Ever have a crush? [Archive] - Must Love Weddings

Krissy

09-16-2006, 01:55 PM

Now, I know most of us are happily engaged or married here and I'm sure you're very happy with FH/DH and love him and are attracted to him etc. That's not what I'm getting at here.

But just cause you're taken, does that mean that all crushes stop? And I don't mean on famous people either.

DH and I had a talk about this a while ago. I'll tell you what I think in a little bit.

Marion

09-16-2006, 01:57 PM

I dont think crushes stop... I think you dont act on it... :heee: but I think crushes are normal. :)

Krissy

09-16-2006, 02:06 PM

I totally agree with you. Just cause you're taken doesn't mean you're dead!

I have a little crush on a guy in my Tae Kwon Do class. Bob totally called me on it a while ago, but I denied it. (I felt silly.) It's no big deal but I know I would be interested in him if I weren't married. He's so nice, so I'm trying to find a girlfriend for him! lol Bob and I got to talking about how we think crushes are okay and just mean you're healthy and normal! It's how you react to a crush that can make it detrimental to the relationship.

smiles

09-16-2006, 02:28 PM

I also don't think crushes stop. You're still the same person you were before you were dating, engaged, and married. The thing is once you're taken you don't act on the crush. They're normal. The only thing is if the crush would be obsesive, and you were obsesing over the crush more than FH/DH that would cause problems.

belle67

09-16-2006, 03:10 PM

I have only one crush and it is on a TV star! :lol: Every one in awhile I even dream about him. :floating:
But if I ever did have a crush while I was with FH I would never ever act on it. FH and I don't believe in cheating. We have been both cheated on before and we know how devastating it can be so we wouldn't do that to each other.

Theresa

09-16-2006, 05:30 PM

Do I think it's wrong to have a crush when married? Heck no. Do I think it's wrong to act on one when married? Hell yes.

I will come out and say that I haven't had any crushes since falling in love with DH. When I think about the crushes I had before I met DH, I can't really imagine having one now. I just can't imagine a man that would be as or more attractive to me than my DH (physically, emotionally, etc.).

Jaci

09-16-2006, 11:21 PM

I've got crushes. Boy do I ever have crushes. On one person in particular, someone I've had a crush on since forever and a day, and even now when I see him I turn all read and get all giggly. Does that mean I'd ever act on it? Shoot no. Does that mean I regret not acting on it before I met FH. Heck yes!

sweetiez

09-17-2006, 03:52 AM

omg haha i have a crush now.. *lmao* some guy i work with but no way in hell i'd ever do anything ever cause i lovvve my fh. plus i dont see me lasting with anyone else but fh his my soulmate.
but yes crushes do have them from time to time..hahaha

Andrea

09-17-2006, 08:46 AM

Im with Theresa...is it wrong no, wrong to act upon TOTALLY!

Im also with Jennifer, Damian and I think its totally wrong to cheat. Geez if you're not happy just dump em haha but i would hope that it would never get to that.

Anyways, Ive always, since I was 10 years old had a crush on this guy named Allen. I do h ave pictures of h im in my journal. I sit back and think about it. Im COMPLETLY happy with Damian. I would never act upon the crush and even honestly, if i wasn't taken, I still wouldn't. HAHA allen is such a nerd i dunno...so maybe its not a crush. He's just a great friend and we get along sooooo well. He's very protective of me...same with matt

Krissy

09-17-2006, 10:39 AM

OMG, I don't think anyone was talking about cheating here girls. Just innocent crushes. Nothing anyone would act on.

Jaime

09-17-2006, 12:23 PM

DH would come to church with me more often if he knew that I drool over Jeremy, the 19 year old directer of our Praise Team every Sunday! :hehe:

There is also an adorable boy at work, he is like, maybe 18, and he is so cute. I think he has a crush on me too :laugh3: But since he is half my age, somehow I don't think DH is concerned :rofl:

Harmless crushes are okay, however, if you are driving past your crush's house or something, that could be a little overboard.

Jaime

09-17-2006, 12:25 PM

I think my BIL is cute too. He is an asshole, but he is cute :pointlaugh:

nikkiana

09-17-2006, 03:26 PM

I think crushes are normal, and as long as you don't act upon them and you're not being more obsessed with your crush than your FH/DH, then they're not really a problem.

I know I have one guy friend that if both of us had been single when we met, I would have totally been interested in him. He's a dear friend now, and as I've gotten to know him, I think we're probably MUCH better off with our significant others than with each other!

RDC_girl

09-17-2006, 11:04 PM

Andrea

09-18-2006, 08:24 AM

haha kitty you got me thinking...theres this guy that i work with, ive only been her just over a month and he started about 2 weeks after me but anyways, his name is darren and he's one of them tall dark and handsome ones LOL haha anyways, he's sooooooooo quiet but me im to shy when i meet new ppl

Jaci

09-18-2006, 10:55 AM

So is this weird?.... I have a crush on my female ASL teacher. I talk about her all the time to people I know. To me she is an amazing woman and so understanding, and is there if you need to talk to someone. I guess she is like a second mother for me and maybe that is why I have a crush on her :)

I don't think that's weird! I have girl crushes all the time. There is a girl at LA Weight Loss. She's 19 and just the cutest thing ever.

Kathy

09-18-2006, 11:12 AM

I wouldn't call it a crush but there's definitely a guy that I think is super cute - I've never met him, saw him for the first time when I was 16, and turns out that FH knows him and thinks he's a jerk. But I don't care if he's a jerk - I just think he's cute! :hehe:

Andrea

09-18-2006, 01:08 PM

oh come on know kathy...jeres just being protective...he prolly idolizes the guy ;) LMAO

Jaime

09-18-2006, 02:33 PM

Oh I have girl crushes all the time :hehe: I have a girl crush on someone here, actually! :heee:

Krissy

09-18-2006, 03:51 PM

I've had one girl crush that I can remember. This girl in highschool. She was just so......original. I guess it wasn't so much a crush as I just wanted to be more like her.

DH has way more man crushes. I swear if he were a chick he would be all about Zack Braff. He just thinks he's soooo funny, and once in a while he'll try to say something to sound like JD. I told him last night, "Just admit it, you have a mancrush!" But he wouldn't.

Jaci

09-18-2006, 04:13 PM

hahhaa, a mancrush!

Kya

09-18-2006, 04:18 PM

Lot of crushes here also, and I know Marc has too!

If acted upon alot of people forget, that is more lust then a crush!

Emily

09-18-2006, 06:12 PM

I have a huge crush on the guy that does the floors at work...sometimes I just sit and watch him scrubbing those floors :loveydovey:

*Ashley*

09-20-2006, 11:43 AM

I think they're okay. Michael has a mancrush on Tiger Woods because of how incredible an athlete he is, I think it's funny. Tiger is a great athlete!

I don't have any crushes on anyone -- I just don't see anyone else that I fancy :)

US_UKlove

09-20-2006, 11:49 AM

Very relevant topic for me. My best friend and I had a slight falling out on Monday about this. I was telling her about a certain guitarist that I think is fabulous (even my fiance makes fun of me about him, ha), and said rhetorically, 'Is that so wrong??'

She emails me back and says 'Yes its wrong.' LOL I was totally flabbergasted, esp. since this girl was drooling over Sammy Hagar at a concert we went to this summer!

Anyway after I picked my jaw up off the floor from that, she said 'I'm not preaching, but all I'm saying is its a slippery slope. Whether the person is attainable or not.'

I had to respectfully disagree with her. I think that is horses***. The ONLY way (to me) it is a slippery slope is if you don't have the proper perspective, or if you don't truly love your significant other - neither of which apply to me. I said exactly that back to her and she never responded.

I'm still mystified how she got to this conclusion, and why she felt it necessary to share with me in that manner.

Poloke

09-21-2006, 08:18 AM

Crushes are fine-married or not. You aren't dead just cuz your married. Acting upon those crushes tho is a big NO NO.

Everyone loves eye candy, and sometimes its the personality that gets you too.

US_UKlove

09-21-2006, 08:34 AM

Right on, miss_sparky!! :)

Gemini13

09-21-2006, 09:36 AM

I have a major crush on the mailman here at work!! That man is just tooooo damn sexy!!!

Of course, I'm not the only one. I have a friend that works down the street and she thinks he's hot too. He's a "fill-in" mailman so we don't see him every day. But, when we do, we call and and warn each other that he's coming. It's hilarious!!!!

We're both old married women, what do you expect???

The Fed-Ex guy is pretty cute too. EVERYONE in town has a crush on him. However, our daughters were good friends in high school so I got over that one. There was one time though, I thought the girl's mom was dropping her off at my house but I was wrong, the Fed-Ex guy brought her and was standing in my living room. Here I was in a hoodie sweatshirt, hair in a ponytail, no makeup, no bra, it was pretty bad. I tried to make my husband go in there but he wouldn't. He was laughing at me and saying "What?? You don't want you're little fed-ex man to see you looking like that?!" I was so busted!!! He thought it was funny!!

Crushes are normal whether its on your honey or someone else. Unless, like someone said it, becomes obsessive!!

Venus

09-21-2006, 11:21 AM

The Fed-Ex guy is pretty cute too. EVERYONE in town has a crush on him. However, our daughters were good friends in high school so I got over that one. There was one time though, I thought the girl's mom was dropping her off at my house but I was wrong, the Fed-Ex guy brought her and was standing in my living room. Here I was in a hoodie sweatshirt, hair in a ponytail, no makeup, no bra, it was pretty bad. I tried to make my husband go in there but he wouldn't. He was laughing at me and saying "What?? You don't want you're little fed-ex man to see you looking like that?!" I was so busted!!! He thought it was funny!!

Crushes are normal whether its on your honey or someone else. Unless, like someone said it, becomes obsessive!!

When I worked at the casino we always had our paychecks delivered by FedEx and I think every female in the place could appreciate our FedEx guy. On delivery day I dont think there was an empty window anywhere and what was worse was this guy had the most buff legs and Im pretty sure he knew it, cause it didnt matter what kind of weather or what the temperture was, he always wore shorts. :eyebrows:

Raychel

09-21-2006, 04:48 PM

Kya

09-25-2006, 12:16 PM

Oh I have definitely had crushes since FH & I have been together.

We're all human...like it has been said...as long as you aren't acting on those crushes...who cares.

I probably wouldn't advise discussing them with your SO either but yeah lol
Marc and I discuss these topics all the time.

Thinking out of the box you know type of thing, currently his is Angela Jolie and Carmen Electra.

I don't mind though.

Emily

09-26-2006, 08:07 PM

Marc and I discuss these topics all the time.

Thinking out of the box you know type of thing, currently his is Angela Jolie and Carmen Electra.

I don't mind though.

:rofl: ....my husband has a thing for Carmen Electra too!!! she is one of his "free passes"

Krissy

09-27-2006, 05:19 AM

She's hot! Heck, she'd be one of my free passes too! ;)

Raychel

09-27-2006, 08:53 PM

Marc and I discuss these topics all the time.

Thinking out of the box you know type of thing, currently his is Angela Jolie and Carmen Electra.

I don't mind though.

Eh I meant more along the lines of if you have a crush on a co-worker or somebody tangible in which you could technically act upon that crush.

Naima

10-01-2006, 07:31 AM

I'm married, not dead. It's fine to have a crush. It's fine to have little daydreams. And that's where it ends.

MrsRea

10-02-2006, 10:59 AM

Yea I have had my crushes and it sucks! LoL...it does because I know if I was single I would be all over this person. But since I am happily married and wouldnt ever do anything to hurt DH, you just get to daydream. He knows about a few of my crushes.

I dont know of any of his.

RDC_girl

01-16-2007, 11:07 PM

We have this pepsi guy at work, I dont know his name but i call him Pepsi. I am always like... Hey Pepsi, hows it going...

He comments, Hey Walmart girl. He is so cute, but I would never do anything about it. He is eye candy, thats it.

I still have my female crush on my teacher, she is so awesome.

*Kim*

01-17-2007, 01:09 PM

i have had crushes on a few people both when in a relationship and out. when i am in a relationship, thats all that they are, simple crushes. i wouldnt do anything to act on them because like it was said before, that would be moving more towards the lust than crush.
the guy that i am seeing right now has actually been my crush for 6 years. we dated before (6 years ago) and then broke up. since then he has been my crush. after i seperated from my ex and he from his, we started seeing each other after realizing that we both had the same feelings.

mrs.g

01-17-2007, 01:22 PM

I have a crush on one of my delivery guys. He delivered lunch today. He's SO HOT!!!!!!!!!!!!! :drool:

Just cause I'm married doesn't mean I can't window shop. :lol:

MsJessica07

01-17-2007, 01:49 PM

I daydream about a guy in one of my classes...but I'm aware of it, and just sort of know that it's there when I see him, but it's just a little nothing.

Kathy

01-18-2007, 10:57 AM

I used to have a sorta crush on a teacher who wasn't too much older than me (he's actually only a year older than FH) ... and it kinda resurfaces whenever I see him, and I get all blush-y and stuff :lol:

Jaci

01-18-2007, 11:25 AM

I'm all for crushes, and not acting upon them. I dunno though, now with Mr. Timberlake single, Chris might have to watch out! :hehe:

Kristie

01-18-2007, 02:25 PM

Do I think it's wrong to have a crush when married? Heck no. Do I think it's wrong to act on one when married? Hell yes.

I agree! I've had crushes since being with DH (come on people, it has been 10 years!) but to tell you the truth I havent' had any since we've been married. Doesn't mean I wont get more crushes, I just dont have any at the moment :)

KelciAlexandra

03-23-2007, 02:23 AM

Krissy

03-23-2007, 08:21 PM

this is kind of ironic that i found this thread today because yesterday i sent an email to my ex (aka first love) telling him that i still thought of him a lot and that i was uncomfortable about it since i am now engaged and asked for closure (our relationship ended kinda messy)

Ummm, yeah, you may want to work on that since you're getting married and all. When I say crush, I mean harmless, "It'll never happen" kind of crushes. Sounds like yours is one you should deal with before the big day. How long has it been since you broke up with the ex?

serda23

03-23-2007, 08:55 PM

:shhhh: I have a crush on Trin. And Kayleen. And Tanya, and Mandy, and Kate, and Erie... I think I have a problem.

Seriously though, I agree. There's nothing wrong with a crush, and it's not like it's something you can control. When you like someone, you like them, and that doesn't mean you are going to run away with them and make babies or anything. Besides, flirting (like the silly banter kind) is way too much fun to give up on. As long as you know your limits and aren't leading the other flirter into thinking there is actually any chance of something happening. (I know the thread isn't about flirting, but crushes pretty much always lead to flirting. Intentional or not!)

RDC_girl

03-23-2007, 10:27 PM

Still have the same two crushes. lol.

Pepsi guy now has a name... its Kurt. it suits him :) My teacher texted me today asked me to go to the Home and Garden show with her and her husband lol. Should be fun

MsJessica07

03-24-2007, 04:37 PM

My crush from school is going out to student teach, and I won't see him again until probably the last week of school...if ever again. Too bad...made class more fun. :lol:

KelciAlexandra

03-24-2007, 11:41 PM

true it sounds bad but i would never want to get back with this guy. . . not really a crush anymore, just want full closure before i wed cause he was the last serious relationship i had before meeting my FH (who is 10000 times better) and i want to be able to say "ok that chapter in my life is over time to start a new wonderful one with mi hubby!"

RDC_girl

10-05-2007, 02:42 AM

Any new crushes to speak of? I have decided that it is not a crush that I had/have lol on my teacher, but admiration. She is like a second mother to me, she is an amazing woman.

Dont get me wrong, My mom is WONDERFUL, I love her to pieces. However it is nice to have someone else to talk to.

jillian

10-05-2007, 07:33 AM

I think it's weird to have crushes when you're married. It's not necessarily wrong, just weird. How about when some one has a crush on you or your FH/DH?

LyssaKel

10-05-2007, 08:15 AM

I think it's weird to have crushes when you're married. It's not necessarily wrong, just weird. How about when some one has a crush on you or your FH/DH?

I like it when someone has a crush on my DH. I think it is cute. I know he's not going anywhere and it just reinforces what an amazing guy I have.

Krissy

10-06-2007, 03:56 PM

I think it's weird to have crushes when you're married. It's not necessarily wrong, just weird. How about when some one has a crush on you or your FH/DH?

Really? It's weird? You don't die when you get married! You're just commited to one person now!

I don't mind if someone has a crush on Bob. He was at a hockey game last year and the girl behind him introduced herself and said he was the most gorgeous guy she's ever seen. Damn straight! He's HOOOTTT!

jillian

10-06-2007, 06:37 PM

I'm all for checking out that cute FedEx man, but to want to see him or gush about him after he left is just weird.

*Diane*

10-06-2007, 09:09 PM

Sometimes those little crushes just reinforce what you love about your loved person. :) Being all hot and bothered by another person, pshaaw, what ever! You are married, not dead. What happens in your head is not betrayal. It is just fantasy. Are you going to be all bothered about what happens in your dreams? :lol: If you begin to actively pursue that other person, well... then we can talk about cheating and :crazy: Then there is obviously something missing on the home front. At that point, I would seriously recommend that you look at what is missing, how can you bring that magic back to life in your relationshop with DH.

jillian

10-06-2007, 09:20 PM

Exactly, you aren't dead so what's to say that crush doesn't end up leading to more. I know some one who's very married that makes gestures when the guy leaves and talks about what she'd do to him. I just think if you're going to crush like that then why commit to some one?

It could also be I've never been a crush type person. It was always like, I like this person I want to be with them, if not then forget the crush. KWIM?

*Diane*

10-06-2007, 09:27 PM

Then, IMO, Jillian, it comes down to maturity. There is a big difference between a crush and infidelity. If someone is so attracted to another person that they would consider cheating on therir committment, then we are no longer talking about a crush. For an example, I joke about, "my boyfriend, Vince Vaughn" but even given the chance, :rolleyes: I wouldn't. If someone is seriously considering a hookup with another person outside of their relationship, that isnt a crush. They should be looking at what it is missing in their committed relationship.

MsJessica07

10-07-2007, 12:47 AM

I have a new little crush...but it's the "I admire him and he's really really cute" kind, but there's nothing going on there...he's married with four children and a lovely wife, and I'm happily married too. But he's nice to look at, and very very wise.

Angela

10-07-2007, 03:36 PM

I don't think I have any crushes, but I can totally appreciate a good looking guy when I see one. Dh and I will be watching TV or a movie, and we'll tell each other who we think is hot. That's just how we are. :shrug:

jillian

10-07-2007, 03:39 PM

*Ashley*

10-09-2007, 04:26 PM

I don't have any crushes, but I know that girls have crushes on DH. As long as they don't openly flirt with him, it's flattering and not a big deal :) He's my man, and I know he's not going anywhere.

RDC_girl

10-10-2007, 12:23 AM

There is a girl that works with my bf that has a crush on him. I think it is funny. I know another girl that he works with that tells me he talks about me all the time. I know I have nothing to worry about lol