How do you feel about sizing wedding bands?

[Jaime]

Feel free to move this, but I thought it would fit in the jewelry section.

I was told by someone that if you size a wedding band after you are married, that you are beaking the "eternity" of the circle of the band.

That being said, DH and I actually picked cheaper wedding bands on purpose, because we had a goal to lose weight and I knew that I would never size the bands, so we'd end up getting new ones anyway.

Am I just crazy? :laugh3: How do you feel about sizing a wedding band? DH is in a bad place right now, his ring wont stay on because he has lost so much weight. He wants to lose even more though, so I guess he will either have to size it or get one of those things to put around the band.

[purple_octopus]

It doesn't bother me. It's not as though they cut gold bands out of a solid block of gold, so it was just a rectangular piece of metal at one point in time anyway. Sizing your ring does not make you less married. But I guess it's just a personal decision.

Our rings are titanium (we wanted tungsten, but couldn't find any women's rings in tungsten), so they cannot be sized. If we need a different size, we will have to buy new rings. Interestingly enough, the titanium and tungsten rings *are* made from a solid block of material.

[Jaci]

I've never heard of that before, and never thought of it like that, but I really don't care either way. I hope I don't have to resize mine anymore anyway, but if it comes down to it, I will.

[lizaanne]

I think that's silly - if you need to size your ring, for whatever reason, just size it and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it.

~Liza

[sweetiez]

i would if i had too.. but im nuts in other ways..
the ring i get married with i want to keep forever i dont wanna ever get new ones or "upgrade" cause i feel it breaking our "promise" so say. and plus the ring i got married with means alot unlike some ring we went to buy again. idk im weird!!

[Jaime]

i would if i had too.. but im nuts in other ways..
the ring i get married with i want to keep forever i dont wanna ever get new ones or "upgrade" cause i feel it breaking our "promise" so say. and plus the ring i got married with means a lot unlike some ring we went to buy again. idk im weird!!

No I have also heard that too. That if you upgrade you are going back on your original committment somehow.

[*Sarah*]

That seems a bit extreme to me. What happens if you need to have your ring cut off in an emergency? Does that nullify your marriage? Of course not!

Your DH should be proud of his weight loss and not worry about getting his ring resized. Yay for him!! :clap:

[Jaci]

The only reason I would be scared to buy before resizing would be if I knew I'd be losing a very large amount of weight once I bought it. Rings can only be resized so far, you know?

[rowanmayfairs]

I'm pregnant and I suspect sometime before this child is born I will have to stop wearing my rings.. It won't make us NOT married .. I don't know if I will want a "replacement" band or just put my rings on a necklace to wear or stop wearing them.

He proposed with a ring, then later we got a matching set. I kept the orginal ring and had it resized AGAIN to fit another hand/finger.

We eventually want a new matching ring set..We got the only set we loved and could afford. Its cheap and already scratched up. Maybe after the baby is born we can eventually afford a new set. I don't think that means we are any less married than before.

My mom's wedding ring set had thin bands and she took them off. Later on they gotten stolen from the house. My dad replaced it with a new set later. They are still married and feel no different about it all 31yrs later.

The ring & paper are just material items..I think all that matters is what is in our heart. I love my husband and thats what counts for me :)

[sweetiez]

i should explain myself a little better lol
derek got me an "promise" ring for my "engagement" ring. at the time. becuase 1. he didnt have much money. and he just wanted us to be engaged and on ur next level cause he loved me so much. the sweetest gift ever! i take pride in that so much. but that ring we wont be married by. it will be on my oppisite hand which theres still meaning :)

now we plan on buying me a set TOGETHER it will also have meaning. really he didn't know what i wanted. so i think he handled this very well.and sweet & kind. so when i say i dont want to upgrade. I just feel once im married with them rings i dont need to "upgrade " them. they already mean so much to me. but resizing.. i would FOR SURE DO! and if i were pregnant. and didnt fit .that forsure does NOT mean our marriage is broken. just means my fingers became FAT :rofl: so i agree with Rmenda. When she says that.. Or if it was lost or stolen. Im telling you i'd be pretty upset.. really upset infact! But who wouldn't??!! but we would go and buy a new one. But i hope to god that never happens! but remember theres a reason for everything. And with every reason.. theres a meaning :)

[Winter_Bride]

See, we bought my ring because at the time rules at work said I couldn't have stones in my ring (I'm a nurse), so I got a plainer band with the idea that when I stopped working, we'd "upgrade". Now the rules have changed and I can't wear a ring at all! I asked DH about this upgrade ring, and after a lot of prying and poking he got REALLY defensive and said "What's wrong with the ring we said our vows with??" I had NO IDEA it bothered him so much to replace the ring we used on our wedding day!!!!!! It hadn't even occured to me!!

So now, although I would LOVE a ring with diamonds and I think it would suit my ering MUCH nicer (my band doesn't really fit my ering now...), I LOVE my wedding ring and will never replace it! Instead we talk about one day using the GOLD from our rings (DH's is pretty fancy and used to have these little divits in it to make it sparkle. I say used to because in less than 2 years he's managed to wear them down quite a bit!!) and the diamonds from mine and make new rings for our vow renewal for our 25th anni... :) Don't get me wrong, the materialistic side of me wouldn't mind an upgrade, but I will never bring it up again because it hurt his feelings so much, and he REALLY like the sentiment (not that I don't, I just never thought about it!)

As for the original question, I agree with purple octopus - it's not like they STARTED out as a ring... But then again, you now see my views on replacing them as well!