To old for getting married?

[FutureMrsS]

Ok, so i'll be 25 soon VERY SOON.. and not even engaged! i feel so behind!
I always thought of myself getting married at 25! and not even engaged...
Im not looking forward to my 25th birthday at all!

So, We are getting married when im 27... Gosh... i just already feel old.... and i feel im way behind getting married and i want kids =0(
Im wondering if im silly for feeling this way??????

[Sabby12s]

I guess my biggest advice for you, and I'm sure you've heard it before, is to not rush into getting married and having kids. If you pressure your partner into these things before he/she is ready then it will end in feelings of resent. That being said, getting married and having kids is not a race.

[Maria 05]

Goodness no! You are not silly for feeling like this feelings are valid and its sometimes a case of Oh my Gosh I can't believe I am this old. 27 is not too old to be married. 127 maybe. You need to relax. Getting married is a huge step and not one to take because you are motivated by fear. Even now some people have a genuine fear of being "on the shelf" this is not wrong but something to be aware of. Are you getting married because the fears are all consuming or is it just now and again you get the heck when did I grow up?

Dreading your 25th is something I would worry about for heaven's sakes you are still young and most people have a uh oh to a much later birthday than 25. This might be worth exploring with a trained professional if it has become a sorce of anexity and dread for you.

Please be gentle with yourself what you feel you feel its how you deal with the feelings that is important for you and your SO

[Deidre98]

I have a friend that is getting married for the first time at 30 but honestly, she spent most of her 20s in school and partying and just didn't find the right guy. I don't think it matters how old you are when you get married, as long as you find the right person to be married to and to share your life with.

[SugarBunny]

I understand how you feel, but you are not getting too old. I have had the same worries. I just had a birthday, and my younger sister is married and pregnant. I feel like everyone else is pairing off and starting families, but me. I think 27 is still young enough to get married and start a family. ;)

[Mel]

:word: to d.

[Angela]

:word: to the other girls. We were 23 when we got married and 25 when our first daughter was born, but if we had waited longer I (probably) would've been OK with it. We're 27 now and I don't feel much older than I did at 23.

[FutureMrsS]

thanks!!!!!!!!! lol..
Turning 25 for some reason is taking a toll on me! but he is super supportive! ..
And we agreed not to get married till 2013. for career reasons! :) its really hard not to tell my bf what im thinking or feeling..but he always makes me feel better! :) we are very open with each other. i always though of myself getting married when im 25 so, childhood dreams! lol :).
and NOOOOOOOOOO babies for us! we were not thinking of them until we were in our 30s! lol:)

[FutureMrsS]

Goodness no! You are not silly for feeling like this feelings are valid and its sometimes a case of Oh my Gosh I can't believe I am this old. 27 is not too old to be married. 127 maybe. You need to relax. Getting married is a huge step and not one to take because you are motivated by fear. Even now some people have a genuine fear of being "on the shelf" this is not wrong but something to be aware of. Are you getting married because the fears are all consuming or is it just now and again you get the heck when did I grow up?

Dreading your 25th is something I would worry about for heaven's sakes you are still young and most people have a uh oh to a much later birthday than 25. This might be worth exploring with a trained professional if it has become a sorce of anexity and dread for you.

Please be gentle with yourself what you feel you feel its how you deal with the feelings that is important for you and your SO

I dont think a professional would need to be needed. I have talked to my family and tell me its normal my mom felt like this on one of her birthdays.. But i am gentle with my SO. we are just VERY open with each other. We are not ready to get married yet. career wise we need that first. But i had a timeline for my life and it just didnt go how i expected it too exactly!

[Sabby12s]

But i had a timeline for my life and it just didnt go how i expected it too exactly!

What's that old saying? We make plans and God laughs.

It's definitely good to have goals, but life happens. It sounds like you'll get everything that you want you'll just have to wait for it a little longer than you planned.

[*Hiz Princess*]

Age ain't nothing but a number...

[Angela]

What's that old saying? We make plans and God laughs.

It's definitely good to have goals, but life happens. It sounds like you'll get everything that you want you'll just have to wait for it a little longer than you planned.

Seriously. I was adamant that I was NOT having kids and I'm 3 weeks away from popping out the second one. :rofl:

My older cousin has a hard time sometimes because she's not married and doesn't have any kids yet. She has her days when she thinks she's done something "wrong" because I was married and had kids first. Let me tell you, there are days I'm jealous of her - she's got to worry about herself only, not three other people. I love my life and my family, but what I wouldn't give some days for the freedom of being single (and not having the expense of kids ;)).

[*Ashley*]

You're young! I got engaged when I was 25, married at 26 (DH was 28 when we married) and I look back and think "gosh we were young."

I planned to have my first child before I turned 30, and we just started TTC and I turn 30 in just over a month. Every plan I have ever had has flown out the door, beyond graduating college before getting married and being married before having children. Life never works out exactly to plan :)

On another note, I dreaded my 23rd birthday. But because of that stupid song with the line "Nobody likes you when you're 23." I'm that cool ;)

[FutureMrsS]

aww ashley! Thanks :)// I'll be 25 soon here..... But dont think he will ask until late 2011 or in 2012 lol.... he mad it pretty clear not for another year....but thats okay....LOL

[angie]

I was 36 when I got married for the first and only time. My friend from childhood is getting married next year for the first time at 40. You are too young to be thinking you're too old!

[FutureMrsS]

thank you angie! i just worry! lol