Registry question

[Ally]

So we have somewhat of an issue. We really dont need anything more for our apt, so we found a website that is a honeymoon registry. my mom and I both think that it is a good idea, especially since it is broken down into affordable items, like dinners and souvineers and so on. Well my co-worker said that people may find this offensive. What do you ladies think. Personally, if i were buying a couple a wedding gift, i would not have a problem contributing to a honeymoon. I would rather my money go to something that they will for sure use then something that could possibly get returned.

[Angela]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, personally. We didn't do one because we need so much stuff, but FH's cousin did one, and we contributed to it. It was fun knowing we were paying for them to have dinner and go to a show in Paris!

As an aside, I would still do a small traditional registry, as there are people who will insist on getting you something. You can always "upgrade" to nicer items.

[nikkiana]

I have mixed feelings personally... I'm not completely offended by honeymoon registeries, but I can see how someone certainly could be... On the one hand, it gives a way for people to give cash and have some reassurance that it's going to be spent on something fun instead of something mundane like dog food or rent. On the other hand, it sorta gives off a money grabbing vibe... I know if I was a guest, I'd probably not contribute and opt to buy you a gift, regardless of there being a registery or not or give cash in person.

[Spatula Girl]

To me, the honeymoon is a wedding expense, not a 'marriage expense', if that makes sense. I'm not necessarily offended by a honeymoon registry, but something about them leaves a bad taste in my mouth. If it were up to me, I'd probably just give a check to the couple to use for whatever (their honeymoon, if they wanted, or a down payment on a house), and not contribute to the actual registry.

I also have heard some horror stories about exorbitant fees that the agency takes, and I would prefer my gift go completely to the bride and groom.

[Emily]

I don't have a problem with a honeymoon registry. I think it's a neat idea. Some consider it tacky, but I've been to several wedding with "wishing wells" or been told the couple prefer monetary gifts. So, I would rather give them a dinner or massage on their honeymoon than cash. at least that way you know what they are getting from you.

[MrsRea]

I think its a great idea! Me and my DH did one and it was great. The guests loved being able to give us money towards a trip that we will always remember. I even had some people go back two or three times and give us more things. We used honeymoonwishes.com and we had no problems.

[Ally]

MrsRea~ First let me say that i am so glad to see that you made it here!!!! and thanks for the imput. I am glad to hear from someone who has done this and could suggest a registry to use!!! Thank you!

[Andrea]

i could see where some would be offiensive, but personally, i wouldn't be. maybe as well as the honeymoon site, just go to like the bay or canadian tire or something, and make a list maybe of, updated items you would like

[KathyandJer]

I agree with most people here - I would create a small registry for people who insist on purchasing something. Upgrade what you want to upgrade, or register for that kitchen gadget you'd probably use but never buy for yourself!

Some people may be offended, but I don't think it's a bad idea at all! Hmmmm, wonder if it would be bad to register for items you need FOR your honeymoon ;)

[Celeste]

I think it's fine as long as you only tell people about it if they ask. That said, I wouldn't have one myself. I'd only purchase off one if there was nothing more permanent that the couple wanted.

I didn't check out the site MrsRae mentioned, but watch out for fees. It always bugs me when I'm essentially giving cash and there is a middleman taking 15% or something.

[Ally]

Thats what i was actually going to do! Find stuff that we would need for Thailand! I was talking to FH and he said that he doesnt think anyone in his family would be offended and i dont think anyone on my side would either. so I am 99% sure that we are going to do this! I just really like the idea of people knowing for sure that their money/gift is going to something that we really want and that we will always remember! Not just something for an apt that we would eventually get rid of or that would break. This we will always remember!

[Ally]

I will check that out Celeste! thank you!