Just SEND in the *#$%@ CARD!!!!

[Kari]

I have been sitting here stewing for an hour. Our RSVP deadline is in TWO days and we still haven't gotten responses from HALF the effing invites that we sent out. I purposely set the RSVP date for a week before final numbers were due anticipating that I would have to make *some* phone calls, but this is RIDICULOUS!

I have been around these boards a looong time. I have sympathised with brides over this issue. I have expected us to deal with it to an extent but HALF of the invites? That is just flat out rude.

:ohreally:

[septbride]

Sorry to hear that :( I haven't gotten quite that far yet, but I can only imagine how stressful that can be waiting for all the responses. I could only imagine how mad I would be :hissyfit: I think that is just rude of people to not take into consideration that you need a count. Good luck with the rest

[*heather*]

I hear you sister! You think when you send them out, Oh, that won't be my super polite and wonderful guests! And then it is...you'll get several within the week, to be sure. And the rest you just have to buckle down and call...mer.

[*TanyaJeanne*]

Kari I am going through the same thing! Mine are due tommorow...we invited 300 and only 90 people came back....
im so pissed too :(

[carolinalady67]

That is rude! How hard is it to put a check mark on the card and put it in the mail? Hope you get LOTS the next couple days to cut down your phone calls.

[nikkiana]

From what I discovered, a lot of people misunderstood me when I said send them back by blah blah blah date. They thought I meant POSTMARKED by that date, not me recieving them by that date.

[*heather*]

They think it's like the April 15 tax deadline...*mail it* by then, and you're fine...:laugh3:

[lk718]

Ugh, that sucks. It's so easy to throw an envelope in the mail. That's so inconsiderate!

[Kirsten]

Wow. My deadline isn't until 8/18 and my wedding is before yours. . . but we've gotten RSVPs from about 1/2 the people so far, so I keep hoping I won't have to do so many cards.

I sympathize with you. . . maybe people are still trying to make travel arrangements and don't want to send the card in until they're 100% sure they'll make it?? I know, I'm stretching here but I want to give some of the yay-hoos the benefit of the doubt.

:hug99:

[Kari]

Kirsten, my venue/caterer required final numbers 30 days in advance, hence the early RSVP deadline. I have to give the numbers to the caterer on the 9th.

[Kirsten]

Kirsten, my venue/caterer required final numbers 30 days in advance, hence the early RSVP deadline. I have to give the numbers to the caterer on the 9th.
Wow. I had no idea some venues would need a 30 day advance. I guess you really do learn something new every day. . . .

Hmmm. . . if I lived closer I'd volunteer to help call. I just can't figure out why your guests won't RSVP. It's not like you didn't give them plenty of notice when the wedding would be.

[Maria 05]

people always RSVP at the last minute Kari.
"Of course you know I 'd be coming"
What they dont know is brides send crystal ball to the cleaners and the bride's retina detached in my third eye leaving me with no second sight coming up to the wedding. It is a shame because that is when its most needed.

[angie]

Ugh. I can't understand why responding to a RSVP is so hard. Look at your calender. Is anything going on? If nothing is going on and you can afford the trip, than you ought to know if you're going or not. What's the big deal? I know this will drive me crazy when it's time for me to wait for the RSVPs.

[~Tala~]

Try not to worry so much about the invites---I know how frusterating it is...most of mine came in a week after I asked!! My SIL had the same thing happen last month...hers all came in the last day. People just wait until the last minute, unless of course they are planning a wedding themselves or have recently done so! Good luck!

[Maria 05]

well if the rsvps dont come soon I will come out there and hit them with my hammer :hammer:
http://xs204.xs.to/xs204/06311/angry157.gif (http://xs.to)

[Stitch's girl]

Some people just don't get it, including my dad! I gave him and my mom their invitation last week (very early, but we had them done, so I saved later postage by handing it to them), and my dad later asks my mom, after looking at everything, "Why did she give us a response card to send back- she knows we are coming?" So he calls to ask me why I would waste a response card on them... I was like "Hey, I am not psychic- did you notice there were MEAL CHOICES on it!!!" :laugh3:

[Kya]

Well, Kari some people just don't know the meaning of "Time waits for no man."

And when they find out why the are not accounted for they will know why.

[Katnye]

Ugh! How rude! I'm sorry you are going through such a frustration. I've never been able to understand why so many people don't send them out on time.

Send 'em my way...I'll take care of 'em. :ohreally:

[Kari]

I got TWO today. *sigh*

People SUCK!

(thanks for all the support ladies)

[Kya]

"Time waits for no man" (*hint hint*)

This is your day and they should realize how special this is for you and Dan. So if they don't see the importance this is for you, then I do not know what to say.

[Kari]

I hear ya, Kya. Time may not wait, but the caterer may not cook either...

:rolleyes:

[yogi_deuce]

Kari I promise as soon as I get the invite I will RSVP. Oh Heck just mark me down for one. I will fill out the RSVP when I sign the guest book.

[Kirsten]

You could always call people up and say "I know you're coming but the caterer wants to know for sure."

Yeah. I'm a PITA.

[Kari]

Kirsten, here is the problem...

I don't think any of them are coming. I think they just don't want to say NO.

Colita, I WISH! C'mon down girlie!

[wendy9879]

It's such a waste of postage if guests don't mail back their rsvps! :disbelief:

[lizaanne]

I am so fortunate that I don't have to give my final count till a couple days before the date, but I set the send back date 30 days prior so HOPEFULLY I won't have to deal with this.

I send back RSVP's the next day when I get them from someone. I mean, come on, either you are going or your aren't. Unless you are the Queen or something, and some massive social calendar to consider, why is it so darn hard to put a PRE-STAMPED CARD in the mail!!????

Honestly!!!!!

~Liza

[Kya]

Have anyone sent anything to you yet Kari?

[Maria 05]

:hammer2: I am willing to help here Kari want me to come over

[Kari]

2 emails and a phone call. We are going to start calling people tonight

[Maria 05]

You will need this
:hammer: here you go

[lizaanne]

I got a call from a friend today, he said that he is "not sure where there life will be on that date"......what the heck is that supposed to mean???!!! He's only known about this wedding date for months and months!!!

Sheesh.

~Liza

[walleye3]

Kari,

Then you get the joys of phone tag and everything. I spent about 3 hours trying track down people last night. I know exactly what you are going through right now. :banghead: :hopmad: :banghead:

But if yours are scared to tell you know, use this one :ohreally:


:) good luck with it! ;)

[*alissa*]

I luckily didnt need a final count, just a general idea, because we never got back over half of them

[-->Kat<--]

I feel your pain... I think I'm going to have to start calling people as our date has already passed. I was getting one a day since then, but we didn't get any yesterday. So what do you say when you call? :dontknow:

[Andrea]

WOAH...my mother is a caterer...why such an early date?

[Kari]

Because that is how they do it. I didn't ask why. I just said okay.

[Cindy]

Kari, I hope that you are able to find out if your guests aren't coming. You have enough to worry about without that situation!

If I were closer, I'd help you call!

[SueMartin]

people forget that they arent the only ones invited.. and the only ones not to have replied...

[mswordwiz]

I feel your pain Kari, if I was closer, I would call for ya too! EMAIL, CALL, and pound on doors..8)

[Celeste&Bill]

Uggh, I feel for ya..Ever since my wedding, this has been one of my biggest pet peeves..Not RSVP'ing!! There is a REASON for it!!

It even annoys me when people don't RSVP for my daughter's bday party :shuffle: