Single Again Too!

[coffeeaddict77]

I have been on this site for years (and several boyfriends!). A couple times I thought I had found *the one* but here I am 31 and looking!

Background on me: I am Alli, 31, living in Chicagoland. I have 2 cats though I dont think Im the crazy cat lady (yet). I work a high stress job that requires me to travel quite a bit. I have officially no single core group of friends. My last single girlfriend is getting married in 3 weeks.

Well I just ended a 1.5 year relationship a few months back. I am *seeing* someone new but realize I just hate the whole 'dating games' thing.

Dating has just gotten so much more complicated in the past 10 years!!

I am also considering doing Eharmony or something of the sorts, but have not pulled the trigger yet.

Anyway just wanted the other single or newly single girls to know they are not alone!! Plus I need an outlet for dating advice and vents! lol

[RDC_girl]

well I am here :)

[Heather107]

My best friend who just got married last weekend met her husband on Match.com. They are from the Chicagoland area, so there are normal and nice people around you! :)

[::Amanda::]

I me my DH online. No shame :)

[~Arielle~]

:word: I met my FH online :) I was dating a guy and he told me that a friend on his just moved back to GA and he wanted me to find his friend a date and gave me his AIM name. I started talking to FH and that was the end of it... we are going on seven years now :)

[Deidre98]

DH and I met almost 10 years in an AOL chatroom and now we have been married for 18 months and have a 3.5 month old son. I hope things go the way you want them to!

[coffeeaddict77]

Thanks for your support guys! I am not a very *confident* person with dating! I am great in a relationship but this waiting around makes me nuts! lol

Have a great weekend!

[Becki]

Hi Alli :wavey:

I recently went through the whole "becoming single" thing myself after a 9 year relationship (and short marriage) to a guy I met randomly on AIM chat back in 1999. Back in August I decided for kicks to sign up for eHarmony when they had a 3 months for the price of one deal. I met my current BF 2 days later and we just celebrated our 7 month anniversary.

I was not looking forward to dating again after so long. I've never been really good at it and after a really rough year my confidence/esteem was shot. It wasn't easy to make that first step.

You'll be able to do it though :yes:

[coffeeaddict77]

I signed up on eharmony..problem is the payment. Right now im not ready to pull the trigger for 100 bucks. I am giving myself another week! Of course there are 30 matches out there Im itching to talk to!

I am still really interested in the guy im seeing but I would like to have some *options*.

Thanks for the insight Becki! It is nice to know someone who actually used eharmony and met someone great!

[Becki]

I wouldn't pay $100 either. I think I paid like $30 or something like that when they offered a special. Check online for coupon codes or deals that are being offered and then sign up that way.

Though if you are still liking the new guy, I say just see where it goes and don't worry about what else is out there :shrug:

[coffeeaddict77]

Yeah the coupon would help. im hoping they have a special soon. The best deal I have found is the 6 month one.... I am all about searching online coupons! lol

I am going out tonight with the new guy. I had asked to him to a wedding a few weeks back and he had a semi negative reaction. will bring it up again tonight. its in 2 weeks!

Dont you think after seeing one another for a few months going to a friends wedding isnt a big deal?(none of my family will be there).
:-)

[Becki]

Ha! I'm going to a wedding in Denver this June (see ticker) and I asked the guy I'm dating back in like December, lol. We'd only been together for 3 months :giggle: He didn't however ask me to a wedding he went to in November because he thought "it was too soon".

Hey Alli, have a journal?

[coffeeaddict77]

I will start a journal I think :-)

So I revisited the wedding invite and it wasnt super well received. he wants me to go to this comedy show that friday night but I have the rehersal dinner. I dont think i will make it out in time. I just emailed the bride (im standing up in wedding) and let her know im probably coming alone and to not kill me.

I guess I cant force someone to go with me?? I mean I have met his mother for crying out loud! what is the big deal?? I am hurt to say the least. I really dont get it.

Should I start a journal in the new member section?

[Becki]

It might help people get to know you better in the new member section, but you've been around a while technically. I think it is up to you :)

I'd be hurt too if someone just didn't want to go.

[Mel]

i hope the bride is understanding!
and i'd say probably in either the new member section, or life journals as long as you toss a link in your siggie so you are more easily findable! i do like the idea of new members though b/c even though you've been around its good to meet some more ppl and thats what that is there for!

[Becki]

As usual, I need to agree with Mel ;)

[coffeeaddict77]

Am I crazy...where is the new member deal? Now that the site has been re-arranged I cant seem to find it.

I have been a member for a long time when UW existed. Obviously failed engagements/relationships has me *single* again!

[Mel]

nope, i can't find them either... lemme ask kate (who did the rearrange) and i'll let you know!

eta - she delted it b/c it wasn't really getting much use. i would suggest starting a journal and linking it in your siggie, and maybe even posting a new introduction thread to put yourself out there to the community in your new place in it - that is of course, all only if you want to!

[alexandradegross19]

I have been on this site for years (and several boyfriends!). A couple times I thought I had found *the one* but here I am 31 and looking!

Background on me: I am Alli, 31, living in Chicagoland. I have 2 cats though I dont think Im the crazy cat lady (yet). I work a high stress job that requires me to travel quite a bit. I have officially no single core group of friends. My last single girlfriend is getting married in 3 weeks.

Well I just ended a 1.5 year relationship a few months back. I am *seeing* someone new but realize I just hate the whole 'dating games' thing.

Dating has just gotten so much more complicated in the past 10 years!!

I am also considering doing Eharmony or something of the sorts, but have not pulled the trigger yet.

Anyway just wanted the other single or newly single girls to know they are not alone!! Plus I need an outlet for dating advice and vents! lol

I'm single.. ahaa.. would you?.. :aww: