I find this very strange

[Venus]

I just bought our Jr. Bridesmaid gift it is a I.D. bracelet that is somewhat unique in design as it has interesting S links instead of the standard type, it is gold and on the front in the corner there is a diamond chip with like sunburst effect coming off it. Ok so here's the deal I called the jr bm mom and told her what I bought and that I was having her daughter's name engraved on the front w/ on the inside engraving being thank you, john & venus with the wedding date. Her response was "oh ok" where did you go and let me have the number so I can buy a matching one. Now this just seems strange, I went to a lot of trouble to find something a little unique so it would be special for this 10 year old girl and now it seems to me her mom is taking that all away. Am I wrong?

[Kari]

I would have asked her one question...

WHY?

[Jaci]

yeah, that is annoying. Did she mention why she wanted one? Maybe she just thought it was fantastic and wanted one herself, without realizing that you went through a lot of trouble to find it for it's uniqueness?

[Krissy]

I want to know why too.

[Venus]

I already asked this question and the response was that she saw it as something her daughter and her were doing together but I was already on the search for a special gift for the mom since she is doing our silk flowers, now I dont know what to do

[Jaci]

send her on a wild goose chase and give her what you were planning on doing.

Who are they in relation to you? It's not like they are taking a trip together and need to get matching charms...that's just weird.

[Venus]

Yes I find it very weird and as for who they are, just friends, by all rights her daughter shouldnt even be in our wedding, long story but I seem to inevitably let this person bull doze me.

[RadishWife]

Well first of all that is a very nice gift for the the ten year old. I would just not think twice about it, my daughter would think I was a bit of a dork if I decided to go off and buy a matching one for myself. The mom sounds pouty because she wanted one too, like you are going to tell her what you are getting her on the phone. I think that is what you said happened...am I confused?

[Venus]

No you are not confused, I told her about her daughter's gift to make sure it was a good choice, I have yet to purchase the mom a gift and now I'm even more confused on what to purchase the mom since this little display. I was thinking of a nice engraved picture frame but now I almost feel like Im suppose to purchase her jewelry also.

[StaceyG]

i wouldnt tell the mom where you got or tell her it was a discontinued item. the picture fram for the mom is more then enough

[Venus]

i wouldnt tell the mom where you got or tell her it was a discontinued item. the picture fram for the mom is more then enoughI already told her where I had purchased it as she was very insistent but the upside is I do believe that was the only one of that style in stock and since we are such a remote area it is unlikely they will be getting an identical one in very soon:laugh3:

[Kristie]

Just make up some stupid site that carries jewellery similar but doesn't carry those type of braclets....then she'll think they just stoped making them :D

[Celeste]

What?!? That is really random.

I know it's too late now, but you don't have to tell anybody anything, no matter how insistant they are. I find it's better to talk out whatever it is instead. I know that can be awkward though in real life, if the person is really pushy.

[carolinalady67]

hmmm wonder if my sister is going to want a matching Disney Princess purse I'm getting my niece for being my flowergirl? :giggle: I just think that is strange. I mean sure they are both doing things for the wedding it sounds like. But they are not both being flowergirls!

[*alissa*]

Sounds to me like she was giving you a hint....
:crazy:

[Venus]

Yes, she did it, she went and ordered herself the exact same bracelet I'm getting for her daughter, not only that but she is copying the engraving as well all except the "Thank you" So now I guess I could one of two things, go ahead and pay for it and tell her its her gift or just suck it up and ignore it. I'm still not honestly sure why this is bothering me so much but it just seems really wrong. Any thoughts girls, need some help here. :errrr: :shrug2:

[KathyandJer]

I would definitely NOT pay for it. If she wants one for herself, that's fine...but I think you should stick with your original gift plan.

This is definitely strange... the nerve of some people's parents!

[*alissa*]

I agree with Kathy, just get her what you would have originaly. Giving in to her will only tempt her to do it again, and again......

[Mimzy]

You have every right to be bother by her behavior! It is a few days before Your wedding. You went through a lot of planing for a special gift and she is messing you up. Do Not pay for hers! And let your JBM know that you had gotten her's first and the Mommy copied. Take the credit for this gift.
Ignore her - enjoy your last few days before your Wedding!


Edit: Can you up grade JBM's? I know you got something very nice. Can you add something like a charm? Just so it is different then crazy Mom's?
Could you talk to the jeweler and explain and ask them to hold up her order till after the wedding?

[RadishWife]

Yes, she did it, she went and ordered herself the exact same bracelet I'm getting for her daughter, not only that but she is copying the engraving as well all except the "Thank you" So now I guess I could one of two things, go ahead and pay for it and tell her its her gift or just suck it up and ignore it. I'm still not honestly sure why this is bothering me so much but it just seems really wrong. Any thoughts girls, need some help here. :errrr: :shrug2:
It seems really needy on her part... as if she has jumped the gun in thinking you should get her one as well, so she is going to get one too. There is an issue there and if I were you I would not think to hard about it.

[Mimzy]

Please - update us. How did the Jr. BM like her gift? I'm sure she loved it - sounded lovely! And how did the matching Mom do? Hope all went smooth!

[Venus]

Please - update us. How did the Jr. BM like her gift? I'm sure she loved it - sounded lovely! And how did the matching Mom do? Hope all went smooth!

Our Jr. BM really liked her gift, DH actually personally put it on her and thanked her, We did not give the mother hers (which she paid for and I picked up) until about an hour after we had given the Jr. BM hers. The mom was a complete "broomstick rider" as you can see by another thread posted here

[Mimzy]

So this was the same grumpy woman? So sweet that your DH got to have that moment with the JR BM.