Shower for destination wedding?

[MostlyMel]

I'm sure this is a silly question but is it okay to have a bridal shower if we're having a destination wedding with only our parents, siblings, and one best friend each? Even though I wouldn't be the one hosting it I still feel like its wrong to ask for gifts if none of those people are invited to the wedding. Would you or have any of you done this?

[Kristie]

Are you going to be having a reception or get together when you get back from your Destination wedding? Something that everyone else can come and celebrate too...

[MostlyMel]

Yeah, we were planning on doing that. Of course now my mom is freaking out and really doesn't want us to go away at all. She says that my aunts (her sisters) will be all upset that they're not going with to the wedding.. and that she thinks us going away is a bad idea, etc, etc. Because now she doesn't really want to have to save up money to go away somewhere, and FH and I were just wanting to elope just the two of us, but she hates that idea as well. I know it should be about what we really want, and not them... and what we really want (and have been planning for all along, and our wedding is now in less than 4 months), is to go away. But now we're all of a sudden not sure if we're even going to do that at all.. but anyway, if we do, then yes we want to have a reception at a later date. So is a shower still acceptable?

[MemphisMom]

If you are inviting the shower guests to an in town reception after the wedding then I think it's OK to invite them to a shower. The shower guest=wedding guest rule would seem to be one that could be broken in this case.

BTW, you need to plan the wedding that YOU want and don't let family pressure you into what they want. Your aunts etc. can celebrate with you at a reception if they cannot attend the wedding. Just smile and keep planning what you want!

[Emily]

I had multiple showers, destination wedding and small reception when we got back....It never even occured to me that it's not normal...just because you go "non traditional" with the wedding doesn't mean you aren't a bride and you shouldn't get to do all the fun bride stuff

[destinationbride07]

I am having one well sort of.....i am not having a reception when i get back but this will be very laid back...just like a bar be que and i am inviting men and women....the whole family lol lol

[saraw04]

A friend of our family just had a shower on Sunday and she is getting married in Mexico over Thanksgiving. They are planning on having a reception when they are back. I would think it would be fine. You are still getting married, just in a different location.

Sara :)