him last in January and he's arriving this Friday! We're getting married again in two weeks and finally living together after 6 years long-distance.

JerAndKathy

08-30-2006, 09:32 PM

Uma:
Where are ya'll located?

Uma

08-30-2006, 09:33 PM

I'm in Argentina and my husband is from India, but he's living in Seattle now.

Renny

08-30-2006, 09:34 PM

Uma- how exciting that he will be home in just 2 short day :D

Uma

08-30-2006, 09:36 PM

Yeah, I am ecstatic. He's not in the military, we just happened to be from two very different countries, and he's doing his PhD in US while I was studying/working here (and he was supposed to have an arranged marriage in India) so it took several years until we could finally get married. We did so in India last January, and now we'll have two more weddings here and we're done!

Uma

08-31-2006, 03:04 PM

He's already on the plane! I can't believe I'm seeing him tomorrow morning.

KathyandJer

08-31-2006, 05:19 PM

:jump4joy: That's awesome news! Enjoy! Are you all ready for the wedding????

Uma

08-31-2006, 05:21 PM

Well, I don't have a cake yet, and my hairdresser just got pneumonia, and there's no music, etc. But we have two weeks to work on all of this.

lizaanne

08-31-2006, 05:57 PM

Uma! How exciting!!

My FH will be here in less than 23 hours! I can't belive he will finally be home with me!!!!! :bliss:
So I can totally relate to your excitement!

Prayers for safe travels all around!

~Liza

KathyandJer

09-01-2006, 02:30 PM

Liza - CONGRATULATIONS! What an exciting day for you! Are you having a hard time sitting still today? :)

Safe trips all around, definitely!

Uma - everything will fall into place, I'm sure!

Vanessaness

09-02-2006, 04:45 AM

Oh Liza and Uma how exciting for all of us!! Jim just arrived on Friday evening as well from Europe!! Obviously I didnt have nearly as long a wait as you two but its exciting none the less! :)

I'm so happy for you both.

KelciAlexandra

05-31-2007, 04:09 PM

hey i just found this and i think its so neat! and it also makes me feel better that im not the only one in a LDR!

so currently im in california and fh is in mississippi. . . its been like this for the past 5 months and in that time we've only been able to see eachother for about a week. . .

usually we're only about 2 1/2 hours away from eachother because i go to school in new orleans and he lives in mississippi

and right now its lookin like the next time we'll get to see eachother is july or august :(

Renny

05-31-2007, 06:09 PM

KelciAlexandra

05-31-2007, 06:17 PM

:hug: I know how you feel. We were in an LDR for a year and a half, while I hated the distance it taught us a few things such as having to communicate and that we really did want to spend the rest of our lives together.

If you ever need to talk just look me up.

thanks :) . . . it feels really good to know that there are other LDRs and that theyre succesful. . . for a really long time i thought me and fh were in that "weird" catagory with our relationship because we've been apart more than we've been together

KelciAlexandra

05-31-2007, 06:31 PM

so i was readin all the past posts and for
QUESTION 1: i randomly show up at fh's house all the time lol (well when im in nola). . . usually someone there will know that im coming by but they dont tell him so its a surprise. . . he doesnt have the forethought to plan a surprise but its ok cause it makes me happy just to see the look on his face when i walk through the door

QUESTION 2: ive had 2 previous long distance relationships. . . the first was with my first serious boyfriend. . . we were working at a camp together and when it was over i moved to louisiana and he went back to the uk. . . it eventually just fizzed out into a really good friendship. . . the 2nd would have to be my "first love". . . he was a marine. . . broke my heart. . . and after almost a year of not talking we settled our differences and are now on good terms. . .

ive learned from my past relationships that it is very important for both sides to work equally at it otherwise its gonna end at somepoint

Renny

05-31-2007, 10:22 PM

Nope I think yall are almost in the "norm" catagory now :giggle: So many people are meeting online and even living in different countries that it's really common now. Our LDR ended 2 days before the wedding and I'm still getting use to one of us not leaving after a visit but it's a wonderful feeling that it's true ;)

Renny

05-31-2007, 10:24 PM

ive learned from my past relationships that it is very important for both sides to work equally at it otherwise its gonna end at somepoint

That's the key wether it's an LDR or not.

KelciAlexandra

06-01-2007, 01:04 AM

Nope I think yall are almost in the "norm" category now :giggle: So many people are meeting online and even living in different countries that it's really common now. Our LDR ended 2 days before the wedding and I'm still getting use to one of us not leaving after a visit but it's a wonderful feeling that it's true ;)

i guess with the way i was raised (my mom dated a lot and never anyone more than an hour away) i always thought that LDRs werent real relationships. . . more like penpals. . . i learned thats not true. . . and me and jared (fh) met through mutual friends (his cousin was dating a girl that i know) and originally we were only suppose to be more than 2 1/2 hours away from eachother when i went home for winter break and because of a car accident i was in i had to move back to california for most of 2007 :mecry:. . . we talk everyday for at least an hour on the phone and we usually text eachother ALL day. . .

QUESTION: has anyone ever felt uncomfortable about your SO being so far away and having other women in their life (friends, coworkers, ect)?

saraw04

06-01-2007, 09:00 AM

Hi Kelci! You are definitely not alone. DH and I were in a LDR for 3 1/2 years. It definitely takes work but it is worth it.

As for your question, I was never uncomfortable at all. I guess DH didn't really have that many female friends around him so I didn't have that much to worry about. I trusted him enough to not have to worry. We talked every day as well and told each other everything so it was fine.

Sara :)

Renny

06-01-2007, 08:14 PM

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QUESTION: has anyone ever felt uncomfortable about your SO being so far away and having other women in their life (friends, coworkers, ect)?

I will admit there were times when insecurity would creep over me and I would get a bit freaked, but then I had to realize that I was away from him and around guys so if I expected him to have trust in me I had to have total trust in him. Normally that would help me. I was also very honest with him about being insecure and he would talk me through it.
We had web-cams set up on our computer and had those on daily and all night while we sleept just so we could see and hear each other. We both slept with a light on just for the cam :giggle: We would sometimes sit and talk but we also did normal daily activities like laundry, shopping, eating (which we tried to eat meals "together"), napping, watching TV (which we would watch the same shows so we were doing that together) and the cameras would run the entire time so we could check in on each other, the only time the cam was off was when one of us was at work. That helped alot with making the 1300 miles not seem so far apart. I totally recommend computers w/cams for LDR's it was the best for ours.

lunarmagic

06-03-2007, 04:03 PM

No, I was never concerned about DH and other women in his life... I mean, he doesn't really hang out with many girls anyways. But with my husband I guess it never occurred to me to worry. (With my XBF, who was also long-distance, I worried all the time!)

bri'sgrl

06-19-2007, 06:33 AM

:jump4joy:i'm glad i found this thread it'll help me out as well my fh is a truck driver he's always traveling we met online in 2003 been friends ever since and we became more than friends this yr mar.25 did alot of :kiss2:,:cuddle:,:laugh3: :sappy: it was more like a date then meeting for 1st time he kissed my forehead i grabbed him & kissed him 5-6 times long passionate ones :happysigh: i knew right then i wanted to spend my life w/ him :giggle: 2nd time we seen eachother we :kiss2: in the rain it was soo romantic

saraw04

06-19-2007, 08:58 AM

Welcome bri'sgrl! What a sweet story! I am originally from WI. Does your FH live near you? It must be hard having him on the road all the time. Do you ever get to go with him?

Sara :)

bri'sgrl

06-19-2007, 09:12 AM

thank you sara and no he's from tx so no he don't live near here but i get to see him once a month he's training so i don't get to go yet it is hard but i you all & his family to help me out

US_UKlove

06-19-2007, 11:11 AM

I feel silly for being a late comer to this thread! DOH!!!!

We've been doing the LDR thing for 3 1/2 years now. We met online (via a Rush message board!) in 2004. He first visited me here in the US about 8 months after we met. I've been to London 4 times and he's been here 3 times.

He finally got his visa last week and should be moving here in 3 weeks or so. :) We are SO ready for this part of our lives to be behind us.

Its very challenging to be in an LDR, but we never had any trust issues. What was harder for us was if the other person was going through a hard time, the only thing you could do is say 'I'm sorry'. Sometimes it would have been nice to hug him and BE there, you know?

And ditto what was said earlier about webcams. We use Skype, too, which has been a major lifesaver (as well as a penny saver!).

bri'sgrl

06-19-2007, 11:20 AM

:agreesign: to just be able to hug our guy when we wanted would be nice

Renny

06-19-2007, 02:06 PM

I learned alot though our LDR and honestly wouldn't trade it because it helped us grow and become closer.

Melinda- I'm glad you found this thread, I was having a :duh: moment by forgetting to tell you about it. Sorry!

saraw04

06-19-2007, 02:17 PM

I agree. Our LDR helped us to be closer in the long run and really appreciate being able to be together. It definitely helps with communication.

Sara :)

bri'sgrl

06-19-2007, 08:45 PM

I learned a lot though our LDR and honestly wouldn't trade it because it helped us grow and become closer.

Melinda- I'm glad you found this thread, I was having a :duh: moment by forgetting to tell you about it. Sorry!

:rofl: i needed that laugh ty:glomp:

KathyandJer

06-19-2007, 11:23 PM

He finally got his visa last week and should be moving here in 3 weeks or so. :) We are SO ready for this part of our lives to be behind us.

CONGRATULATIONS! That's incredible news!!!!!!!!! :woo:

QUESTION: has anyone ever felt uncomfortable about your SO being so far away and having other women in their life (friends, coworkers, ect)?
Definitely. Not anymore, but when Jer first moved into his own place, he had a female roommate, and he had staff assisting him that were all females. It bugged me no end because when we'd talk, alot of the conversation would be about them (of course - he was just getting to know them!) and I found myself extremely jealous of those ladies because they got to spend every day with Jer and I was stuck on the other end of the computer hearing stories! Now it doesn't bother me...but again, the communication thing is so important because I was able to talk to Jer about it :)

Communication - it's all we have in our LDR (for the most part) but it's soooooooooooooooooooooooo important in ANY relationship! I will never be sorry for everything that we've had to go through, but I will sure be glad when this is over!