In Memory??

[LVCRose]

If this is in the wrong spot, please feel free to move. I wasn't sure where it belonged.

I remember on UW there was a great thread where people posted pictures of Memory tables, tributes in programs, and other ways to remember their loved ones. I would love it to see what you all did for this.

Right now to remember my dad, I am having a locket attached to my bouquet with his picture and his favorite song played during the Sign of Peace during the ceremony. I would also like to include something in the programs.

Thanks!

[Kari]

I had my grandparents rings tied onto my bouquet. (and my dogs dog tag but she isn't deceased, she just couldn't be there)

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Also, we each chose a song for the prelude and dedicated it to family members that passed on. We included the name of the music selection and who it was dedicated to in our programs.

[Kristie]

I didn't do anything because I thought I'd be too emotional, but I regret not doing anything now.

My ideas were:
Have a single while rose in my bouquet
Save a seat in the ceremony for him
Have a nice table set up at the reception with pictures of him

[Poloke]

I've just started a thread in the "photography" catergory, in the photo gallery under "in memory".

Here is the link:
http://www.mustloveweddings.com/forums/showthread.php?t=2607

[Mandy]

Kari--your idea is beautiful. What a way to honor the memory of your grandparents!

[Jenn]

Ever since my grandmother passed away last year I see butterfly is random places at random times. I've ever seen them in the dead of winter when it was freezing out. So I included a butterfly in my flowers. My grandfather also gave me a ring which I wore that she used to wear all of the time that was my favorite ring. I wanted to put something in the program but at the last minute my other grandmother from Las Vegas was unable to travel due to her heart and I wasn't sure how to include her as well so I left it out of the program. Lots of people did ask about the butterfly so I just verbally explained it to them.

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[sweetiez]

Aw that is so beautiful.

[Katnye]

We had a candle on the alter that was lit in their memory. There was an excerpt in the program about the candle and how it signified our passed loved ones shining down on us.

[nikkiscott]

We are unsure on what we will be doing. We have to remember both fhs parents and my grandmother. I have left this up to fh to decide on what we should do.

Some fo my ideas are:
a rose on three seats
a candle with all three names on it, lite the entire time
having three pictures hanging from my bouquet
or even something simple like a fast trip to the cemetary to leave some flowers.

Again I have left this up to fh. I want him to think of something that he wants to remember his parents by.

[*Jodi*]

It was important to me to have my mother at the wedding, though she passed away nearly 4 years before. So, we made sure that she have her seat at the ceremony by placing a framed photo and a rose where she should have been.



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[Jaime]

We had something printed in the programs honoring the loved ones that had passed and the ones who could not be there *my Grandmother was too sick to attend*.

[Aramelle]

We are also having a memory candle that we will light at the very beginning of the ceremony, and I am tying lockets into my bouquet for each person. Along with that, there will be a small memory table set up inside (the candle will go on the table after the ceremony), and we will have a little something in the program.

[Poloke]

I don't know how to post them here but in the UW photo album there are pics of the locket in the bouquet idea- Charlies angel did that. Just search for her name on it.

[destinationbride07]

at first i was going to do something but i think i will be too emotional so i am not going to do anything..but your idea sounds great :)

[US_UKlove]

My good friend's mom died this past August. I was thinking of having a table set up beside the guest book (or maybe by the cake table) with a candle on it and a picture of her. I know she's going to 'be there' but I would at least like a visual reminder, esp. for my friend. So I appreciate all the ideas here.

[*Kim*]

for my bouquet i am thinking about including a flower of a different color... if i end up with a white bouquet then a blue or red flower and if my bouquet has color, then a white rose. my grandmother passed away 8 months after my mom and dad (not biological dad) married. During the time that she was alive, I got very clsoe to her. she was never able to see any of her grandchildren married or the birth any of her 6 great-grandchildren. She was the cement that held my dad's side of the family together and since her passing, we have slowly drifted apart. I do plan on remembering her but in a subtle way. her death still affects my dad deeply, though he doesnt always show it.

[purple_octopus]

We are roping off the first row of pews and placing a flower on each seat for all the members of our family who have passed away.

[lizaanne]

At my cousin's wedding several years ago, one of the bridesmaids was in a very tragic car accident right before the wedding. She was so severely disabled she was still in the hospital, and they thought she quite possibly would never walk again. This girl was an athlete and dancer, and it was such a horrible impact to all the friends in the wedding.

Even though she had not died in the accident, they still remembered her by having one of the other bridesmaids carry her flowers for her, and there was a place set for her at the head table, and her escort/groomsman walked alone down the aisle.

I think they did a wonderful and tasteful job of remembering her and still including her in the day without being too depressing on a very happy day.

~Liza

[PurpleFlower]

we are doing a rememberance table. I have a very pretty vase that I am going to put in a white rose for each person who has passed away. in front of the vase I am going to place these plaques we bought with each of their names wrote on it. I am also going to come up with a poem to place by the flowers that says something about how we wish they would have been able to be there but we still know they are looking down and smiling on us that day!

[CarlaNRobbie]

For our wedding we had a piller that I altered to have Robbie's mom's initials and her dates. I also had a photo of Robbie's parent and my parents on my table that had my signature mat.

[oupiglet]

http://www.mustloveweddings.com/forums/showthread.php?t=1170

That post has pictures of the pictures I had hanging from my bouquet.

During our ceremony the officiant said, "There are those close to the bride and groom who cannot be here today, but who would rejoice with them if they were. There are also those who are no longer with us but whose lives and spirits have touched their hearts. Today, we especially remember Mara’s other Dad, Ron Mende, and Mark and Mara’s grandparents who passed away in recent years. Let us remember them with a moment of silence."

In my program it said, "I have always imagined being escorted down the aisle not only by my parents, but also by my "other Mom and Dad" Mary and Ron Mende. I am honored to have Mary by my side today. I will forever have Ron in my heart."

[*Maggie*]

I am not sure what I'm doing yet for mine, because I think it will be too emotional for me.

My mom passed away when I was 10 years old...and I still get totally emotional when I think about her not being there on my big day.

My brothers wedding back in March: He asked me to walk down the aisle with him before the ceremony(during the prelude) and light a memorial candle in rememberance of her. I remember standing in the back of the church, thinking "OK Maggie, you can do this", and then when the song started playing, and my brother grabbed my arm, and we started walking, I tried as hard as I could to hold my emotions in. When we got up there to light it, I was shaking so bad, I couldn't even hold the candle with him to light the memorial candle. I just stood there shaking. Then he walked me to my seat(which was on the front row with my stepmother, younger half sister, and youger half brother, and FH). I was trying to hold back my emotions, so the whole pew was shaking! My little brother and sister(they are 9 and 7) kept looking over at me.

I DON'T want to be an emotional basket case(although I know I will be anyway) during my whole ceremony!

I do have a gold locket that was given to my mother by her parents for Christmas one year engraved on the back with "With Love, Mother and Daddy 12-25-68" and after she passed, and my grandfather gave it to me, I added a picture of me from when I was a little girl and a picture of her the way I remember her. I WILL add that to my bouquet, and I also thought about having a single rose in an empty seat for her, along with a single rose in an empty seat for my FH's father who passed away also.

[*Diane*]

I can hardly read this thread without tears in my eyes. All of your choices are so unique, just like the person who has left this world. :mecry:

I am giving Biz my grandparent's wedding rings. She loved my grandfather so much and he was head over heels crazy about both of my girls. I wish I could come up with a way to honor my mom who passed away last May. My dad promised me a brooch they bought while they lived in Greece. Maybe we can work that into Biz' bouquet.

[kate]

I made candles with their name in vellum for the ceremony. I am also having one yellow rose laid by my grandma's candle as it was her favorite. I was going to more the candles to the reception too, but I think it will upset my uncle to much who lost his 2 children and wife to cancer. We are just going to have the candles on a table up by the baptismal font at the church.

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[LVCRose]

Thank you for all the advice girls! I ended up having a locket with my dad's picture in it attached to my bouquet. That way he could still be with me during my walk down the aisle.

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[Noelle]

What neat ideas everyone has had. When we got married we had a vase with white roses with blue tips in it...one for each person who had passed and was unable to attend in person. We also put something in our program about them being with us in spirit. My uncle and DH's uncle were our ministers and they did the service. My grandpa was a minister as well, so my uncle incorporated some of my grandpa into the service (that's when I started crying!)

[Crystal]

We placed pictures of our grandparents at the front of the church beside a rose for each person who had passed, and had a little tribute to them in the programs.

[Mandy]

We didn't do much, for fear of bringing our guests down on such a momentous occassion. We had an arrangement of white roses placed in front of our podium and the names were written in the bullitin. We also had a single red rose in honor of my sister, my "angel bridesmaid".

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