My Mother Is Driving Me Nuts!!!

[Flying_V_Goddess]

*SCREAMS* :curse:

I swear to God one of these days I'm gonna bash a hammer over her head!

Ugh. Today, I told her about signing up for this forum and that I had asked for some in-sight about the dress I wanted and Heather had told me about this website that makes custom dresses for a seemingly affordable price. I'm already looking into the site, but I wanted her opinion on it. As I'm explaining this information she just yells at me, "Are you telling those PEOPLE where you LIVE?!"

Jesus Christ! I'm trying to tell her that I might be able to get a price quote on the dress I want and she wants to bitch at me about the people I talk to online. She acts like I give every person I talk to on a forum directions to my house (or her house rather...me and Nick are staying here until we have enough money for an apartment). So I said, "Of course not! I'm almost 20 years old. I THINK I can handle my online life."

She just HAD to say it. "I HOPE you do. I don't want you making the same mistake again."

The mistake she's refering to is when I found a 24 year old woman from Virginia online when I was 14 years old. We didn't meet personally until I was 17. Long story short, it was a bad idea to hook up with her. She treated me like s**t. I stayed with her for three weeks in her apartment in Virginia and she got so mad at me for something so little that she threw me and my stuff out onto her baloncy and locked me out and I sat out there in the cold for 12 hours. She verbally and emoitionally abused me and there was the occasional hit to the arm. Called me lots of name and I believed them. When she was staying with me if I made her mad the slightest bit she'd just get in her car and leave. That's why if Nick goes anywhere I always ask if I can ride along or if he's going to work I always make sure I give him a hug so I know he's coming back.

I remember I was in the hospital for three days around the time things had hit rock bottom between us and I kept thinking "God, she's gonna leave 800 nasty emails in my inbox saying how I won't write back and blah blah blah." Sure enough, I was right. The last one said, "Why won't you write back? Are you retarded? God, you're like an inbred who doesn't know English!" That's when I severed all ties with her and decided I didn't want anything.

Yes, I realize I made a HUGE mistake. I ADMIT IT! I was stupid and naive. I got rid of the problemI want to forget about the whole thing and move on with my life!

So why does Mom have to keep bringing it up?! God, its like a monster on Resident Evil that REFUSES to DIE!! ...actually, the monster reference might be more literal than I intended. I just want to shoot this monster down with a shotgun and keep continueing this video game called "Life", but it keeps on resurrecting itself and coming back to kick my ass.

Like when Mom's boyfriend broke up (for real) and a few days later she was talking about some stuff about him and it sounded like she was going to get back together with him. I said, "What is WRONG with you?! You get back together with that 'functionally drunken asshole' and he's gonna hurt you (emotionally mind you) yet again." She had the nerve to tell me, "Like YOU should talk. Remember your 'bout with Genie?"

At one point when I was still going out with Nick she thought I was talking to her online again and planned on getting back together with her. It would be stupid and terrible of me if I did...but when I have a boyfriend and its painfully obvious that we are MADLY in love?! Why would I even get back with that crazy b**ch when I have a boyfriend who treats me right and thinks the world of me?! I wouldn't get back with that wench if I got paid in a million dollars worth of solid gold bricks and somebody built me a video game NASA complete with all my favorite arcade games and every single system encrusted in platnuim and diamonds and other precious stones!

And don't get me started all the other s**t she's been nagging at me and has been critical about! Oooooooooooooh...I could use that Super Mario hammer to bash her over the head with.

*sigh* I feel a little better. I think I'm going to do play a round of Guitar Hero now.

[purple_octopus]

You know, there are a couple smilies for that. :hammer: :hammer2: I think they belong to Maria_05, but she is good at letting people borrow them.

Seriously, though -- sorry for what you're going through with your mom. Parents almost always think of you as their little baby, and are the last to realize that you've grown up and become your own person. If you've let go of your past, eventually she will have to as well.

[Flying_V_Goddess]

I wanted to put enraged smileys in, but was just too lazy to...or maybe was to angry to...so I just put in the cursing smiley at the beginning.

I let go of that part of my past OVER NINE MONTHS AGO!! How long is it gonna take her to let go?!

[RDC_girl]

Vent away - My mom constantly brings up the past. It drives me nuts. I am almost 26 and she still treats me like I am 12. I know it is because she is concerned but sometimes I just wish she would forget the past lol


I think I'm going to do play a round of Guitar Hero now.

ARE YOU SERIOUS?? I LOVE THIS GAME. My bf's nephew just got it for his birthday and everytime I go to his house, someone is playing it.

[Flying_V_Goddess]

Vent away - My mom constantly brings up the past. It drives me nuts. I am almost 26 and she still treats me like I am 12. I know it is because she is concerned but sometimes I just wish she would forget the past lol



ARE YOU SERIOUS?? I LOVE THIS GAME. My bf's nephew just got it for his birthday and everytime I go to his house, someone is playing it.

I'm serious. Nick got it for me a month ago. :D I'm a gamer and I'm getting married to one. And on Halloween were picking up Final Fantasy 12 and on Nov. 19 were picking up the new Legend of Zelda game.

After I got done posting this I played "Infected" in an absolute rage because I was sooooooo pissed at Mom. I almost went and slammed the guitar on the floor after I got done, but then thought "Don't smash Morgan! It costs $40 to get her replaced." ...yeah, I NAMED my guitar controller.

I think my Mom has been watching way too much Dateline Investigations and Law and Order SVU. Coisidently, both were on last night.

[Flying_V_Goddess]

I'm this close to taking my Guitar Hero controller out of its cardboard box and slam it over my mother's head...and I really can't afford to buy another guitar controller right now (espessily the wireless, $70 cherrywood colored Flying V guitar controller...God I want it sooooo bad).

Nick and I had went to Toys-R-Us to get my little brother this "Ben 10" watch thinger that he'd been talking about and begging for non-stop for the last three weeks...I'm so sick of hearing about "Ben 10". The first couple of days he would not shut up about it and he kept showing it to people and he never shut the damn thing off. God, I hate that little beeping sound that it makes. So I was standing in the kitchen one day sipping a Mountain Dew while his watch is beeping away...I sighed and said, "Mom, I'm getting really sick of that watch." She said, "Yeah. He's being obsessive about it...just like you with your wedding." *TWiTCH!*

Okay, maybe I have gotten a little obsessive over the wedding, but don't most brides get a little obsessive over their weddings anyways? But I'm just researching a lot of things and the only thing I'm set on buying right now is that custom made wedding dress. *sigh* I try to ask her questions, but I'm afraid when I do she'll cut me down, say that I'm getting "obsessive". I guess I wish she'd be a little more supportive about it. I have no idea how to shop for wedding stuff...I'd be nice to have some help outside this wonderful forum.

Last night she REALLY pissed me off. Nick and I rented a couple of movies (after going to the movie theater only to find that they're not open Mondays) and got some Chinese food. We got Larry the Cable Guy/Blue Collar TV DVD's and they were hilarious so I was laughing like any normal human being does when they find something funny. APPARENTLY, I was being too loud. Mom came in a couple of times telling us to keep it down. We really weren't being THAT loud, to be honest. After that whenever I laughed out loud Nick would tell me to keep it down because of my mother...UGH! It just got on my nerves...considering that this was coming from the woman who cranks up the volume on her TV when she goes to bed and I can hear it from my room on the opposite end of the trailer. It also didn't help that we were both watching movies in our underwear and had to scramble for blankets whenever she knocked on our door to tell us we were being "too loud". So the movies weren't quite as enjoyable as I wanted them to be.

And if I have to be forced to read another one of mom's STUPID emails I'm going to VOMIT! She gets a crap load of forwarded emails from her friends with little stories that are either funny or have some sort of moral to it...or both. She insists that I read half of them. Sure, some of them ARE funny, but I'm getting so sick of reading them. I'll say "Mom, not right now" and she'll say "No, no. You HAVE to read this one! It's hilarious!"

Okay, I'm done venting. My guitar controller will thank me for it.

[Krissy]

Move out!

[Flying_V_Goddess]

You think I don't want to move out? I'm kind of stuck here until Nick and I can find an apartment. :(

[Krissy]

Did you check the papers today? What's holding you back? Not much available in your area?

[Flying_V_Goddess]

Small town...not a whole lot available. And, from what I've heard, a lot of the apartment buildings (which is not many) are infested with drug dealers and users. We're trying to see if there's some place for rent that's not crawling with druggies before we look at those. Nothing within our income has really come up, yet.

Right now its more about money than actually finding a place. We wouldn't have enough for a downpayment/deposit right now. We've been trying to save up, but its been kind of hard to since there's a lot of things we have to pay off first. Hopefully it will get easier to save money for an apartment once we get some of that stuff out of the way.

[Krissy]

All I'm saying is where there's a will, there's a way. Maybe coming up with an exact budget, how much you'll save every week/month, how much you'll need and your options for rent will help you deal with your mother. Sometimes knowing that there will be an end makes things a little easier.

Does he live with you and your mom? If not, maybe you could even look into finding a place with a roommate. Then atleast when he's over you'd have your own space. It truly makes a difference!

[Flying_V_Goddess]

He does live here with me and my mom.

I suppose we could look at all the things we have to pay off (car insurance, wedding ring, etc) and then see how much is coming in each month and go from there. Why didn't either of us think of this before?

[Flying_V_Goddess]

Last night, I went to go see Saw III with Nick and it scared the crap out of me and a couple of parts almost made me vomit (this is what I get for being a scaredy cat with a weak stomach). I couldn't get to sleep last night because I kept thinking a wooden clown would come wheeling into my room on a tricycle and tell me "I want to play a game". Yes, my imagination runs loose from time to time. So I was quite surprised that not only did I get some sleep...I had the most awesome dream.

And JUST when this awesome dream was getting real good, I'm awakened by the sound of my mom just screaming. I mean, I could put my head underneath two pillows and I could still hear it as clear as a bell. *sigh* Did not make me the least bit happy. I swear, she was screaming and hollering and (I think) punching walls for at least half an hour before it finally stopped.

Why was she screaming like a madman? Well, she had gotten back with her boyfriend, who said nothing went on with that woman mom saw at the bar a few weeks ago. I told mom she was an idiot for getting back together with him after all the emotional crap she went through during that time (not just the woman at the bar, but other stuff)...and she brought up my ex.

From what I got through mom's Bitch Fest, something DID happen between that woman. Not exactly sure what it was, but I can make an educated guess since she was yelling, "I hope she was worth it".

I just wanted to say, "Hate to say I told you so."

I went back to sleep and continued that nice dream. Got really good again when mom woke me up...again. She asked Nick if she could get my brother off the bus because she wasn't going to be around. If I heard correctly (not 100% sure because I was half asleep), she said she and Murle were going to run around and do some things.

What...the...crap? She was screaming and bitching at him for over half an hour about he slept with another woman and lied about it and she took him back?! And she says I was stupid with my ex?

[Jade]

Sounds like you do need to move out soon. I'd hate to wake up to my Mum screaming, I'd be worried about her. People are easier to deal with when you don't live with them, so good luck finding a place.

Oh, and the bringing up the past thing, even though it was 9 months ago, thats really not that long. So I can kind of understand why she would still be worried about you since it hasn't even been a year yet.

[Flying_V_Goddess]

We're slowly coming up with money for a place.

[with people are easier to deal with when you don't live with them] That's the exact reason why Nick and I (and another friend) refused our friend's preposal to get an apartment with him and his fiance. Its one of those friends that you love to hang around with, but they can kind of get on your nerves easily. *shrugs*

[Krissy]

Oh heck yeah, I'll agree with that statement! Sometimes I just don't know how people still live with the parents, not that its bad, I just wouldn't have the patience! Once you get past a certain time in your life you just need your own space!