How would you like it if someone tells you that you are a bad mother?

[BeachKat]

I have been holding it all inside for a long time so I need to let it out!!!!! And this is a letter to Cheri. Since she has made me feel so horrible and I will never forget what she said to me. It hurts me so terribly!


Dear Cheri,
How dare you told me in front of other people in the AIM chatroom a few weeks ago and that I am a bad mother. And that I don't take care of the kids and I don't deserve to take a break ever! You don't know what it is like for me and you don't know me as a person yet you have been accussing me of being a terrible mother and that I am a horrible mother for letting my ex husband who is your boyfriend Jeremy have custody of the kids. Number 1, we have agreed to have the kids back to me when I am done with college. And number 2, he lets me have them for vistations and on summer vacations plus on holidays. I am going to college so I can provide the best for my 2 beautiful angels Nathan and Miranda. Not just because I want to have a career of my own but I want the best of everything for them and they don't have to go hungry or never get anything from me. I want them to have the best education possible and to have love from their mother. You are 36 years old and have 2 little kids. You are a mom of 2 kids and you only have one job but that is only for the summer cook offs at your father's company but how do you get through the winter with the bills, you let your abusive ex-boyfriend who was always drunk and live with you so he have a job and pay the bills for you. You have no idea of who I am as a whole person and how dare of you to tell other people in front of me about business with Jeremy. It is none of your damn business, and what goes on with Jeremy and me is nobody's business.. they don't need to know. And for you to call me a horrible person and a whore. Those words definely hurts me alot and you have no idea how hard for me not to cry and blow up at you???!!!??? And now you are trying to ruin my friendship with Jeremy so you could have me out of his life competely forever and let you be a mother to my 2 angels. No way that I would have let you do that because I don't trust you and I don't feel safe around you. You have completely brainwashed Jeremy and now trying to hurt my friendshop with Jeremy because he is the father of our 2 kids. I am sitting here crying and my heart just really hurts right now. YOu have no idea but yet, of course you don't care because you will do anything to get what you want! I do believe in Karma and of what you have said to me .. it will bite you in the arse! I am so sick of you gossiping about me and trying to ruin my reputation. Why don't you please just stop and just leave me alone??? I have tried to tell Jeremy that I have a bad feeling about you but you just don't listen to him. I know he can do better than that and find a woman who would be respectful and accept the fact that Jeremy and I created 2 angels out of love in a relationship. Here I am getting weaker and weaker because I am hurting right now and I am pretty pissed that you are getting away with everything!

Sarah

Gosh, I feel better but I am still crying here!

[BASIA]

:hugsmile2: :cuddle: :hug: :bighug: :petting: I am so sorry that you are going through this. You are a good mother and you are doing what ever you have to do in order for your kids to have everything!!! Dont let this &*&*^ put you down. Ignore her! People like that love drama and they will cause a lot more if you let them. Dont show her that it is getting to you and upseting you because that is exactly what she wants. BE STRONG!!! And talk to Jeremy as much as you can. She can not get in between you two, because it is your kids who will suffer in the end! You have to stay friends for them, and she can never break that friendship and he needs to know everything that she said! Good Luck!

[Jaime]

That woman is an idiot. She needs to mind her own business. I would ignore her, she obviously doesn't have a clue what is going on in your life.

[Krissy]

Why are you letting yourself get sucked in to all of their jr. high drama? Hold your head high and ignore them! What good does it do letting them get you all upset? You don't deserve that!

[US_UKlove]

I would never tell anyone they were a bad mother (unless, of course, I actually witnessed something terrible). I don't have any kids, so I can only imagine what a tough and thankless job it is.

That's just cruel to say,and anyone who would say that to you isn't a very decent person, IMHO.

[~LeAna~]

Why are you letting yourself get sucked in to all of their jr. high drama? Hold your head high and ignore them! What good does it do letting them get you all upset? You don't deserve that!

:agree: You always seem so upset on MLW, usually because people have said things to you or aren't minding their own business. Can you distance yourself from all these people and all this drama? I couldn't deal with all the he said, she said stuff. I know that she is dating your childrens' father but it doesn't mean you have to talk to her or deal with her at all. No one is worth getting upset over. You know you're a good mother and she's trash for saying things like that in front of other people. She just wants to get a rise out of you. Don't give her what she wants. Ignore her and her petty comments.

[*Ashley*]

:agree: You always seem so upset on MLW, usually because people have said things to you or aren't minding their own business. Can you distance yourself from all these people and all this drama? I couldn't deal with all the he said, she said stuff. I know that she is dating your childrens' father but it doesn't mean you have to talk to her or deal with her at all. No one is worth getting upset over. You know you're a good mother and she's trash for saying things like that in front of other people. She just wants to get a rise out of you. Don't give her what she wants. Ignore her and her petty comments.

I agree with everything LeAna said.

[Mandy]

Ditto. :)

[Flying_V_Goddess]

I don't know you at all, but from what I read from your posts, I do know that you are NOT a bad mother. How can you? You're going to school so you can make a better life for your kids. If that's not being a good mom to your kids than I don't know what is.

Don't let your ex's idiot girlfriend get to you...its not worth it getting sucked into whatever horrible things she's said to you. Its sad, its petty, and, from what I've read, coming from a person who loves to get you upset. I'm glad to see you pretty much told her off and stood up for yourself (I would consider that a "take it and stick it where the sun don't shine" sort of letter).