Register for a Renewal?

[mrsmartin91]

We got married April 9, 2010. Nobody knew we had gotten married until months after because of family drama, but now that everyone is good again we are having a "wedding/renewal" for our one year anniversary. We didn't register nor recieve any gifts for our marriage at the JP. Is it okay to register or is that tacky?

[*Ashley*]

I don't see why not, honestly, but that's just me. If you didn't register for anything for your initial wedding, and you're inviting people to a wedding and reception, even if it's a renewal, I don't think it's tacky. This time you're allowing people to celebrate with you, they couldn't before.

[SueMartin]

Ashley, I agree. it isn't like you are asking twice.

[*Diane*]

I am a little "iffy" on the idea. However, you have been married only a short period of time. Have any of your friends mentioned throwing you a shower? If so, register for a few things. Even if they haven't, I don't think it is wrong to start a "Wish List" but definitely don't publicize it unless someone asks you. Lots of people keep a running "Wish List" on Amazon or Bed,Bath & Beyond so it wouldn't be perceived that you are throwing a renewal just for gifts. Obviously you are having a vow renewal because you want to share the joy of your marriage with all your loved ones and friends, not to get gifts but you want to make sure that there is no chance of giving that impression.

[Robyn]

My DH & I eloped almost 9 years ago, & we are having a renewal for our 10th. we are still undecided as to registering as well. I think, because you`ve only been married so short a time, you should be able to register. As you said, your family doesn`t even really know you were married, so to them, this IS your wedding & not a renewal. I say go for it!

[jillian]

I'm leaning towards no registry since you have already "set up house" with DH. but, like Diane said, there's nothing wrong with having a wish list and directing guest to it if they ask.