New Traditions? [Archive] - Must Love Weddings

SueMartin

07-11-2006, 11:44 PM

Let's talk about adopting new traditions... do you plan on adopting your ( you & DH's) traditions or are you going to keep on with your family or his family's traditions?

we have had to make new traditions, especially around the holidays.. Breakfast on Christmas morning turned into Supper Christmas eve.. come on.. SHARE!!

Deidre98

07-11-2006, 11:49 PM

We are going to have to share traditions. One tradition of my family that we are keeping is crab dinner on christmas eve with my family. Christmas and Thanksgiving we are going to have to alternate because our families live too far apart.

*TanyaJeanne*

07-12-2006, 12:01 AM

One thing that Chris's family has to do...that I will never do is eat BLOOD soup!! They *HAVE* to have it every year on Christmas Eve. I think its made out of Goose or something?? *shivers* It's so gross........

Emily

07-12-2006, 12:17 AM

whoa...wait a minute. It's actually real blood???

SueMartin

07-12-2006, 04:47 AM

Yuck.. I'm hoping its Borscht ( beetroot soup) or something.. is it?

Angela

07-12-2006, 10:28 AM

Hmm....I've gotta think about this one! We will do Thanksgiving with his family every year, and Christmas with mine. We're thinking of taking Christmas Eve over from my aunt starting this year!!!

*TanyaJeanne*

07-12-2006, 03:41 PM

I will have Chris come in here later tonight or I will try and get a hold of him to see what is all in it. But I am *pretty* sure it's real blood from something.

Melly

07-12-2006, 03:46 PM

We are pretty much sticking to the traditions our families had before.

His family does Christmas Eve and mine does Christmas Day so there's no conflict there. As far as other holidays go he's always had to work so his family isn't used to him being around anyway. If he does happen to get off we spend it with my family as my parents only have us in the area and his Mom has her entire family local.

*TanyaJeanne*

07-12-2006, 04:13 PM

Ok I called chris and this is what is in the SOUP

*Goose Blood
*Prunes
*Dumplings
*All Spice Pepper Balls

*GAG ME*

walleye3

07-12-2006, 08:27 PM

Ok I called chris and this is what is in the SOUP

*Goose Blood
*Prunes
*Dumplings
*All Spice Pepper Balls

*GAG ME*

Don't forget, there is also actualy goose meat in it as well and to qualify what Tanya said, it actually only have a couple of table spoons of blood in it. ;) I myself have never had it, it is not something that is appealing to me. My family makes it at Christmas time always and occassionaly they have it around Thanksgivving as well, depending on who is having it that year. :)

*TanyaJeanne*

07-12-2006, 08:39 PM

:thumbsdown: It's still NASTY!

walleye3

07-12-2006, 09:36 PM

:thumbsdown: It's still NASTY!

I agree :)

lunarmagic

07-12-2006, 11:35 PM

Back to the original question.... ;) We've adapted a few things here and there. Christmas is really important to me, so I've really imposed a lot of my family traditions on my husband... things like stockings get opened first and are always full, and we get up early in the AM to do our own little gift giving thing (and the pets are always included!). And since our families live so far apart, we alternate... so one year we'll do my family and their traditional dinners, and then the next year we'll do his family. Oh, but I won the fight of the tree topper, I get my star. :D

I'm not sure what else. We've created our own traditions for a lot of things... none of the other holidays is really big for us.

nikkiana

07-12-2006, 11:42 PM

I have a feeling that Thanksgiving will be spent with his family from hense forward and Christmas will be spent with my folks... Thanksgiving is a MUCH more important holiday in his family than it is in mine, and Christmas is a more important holiday in mine.

*TanyaJeanne*

07-12-2006, 11:54 PM

BJ'sBabyGirl

07-13-2006, 07:28 AM

My family is never happy about this but his family always gets us on Thanksgiving. Bruce's birthday is November 23 which is usually on or right near Thanksgiving so we celebrate both at the same time. The other holidays we make plans with the first family to tell us what the plans are. Usually his family wins because mine decides the night before.

Jaci

07-13-2006, 03:20 PM

I can tell you one thing we aren't doing, we won't be opening Christmas presents one at a time so that everyone can watch you react (at the horrendous sock that Grandma decided to pull out of her "everything drawer" and give to you). No siree thank you.

SueMartin

07-14-2006, 08:53 PM

sometimes its hard to understand WHY some families put you through such torture , isnt it?

Winter_Bride

07-15-2006, 02:06 AM

I love this thread!!

Our Christmas eve traditions were completely incompatable. I was born right before Christmas. I came home from the hospital Christmas eve. Suprisingly enough, neither of my parents wanted to cook a turkey. Instead, they thawed a lasagna that was in the freezer.

For the past 23 years, we have had Christmas Eve Lasagna.

DH's family does their full-out Ukrainian Christmas meal that night. It's really the only Ukrainian tradition (even though it's on the wrong date) DH grew up with. The tradition is 13 meatless dishes.

So our new spin? 14 meatless dishes. One of those being Christmas Eve Vegetarian Lasagna!!!

Jaci

07-15-2006, 02:07 PM

I love your way to mix the two traditions! My FH is Ukranian also, but they don't have any traditions except they do cook some of the dishes all year round. I love borscht!

KathyandJer

07-15-2006, 03:00 PM

Thankfully, Jer and I don't have to worry about Thanksgiving - we will (hopefully) be invited to my family's for Canadian Thanksgiving (in October) and (hopefully) be invited to his family's for US Thanksgiving (in November). Then we have to deal with Christmas, which we've already starting alternating years, so we'll just keep up with that. The way things are going, our first Christmas as a married couple will also be coming back to Canada... which will be nice, because it will be my first Christmas not being at home beforehand :)

oupiglet

07-16-2006, 09:10 PM

I was raised Jewish, though I do not practice my religion now. Mark doesn't believe in organized religion, but likes the tradition of having a tree in the house on Christmas. I love Christmas trees, but it just doesn't feel right to have one in MY house. Last year (the first that we lived together) we got a faux palm tree. So now we have our "festive holiday palm" that gets decorated with mostly football, vegas, and animal themed stuff.

Cindy

07-17-2006, 09:50 AM

We will probably do Christmas and Thanksgiving with my family, since his is spread out over Nebraska and Colorado. His daughter came and spent Christmas with us this past year, so I'm sure that that will happen for either holiday. I want her to go to her mom's too. She's 19, so she will have to make the decision herself, but she knows she is always welcome at our house.

*Stacie*

07-19-2006, 02:20 PM

I love your way to mix the two traditions! My FH is Ukranian also, but they don't have any traditions except they do cook some of the dishes all year round. I love borscht!

Fellow Ukrainian over here :D Borscht is my FAV!!!!

Our families celebrate the same holidays the same way pretty much. Thanksgiving we get to go to both our families for (we usually celebrate on the sunday, while his mom does it on the monday) and Christmas... well, this will be a toughy because I want to be with my family and I'm sure he will want to be with his... so... we'll see how it goes in December.

Jaci

07-19-2006, 02:22 PM

*waves* We went to a family reunion on his side and it was the first chance I had to learn about his family and the Ukrainian traditions. We won in a silent auction an embroidered table runner that we will be using in the wedding (though the wedding is a Scottish wedding) and our rehearsal dinner is going to have Ukrainian foods. I'm pretty excited about it. I even told FH that we will have two dancing children, one will do Highland dancing and the other will do Ukrainian dancing! Or maybe they'll do both :)

rowanmayfairs

07-21-2006, 03:47 PM

We are going to stick to current traditions of our families. We will make new ones when we have kids.

MrsRea

07-26-2006, 01:55 PM

It has been a little difficult with us and holidays. I have always gone to my dads for thanksgiving. My DH went with me one year and that was several years ago so I think we are going to try and go this year also. His mom isnt to happy about it but oh well.

Then Christmas, my tradition with my mother is I have to go to her house on Christmas eve and spend the night. We usually drink wine and play games. We get up early and do christmas breakfast and then open presents. Then later in the afternoon we drive to his moms and do christmas.

Im sure it will all change when we have kids.

yogi_deuce

07-26-2006, 02:39 PM

We have our own traditions after this long. We celebrate with our kids the morning of the holiday. We have been lucky enough to live away from both our families so there is no conflict of schedules. We do not travel on any holiday anymore. When DH was on the ship, we would fly to where he was in port and celebrate the holidays in a hotel. It was kind of fun for awhile.

*Sarah*

08-22-2006, 02:09 PM

We are still adapting our traditions to what will work for us. Its especially tough since we're so far away from our families. Last Christmas we both flew to MI and spent Christmas Day with our respective families. I hated being away from him and we vowed we weren't going to do that again.

This year we aren't planning to fly home so it'll be just us. Since we don't know FH's bowl game details until too late, its just not worth the stress to find flights, etc. I'm sure we'll have to figure something out when we have kids but for now, that's how its gonna have to be.