Addressing STD & Invites??

[Lori]

I know save the dates are more informal so I've just been addressing them by their names (no mr. or mrs.) and putting whoever we are closer to's name first. For example at my moms salon I'm inviting some of those girls and putting there names first since I've never even meet there husbands.
I'm also not putting kids names on the envelope.But it got me wondering...

I'm not very strict on etiquette, but when it comes time for the invites how should I be addressing these? Always the guy first? I want to include the womens name too. Like I don't want it to be Mr. & Mrs. Smith so does that mean it would Mr. John & Mrs. Jane Smith?

Also since I'm not having an inner envelope I was planning on doing "and Family"
I know its bad... but for example my uncle has 7 kids and I don't want to try and fit that all on one envelope.
I think it sounds like too many "ands" if I put Mr. John & Mrs. Jane Smith and Family. Or would that be correct?

These Save the Dates just got me thinking... since everyone I ended up addressing a Different way, some with the womens name first some with the guys lol good thing there is no proper way to address them...atleast thats what I looked up and found out :)

[MrsAbi]

I did my STDs the same as I'll do my invites. We put Mr. & Ms. James Smith. Single guests with dates had Mr. James Smith (next line) Miss Sarah Doe.

For the families, to avoid "and"s, you could make them out to The Doe Family.

[katieandalex]

I'm not having inner envelopes on my invites, and I'm addressing them "Mr and Mrs John Smith & family" on the front....its probably not whats proper, but I really don't care. I don't really like how Mr John and Mrs Jane Smith looks....so I would maybe say being really informal and just putting John and Jane Smith & family....but its completely up to you.

[lmhcmm]

For those of you not having inner envelopes, how are you going to deal with the "& guest" situation??

[Lori]

For those of you not having inner envelopes, how are you going to deal with the "& guest" situation??

I was wondering about this too! I'm glad that you asked. Because I just got an invite to my cousins wedding with no inner envelope addressed to only me. She knows I'm getting married to David, you would think his name would be on there. I was confused thinking he wasn't invited. But I guess she just didn't know his name. If someone is in a commited relationship, I will for sure find out their names... but if they aren't I don't want them to think they can't bring a date by not putting and guest on the outside. hmm...

[kate]

For those of you not having inner envelopes, how are you going to deal with the "& guest" situation??


We were going to solve this problem by putting

We have reserved _2_ seats in your honor

on the RSVP, but we have since changed our RSVPs so now I doing know what I am going to do-

Anybody have a suggestion?

[belle67]

We were going to solve this problem by putting

We have reserved _2_ seats in your honor

on the RSVP, but we have since changed our RSVPs so now I doing know what I am going to do-

Anybody have a suggestion?
I had an inner envelope and I still did this. I know that there sometimes can be surprises with people bringing others and I definitely didn't want that to happen!