She's OUT!!!!

[Mandy]

So, my FH is over at his sister's house right now trying to explain to her that she is no longer in our wedding. I'm sitting here on pins and needles wondering what's going on. He left me at home because he thought it might get a little messy over there and that I do not need to be in the line of fire.

Basically the story is that she was given a deadline in which to purchase her BM dress. She's had the money, but she'd pissed it away on various things. She kept trying to push me back and stall getting the dress, but I finally put my foot down and said 'ENOUGH!'. She's apparently been begging everyone else for money and when they say no..she gets pissed! She DEMANDED that her DH buy her dress...when he said no, she threatened to leave. She's a 19 yr old selfish brat who can't hold a job for more than a week and expects everyone around her to pick up after her. She's got a bad habbit of writing bad checks and we think there may be a warrent out for her arrest. She's got 2 adorable children who are the apples of our eyes, but she uses them to get what she wants.

I'm sorry--I guess I just really needed to vent. I'm so upset that she's been yanking us around...I'll just be happy as soon as I know she's out for sure and I can have someone I really want in our BP. I know it sounds harsh, but this girl just sucks everyone dry.

:firemad: :banghead: :hammer2:

[Coze]

Hi hi-

*Huggles you tight* I hope that everything goes okay...

TTFN...
D.J.

[nikkiana]

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this, Mandy... But hopefully with a little tough love, she'll learn to be more resposible with her money and that people aren't always going to be there to take care of things for her.

[Mandy]

Thank you ladies! I hope I don't sound like a crazy beech, but I've had it with her. FH just got back and he told me it went better than we expected. She said 'That's fine, but I want to be something special'. I got really annoyed with that because since we've been engaged, she's tried making this wedding about her. Now she wants us to reward her behavior by shining a spotlight on her?! Nope!

And as I am typing this, FH's mom called and apparently his sister is talking a ton of trash about us. She was nice when FH was there, now she's gone psycho. Oi. I can't handle this girl. Thank goodness I don't need to deal with her in my BP anymore! I'm having my sorority little sister step in!

[Coze]

Hi hi-

Don't give another thought to her and let her talk trash... it really just makes her look bad. I'm glad that things went well while he was there... just shake the dust off your boots and keep going. The rest will take care of itself... as for having her do something special... hmm... I would really have to think about that.

TTFN...
D.J.

[Kari]

If she wants to be something special, tell her she can attend as the Grooms sister.

[Mandy]

:laugh3: :pointlaugh: Kari, you must know my FSIL!!

Well, now my ILs have found something NEW to beech about...my bridal shower. They knew it was going to be a little more on the 'adult" side since this is also my bachlorette party. They've had their invite for over a week and they are JUST NOW starting to talk about how horrible of an idea it is. It's in such bad taste and all that. I'm so over it now...I just told them then they were welcome to RSVP "no". Thank God we're moving away from these people soon!

[Christa]

At least your FH is taking care of it for you

[Andrea]

ouch hunny im so sorry....TOUGH LOVE IS WHAT ITS GUNNA BE

[SueMartin]

sounds like the FIL's believe she is just wonderful.. good thing you are moving

[*Diane*]

Oh I can relate to how you must feel (more than you can imagine!). Sorry that you are having to go through this but you have a good guy in Chad. At least he is standing up for what is right and for you. :clap:

[Maria 05]

Poor darling I noticed that you already borrowed my hammer any way sweetie here let me help there
:hammer: :hammer: :hammer2:

[Mandy]

:hug: Thank you ladies---it's been quite the week!! FSIL has continued to be a pain in my rear. She's convinced that because she can't be a bridesmaid, that we should make up something she can do so she has a spotlight. Normally, I would kinda roll my eyes and make up something, just to keep the peace. But she's asking me to make sure SHE has a spotlight on MY wedding. I'm no bridezilla or anything, but she just assumes she's the most important person in the world for this wedding. I'm already stressed and fusterated, so I'm just sick and tierd of everyone trying to impede on us...we've already gotton everything done and we're ready to walk down the aisle.

Chad's step mom is even worse. I wont even get into her. She's been insulting my mother (who she's met twice), she's been talking really bad about me (I've never been anything but kind to her), and she's telling everyone she meets that she's not sure whay we're bothering with the wedding, everyone knows it wont last anyway. Yeah. We've been together almost 4 years, through and LD seperation and everything...but we wont last. What a b#%^*! I'm just so fed up with her. She's a drunk and she's absolutly terrible to FH and his sisters. Chad is talking to his dad and letting him know that if he doesn't control his wife, they're both not welcome at our wedding. He should be able to stand up to his wife and defend his kids/grandkids...but he never does. That's just as bad in my book.

Okay, I'm off my soap box now! :) Thanks Maria...your hammer has been mighty helpful! I know I must sound like a complete nasty person, but I've been putting up with this stuff for 4 years and I've been quiet and nice about the rude comments and drama, but no more. Chad and I are our own family and we'll be trying to start having kids right after the wedding...the last thing we need is our future children exposed to this kind of petty behavior. Okay...promise I'm done now! :)

[Maria 05]

Mandy you do not sound like a complete nasty person you just sound like you are frazzled and annoyed with petty small mindedness. :hammer:

[Kelly]

:hug99:

[RadishWife]

I think you did the right thing letting your FH tell her she needs to bow out. This is your Fsil so dont be too quick to completely burn the bridge with her, maybe say something short and sweet to her to get your point across like "we have everything covered so all you have to do is come to the wedding (smile and leave it at that)" I think at this point you need to stop thinking about it and stay firm, a) she could not afford to be a BM b) You have a wedding to worry about and not petty stuff like that.
Your wedding is going to be great just think about that... you only have one wedding like this.

[Jaci]

Mandy, I do not think you sound like a nasty person, I'm so sad that you have to deal with all this. I hope it gets better before the wedding :(

[*Ashley*]

If it makes you feel any better I would've lost it a looonnggg time ago.

And I can guarantee my mom would have been ready to kick someone's A$$ by now. Your mom is very passive if this woman is insulting her.

Sounds like some white trash if you ask me. People with no tact or who care for anyone else but themselves.

[Naima]

:bighug: to you, for having to deal with crap.

and :bighug: to your FH, for putting his new family first and defending you. That is fabulous.

[MemphisMom]

Don't let her do anything in the wedding, she is being a brat and you don't need it! As far as the in-laws and the party, if they are uncomfortable, it's easy enough to NOT attend, end of story.

I would stay as far away as possible until the wedding, you don't need their drama!

[Mandy]

Thank you ladies!! Unfortunatly, staying away from FSIL and her temper tantrums is pretty hard--we live in a SUPER small town, so we see WAY too much of her. We're trying to keep our door closed though. She came over the other day complaining about how her life is so hard because she's got 2 kids and can't take a shower without them around. Chad was pretty pissed because she's trying to have another one, so he basically told her she has no right to complain when she's tryinng for ANOTHER one. She got all huffy and left--but we could care less. I rolled my eyes. She knows we're trying for our first, so she thinks this is some sort of race to see who has a baby first. Whatever.

Thankfully--we move in a month, so I don't need to deal with her attitude much longer!! :)