Inner Envelope Confusion

[MalibuStacy1982]

So i'm a tad confused. I'm at the point now where we're getting ready to send out invites...this Saturday actually!! And i still havent written the informal names on any of the inner envelopes because i've been dreading it. I feel i dont have pretty cursive handwriting, so i will be printing them, i feel better about it and if someone (invitee) wants to get all huffy about it then they can just not come.

Here's my question...well, let me set it up...

I realize the outside envelope should have the persons formal name i.e. Mr. & Mrs. Lastname. I also realize the inner envelope should have the persons informal name i.e. Tom and Sally, but i'm confused about what to do with, say, my grandmother. The outside says Mrs. Tom Lastname (my grandfather recently passed away, thats why its only Mrs. not Mr. & Mrs., just to clarify) but my mom is telling me instead of putting Sally on the inner envelope i should put "Grandmother."

Is this correct??

[~Sara~]

I think on ours I did put "grandma", or whatever I called that person. I think it makes it more personal :yes:

[jillian]

I just put the same name I put on the outer envelope. That's what my little guide told me to do.

[carolinalady67]

I would put Grandma, just the same as on my parents I put Mom and Dad, I don't call those people by their first name so and just couldn't imagine using them in a case like that.

And don't worry about your hand writing ... I never write cursive, don't know how! :caught:

[Mimzy]

My understanding - the inner envelope should less formal but still with their names.

EX:
Mr. & Mrs. John Anderson
John and Mary Anderson

BUT - if you Call them Mr. & Mrs. Then it would be:

Mr. & Mrs. John Anderson
Mr. & Mrs. John Anderson

For Grandmothers, Aunts ect -
Still the first and last name but NO title.


:shrug:

[Angela]

I did it the same way as Mimzy. For example, my grandmother's outer envelope was Mrs. Jean D. Her inner envelope was Mrs. D. However, if we were inviting younger kids with their parents, on the outer envelope we did Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, then on the inner we did Mr. and Mrs. Smith, then underneath it, the first names of the kids. :shrug:

[Sk8ermaiden]

I would put grandma as well.

[MalibuStacy1982]

So i'm gathering its which ever i feel more comfortable with, there isnt really an etiquette rule for it?

[~*Kate*~]

There probably is an "official" etiquette rule, but rules are made to be broken. :) The only rules I'd really worry about are the ones that might insult or inconvenience guests, and like Mimzy suggested-- if it's someone you call Mr. and Mrs. to their face, you'd use that on the inner envelope anyway.

[Sk8ermaiden]

There probably is an "official" etiquette rule, but rules are made to be broken. :) The only rules I'd really worry about are the ones that might insult or inconvenience guests, and like Mimzy suggested-- if it's someone you call Mr. and Mrs. to their face, you'd use that on the inner envelope anyway.

This is exactly how I feel too!! If it's a rule of formality or tradition, break it!! If it's a rule designed to make sure everyone is happy and comfortable, then stick to it.