Are STDs worth it?

[angie]

I can't decide whether or not to do STDs. 75-80% of our guests live within an hour or so of our wedding site. I'm not getting married during a holiday week or during a busy vacation time. Part of me thinks it's a waste of time and money since our OOT list isn't that high. Part of me thinks we ought to do it just to give everyone a heads up. What do you think?

[destinationbride07]

I say if the cost of them out weight you needing to do it and if the wedding is coming up then don’t worry about it. The only reason I did is b.c. 1, I am having a DW, and 2 my fiance’s family are scattered across the US, 3 I only talk to my immediate family on my mother’s side. But it seems like your family and friends are close and you guys talk. I did not send STD’s to like my cousins, sister, and folks I speak with on a regular and that saved me money.

[*heather*]

Maybe you could just send them to the people who are travelling to your wedding? Sending them to 20% of the guest list shouldn't be cost prohibitive, especially if you make them yourself, or order inexpensive postcards (or postcards from the location where the wedding is).

STDs aren't necessary. The people in your area will hear by word of mouth, and if you're not getting married on a holiday weekend or anything, then you can certainly get away with not sending them.

[Stitch's girl]

We sent them to everyone, but mainly because we are getting married on a Friday... but we also only paid $12 for them (Michael's print your own!) If you can do it inexpensively, its a nice thing to get.

[soulmates]

We're sending them for a couple reasons:
1. we've been engaged so long some people in my family didn't realize the wedding is next yer
2. his family is horrible at making plans, his aunts were joking that his dad and brother (the best man) won't make it on time.

[lizaanne]

I wish I had not sent them. Two reasons:

1 - We had to change our wedding date, of course it was after they went in the mail, because immigration just took longer than we expected.

2 - We have changed our guest list slightly, and now I have to invite some people who got the STD's, which I would have otherwise changed my mind on (work associates).

~Liza

[*Ashley*]

I wish I had not sent them. Two reasons:

1 - We had to change our wedding date, of course it was after they went in the mail, because immigration just took longer than we expected.

2 - We have changed our guest list slightly, and now I have to invite some people who got the STD's, which I would have otherwise changed my mind on (work associates).

~Liza

I never thought about it that way Liza...that's a good point (the second part)

Hrmmmm. decisions, decisions.

[Theresa]

Even though about 85% of our guests were from OOT, we didn't do STDs. I'd actually NEVER heard of them until I got on-line and they weren't considered normal for my social circle - so we didn't do them. We got our invites out at the very beginning of April, and guests had until May 21st to get their reservations at the hotel. I can't think of anyone who didn't show because they didn't have enough notice :dunno: So, I think STDs are fine if you want to do them, but I certainly don't think they're necessary. And worth the money? I don't really think so...

[MsJessica07]

I'll probably do some for those that are out of the country (Canadian cousins) and those that are on the East Coast (FH's mom's sisters), but probably not more than that. Most other people will be able to get their acts together, or already know about the wedding! :)

[Lori]

I'm doing them. Because, they were cheap and turned out really cute :) I'm getting married on a sunday so I thought it would be nice to do. If you are getting married on a saturday and no holidays around, I'd say don't do them unless your really want to. Since as Liza said, you might change your mind between when you send the STD and your wedding. I know I have thought about that.

[Christa]

We're not doing them.

[jillian]

We're not doing them. I hadn't heard of STDs before UW so I'm assuming my guests don't know about them either.

[*Sarah*]

I'm thinking if I do them it will only be for the few people that are OOT. I'm planning to send an email letting people know we have a wedsite so they can find out the date then and still have enough time to make arrangements if necessary. To me, its just one more thing I can save some $$ on if its not mandatory that I do them.

[-->Kat<--]

We sent out STD magnets because our wedding is on the Sunday of Labor Day weekend. We got lots of compliments on them and my sister even said that if she gets married again, she wants to get them too.

[PurpleFlower]

we are doing save the dates because:
1 we are having the wedding on a Friday and a non-holiday weekend
2 a lot of our families live around the country
3 We have been engaged for 1 1/2 years already.
4 I like them, I think it is great to be able to let people know so they can plan accordingly!

I Prob. won't send them to people who I am not to sure about in the end (such as work buddies, They know by mouth anyway)

[nikkiana]

I didn't do them, but I'm sorta wishing I had... At least to the guests on FH's side of the family, anyway... By the time the invitations went out, a lot of FH's relatives had already made plans to do other things in that time period and weren't able to come...

[Alice]

Am I the only one who still instinctively reads "STD's" as "Sexually Transmitted Diseases"? Makes the title of this thread a little more interesting...

Just me, then? Okay... ;}

I don't think we're going to do STD's. I've never, ever received one, & from what I've read they're only really necessary for destination weddings or if you're getting married on a holiday or some other time when a goodly portion of your guestlist might be planning to be elsewhere (Football season, maybe? ;} ).

If you're really in love w/ the idea of STD's, & especially if you get a good deal on them, then by all means send them... but chances are that the people who you reallyREALLY care about (family, close friends) already know that you're getting married and are going to save the date w/o a cute little card and/or magnet. ^_^

[lizaanne]

Am I the only one who still instinctively reads "STD's" as "Sexually Transmitted Diseases"? Makes the title of this thread a little more interesting...

NO!! I read it that way EVERY TIME!!!!! :hysterics:

~Liza

[rowanmayfairs]

We didn't do STD's..

Never heard of them until I started seriously wedding planning..

Reasons why we didn't do them..

1. We got engaged in Dec.. Getting married less than a year later.
2. We didn't start doing any actual wedding planning until late April
3. The guests we knew would show (all except a few) all live within a couple of hours drive. James sister is the farthest away ..she lives a good 8-10hrs away in Illionios.

Would of been a huge waste of money and time.

I love the IDEA of them and some are so CUTE..but just wasn't practical for us :)

[KathyandJer]

Am I the only one who still instinctively reads "STD's" as "Sexually Transmitted Diseases"? Makes the title of this thread a little more interesting...

Just me, then? Okay... ;}




Definitely not just you - what's with wedding acronyms - STD's and BM's? Not cool :lol:

[Angela]

After doing them with our Christmas cards last year, I think they were a waste of my time. The few people who have responded as not coming are because they'll be on a cruise that week!! They knew last November when the wedding was, and still made other plans. I figure the really important people in our lives already knew what the date was anyway, and wouldn't miss it for anything.

[lalalola]

I am seriously considering doing STD's. About half our guests (100 people) are from out of province (minimum travel time is 4 hours) and I would just like them to be able to start preparing and pre-book hotels and get time off work. Plus the city that we live in always has something going and a couple of the hotels are already prebooked and the wedding is 11 months away. The cost for 100 personalized (with phto) is $60 off ebay, so I think that is a fairly inexpensive thing to do.

But I am undecided!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Alice]

Definitely not just you - what's with wedding acronyms - STD's and BM's? Not cool :lol:

LOL! I'd almost forgotten about the BM's! :D

We really are a strange little subculture, aren't we? ^_^