Are They Necessary?

[jillian]

Favors, are they necessary?

If you went to a wedding where there were no favors what would you think?

[soulmates]

I don't think they are necessary. I honestly probably wouln't notice if there weren't any.

[*Gina*]

I've been to several weddings where we didn't get favors. I never even knew it was (somewhat) standard until I joined UW.

[sweetiez]

i know someon went to a wedding and they didnt have wedding favors and the person thought they were cheap to not to give any out!! :eeek:
i thought that was kinda rude of them to say though! For me i could careless! they are nice to remember the wedding by though! but some people just throw them away! which GRR makes me mad! . i think candy is a perfect favor cause u know everyone will eat it..and wont just "toss" it somewhere! :rolleyes:

[Slugsmama]

I guess it depends on your area, we went to a wedding recently and they had the cute little cookie cutters , and no one knew what they were for! I was like uh its a favor , you take one home with you! And then all the girls at our table went and got one , for the most part , people dont care... and if people wanted to complain about someone not having favors , are they really good enough friends to be at the wedding in the first place?

[nikkiana]

Personally, I don't think they are.... and from my experience, if they aren't something like candy.... No one seems to bother to take them...

I only sort of had favors at my wedding.... I had these fork placecard holders.... I wanted them as place card holders but I didn't really think they were a favor because outside of being a placecard holder, they were pretty useless.... Not the sort of thing someone wants to take home....

I wanted to do something extra like candy, but my mom said the forks were enough and we didn't really have time to make them up anyway.... so outside of that we didn't have any favors....

I think only like 10 people took the forks.

[rowanmayfairs]

I made up like 50 wedding favors.. Put at EVERY chair..

I don't think people knew they were suppose to take them..cause only maybe 10 got taken. James family was asking for more to take since they didn't want to take more than 1 w/out asking. I gave extras to his family and still had LOTS left over.

I didn't make tags for my favors so maybe that was the problem? Maybe I should of made tags telling them to take them or something.

[lizaanne]

I don't have a problem with no favors as long as there is something at each place setting to thank your guests for coming and being a part of your day. Yes, they will get a personal T-Y after the wedding, but I think it's nice to be thanked for coming. You never know what personal schedule changes or sacrifices or decisions someone had to make to be part of your day, so to thank them even with a pretty little note on their plate isn't too much to do for them. I don't think favors HAVE to be part of this, but are a nice extra if you can or want to.

~Liza

[Winter_Bride]

I wouldn't think anything of it! I've been to a few weddings without favors, and I've also been to a wedding where the bride was involved with a charity. Notes were left on the tables that in lieu of favors, donations had been made in each guest's name to the charity. EVERYONE thought it was a wonderful idea!

I agree with Liz that something should be said to thank your guests for sharing in your special day, but I don't think ANYONE will leave your wedding in a huff over not having a little paper box of chocolates to take away!

[-->Kat<--]

I would think... hey, where's their favors :dontknow: But I like to see how creative people get with their favors... so maybe it's just me.

[jillian]

We are having frames for place cards. I always take mine home from weddings I go to. That could be considered the favor, right guys?

[PurpleFlower]

I would wonder about them but I really wouldn't care!

[*alissa*]

I spent weeks designing, printing, and punching holes and tying ribbon in bookmark favors, and NO ONE took them......
I would rather have saved my time energy and ink.....

[Flying_V_Goddess]

I think the importance of favors at a wedding depends on one's taste. Personally, I don't find them nessicary. Heck, I don't even think about the favors at a wedding unless I see some Hershey's kisses wrapped in tulle tied with a cute little bow...you can't go wrong with chocolate favors. :floating:

[*Ashley*]

I always forget to take them, but we're still doing a little thank you at each plate :)

[carolinalady67]

Jillian I think your frame place holders will be perfect favors. Something they can use. And I wouldn't think anything else would be needed.

[jrbecca]

I would think... hey, where's their favors :dontknow: But I like to see how creative people get with their favors... so maybe it's just me.


:rofl: Kat, I love your honesty! No, it's not just you. I think favors are nice, too. When she got married, my MOH came to me in a panic three months before their wedding saying that they had forgot to budget for favors and they had little money left over with which to buy/make some. So, I set out researching a bunch of cheap favor ideas and gave them to her. She seemed very grateful, but did nothing with them. :(

I'd rather, though, that no favors be given rather than bad favors. Brian and I went to a wedding the day before we got engaged and the favors were jordan almonds that were so old no one could eat them. Indeed, I practically chipped a tooth on them. But, that wedding was a strange one all around, so I won't dwell too much, but since that day, I have single-handedly protested those obnoxious little nuts. :)

[jillian]

I protest jordan almonds too!

[-->Kat<--]

:laugh3: I don't prefer them either. You can get cute, inexpensive favors, so there's really no excuse for not having them. ;) Plus I think that favors kind of personalize your reception.

[Mandy]

I just wanted to come in and defend the lowely Jordan Almond. We had them at our wedding (not as favors). It's an Italian tradition to have them, so we did :). I personally do not care for them, but I also didn't want to go against a tradition my family has had for years. :blush:

Back to the topic at hand...I wouldn't worry about it. I'd figure the frames were to keep...but you may want to put a little something at each table making sure the guests know they are welcome to take them home :). And I work at a Chocolate factory, so if anyone ever needs any chocolate, just lemme know! ;)

[serda23]

I need chocolate! Not for favors... I just need chocolate. All. the. time. :)


I wouldnt think anything of it if there weren't favors either, but I do agree that I like to see the different things people come up with. My friend made a ton of home-made candles with little daisies on the lids (they were in tiny little mason jars) and they were super cute, and they were table decorations as well, so if no-one took them it was no big deal since they served two purposes anyway. (I totally snagged a few though!)

[angie]

I would take notice that there weren't any favors, but it's not something I would care that much about. Half the time I think people just chuck 'em anyway.:shrug:

[Renny]

Mandy- you have my dream job :lol:

I really wouldn't think anything of there not being favors, though I'd notice only because I'm a bride.

[MemphisMom]

In defense of the Jordan almonds, you are supposed to let the hard coating melt in your mouth and then eat the nut, that's beside the point though...

Most favors are useless and end up in the trash, that sounds harsh but I hate to see brides waste money on personalized trinkets.

Candy/chocolate/cookie favors are another story, people love them!

[Christa]

We are having frames for place cards. I always take mine home from weddings I go to. That could be considered the favor, right guys?

Yes, I wanted to do those for favors. Where are you getting your frames from?

[jillian]

http://www.weddingshowplace.com/wedding_place_card_frames.htm

[Christa]

Thanks Jillian!