What Do You Want (vs. What You Might Get)

[Marisa]

Who knows, we may be able to convince our friends and families to give us the parties that we want.....

Shower - I would like to have a spa day. I have told my MOH that I'd prefer this to a traditional shower and I hope we can do it. I don't think I'd want any games at the spa though...

Bachelorette - I am planning to throw a 'Sex and the City' / Housewarming party at my house a month before the wedding. The invites are via evite and attendees will be asked to provide the names of their favorite episodes for viewing that evening. I have the boardgame and prizes will be brazilian bikinis and sexy undies.

[nikkiana]

Shower - I wanted a fairly traditional shower, so that's what I'm getting. I'm a little more involved in planning it than I'm probably supposed to be, but oh well... Things need to get done.

Batchelorette - FH and I want to have our batchelor/batchelorette party together because we have a lot of mutual friends and most of my friends aren't female, so having the traditional "the guys party together" and "the girls party together" just isn't going to work... FH would have a ton of people partying with him and no one would be with me if we were to do it that way. I'm pretty sure our groomsmen and bridesmaids will respect our wishes with this (the bestman had his party the same way and my bridesmaids don't know any better. LOL!)

[So_Ready]

Shower - here, I am getting what I want, hopefully! I am getting one traditional family bridal shower luncheon thrown my my Mom and FMIL. Then I'm also getting a Dirty Lingerie Shower/In-town Bach party as well.

Bach party - I would like to have stayed somewhere where they have a lazy river and fun water sports cuz we're going to Phx in the middle of hot 110 degree+ weather BUT my girls wanted to stay at a hip chic hotel. So that's what we're doing. I would rather have gone to Vegas or CA but I have a pg BM who can't travel so I've settled quite a bit and I'm having the party WAAAAAAY early to accommodate her. My Bach party is 2 weeks from today!

[KathyandJer]

Shower - doesn't really matter to me. Because I've been married before, I'm not expecting any sort of shower at all. Anything that anyone wants to take the time to do will be wonderful :)

Bachelorette Party - not having an official Bachelorette party, however I'm inviting a couple/few girls back to my hotel room after the rehearsal party to sit 'n chat and watch a movie or whatever. If I can manage it, I really want to do the matching PJ thing too :lol2:

[Jaci]

Shower: I'm having a fairly traditional shower. It's going to be outside at a park. One of my BM's told me she though a fantastic idea would be to invite everyone and have it a potluck.:eek: I immediately got on the phone with another BM to tell her how tacky that would be. I hope there are games. I like games. I would really like to have an English Tea Party, but I don't think that's happening.

Bach/ette: I just want to do the bar/tacky veil/fun with the girls type stuff. I really don't want a stripper though. I have no idea what is being planned for that.

[Kari]

Shower - not gettin' one :( I live too far away.

Bach'ette - I described what I want to one of my girls as SATC, not Girls Gone Wild, Martinis and Margaritas not Beer Bongs and Boilermakers. We will probably do dinner at a favorite restaurant and go drinking/dancing/partying on/around Bourbon St.

[Angela]

Shower: I'm getting the huge shower with every female relative from both sides of the family invited....not my idea of a great time (I've been to TOO many of these!) but it's how it's done.

Bach: I dunno....my sister, my MOH, won't be 21 until 5 days before the wedding, so some of the other girls will have to plan it. They know I don't want anything too crazy. I would like to do dinner somewhere first so that my sister can come! She and I will probably do something alone together at some point just to hang out.

[Poloke]

Showers-(there will be two)- I'd like something simple and casual, with games. Maybe a nice afternoon lunch style thing?

Bachelorette- I'd like to go see the male revue but the ladies in my party have pretty much said THEY don't want to do that. I mentioned wanting to have a Pleasure Party and they looked like they were ready to crawl out of thier skins...so, I guess my bachelorette is going to be tame & blah... I'm already disappointed at that because I never really had the chance to go crazy & wild with a bunch of girlfriends for a night on the town, I was hoping my B party would be that one chance....

[KathyandJer]

Bachelorette- I'd like to go see the male revue but the ladies in my party have pretty much said THEY don't want to do that. I mentioned wanting to have a Pleasure Party and they looked like they were ready to crawl out of thier skins...so, I guess my bachelorette is going to be tame & blah... I'm already disappointed at that because I never really had the chance to go crazy & wild with a bunch of girlfriends for a night on the town, I was hoping my B party would be that one chance....

Geez, you plan the Pleasure Party and I'll be there - that always looked like fun, but I'm not sure I'd be brave enough to host one :lol:

[katieandalex]

For shower, I as pretty open...I just didn't want a big huge shower that was all uptight and stuffy....but I think my sister hit the nail on the head with the mexican fiesta themed shower! :) I can't wait to attend!!!

For the b-ette party, I just wanted to hang out at my apartment or something and watch movies and play boardgames or something....nothing too extreme and we couldn't do the bar-hop thing because 2 of the people attending will not be 21 yet. But my sister is planning on renting a hotel room at the same hotel we are having the shower at (we are having both the shower and the party on the same day)...but I'm not sure what she has planned after that.

[bnd94]

I don't want either.

[jrbecca]

What a great thread!

For my shower, I'd like something that screams girly--perhaps having high tea in my aunt's park-like backyard.

For my bachelorette party, I really want something tasteful. I was thinking about asking that it be a "pottery" evening--we start off making or painting pottery and then go to a Greek restaurant that will let us throw plates on the floor. My wheels are still turning on this one...

[jillian]

Shower: I want a laid back couples shower. I do not want a girly shower with games. I hate games. And I won't sit there and open presents in front of everyone.

[Baconsmom]

Shower: I really don't want one. Like, REALLY don't. But I'm afraid my FMIL will override me and throw another surprise shower like she did when I was pregnant - she invited people I didn't know; did that stupid "fill out the envelopes game"; and had complained that a friend of mine was throwing me another shower, even though she wanted hers to be a surprise - and Fi told her I HATE surprises. Fi's under orders to convince her not to throw a shower at all costs!

Bachelorette: We're doing a combined party at a karaoke bar, and we'll pay our own way. Neither of us has any interest in strippers or acting single for a night, and this will be more fun for everyone involved. (We will still get our drink on, more than likely!)

[Christa]

Bachelorette - I am planning to throw a 'Sex and the City' / Housewarming party at my house a month before the wedding. The invites are via evite and attendees will be asked to provide the names of their favorite episodes for viewing that evening. I have the boardgame and prizes will be brazilian bikinis and sexy undies.

That sounds like so much fun!

[rowanmayfairs]

Shower - I would love to have a spa day. But I know I won't be having a shower much less a Bachelorette party cause there is one to throw them for me.

I wish I had a bunch of friends to celebrate with and such.. My best friend is doing her best to raise her daughter so she will do my tan for me before my wedding but no money for gifts for parties :) Thats okay cause I will be very thrilled to have her and daughter at wedding :)

[belle67]

FSIL was asking me this yesterday and I said anything goes except for strippers.
I think we all may go out for dinner downtown followed by hitting he bars. I have a funning feeling I will have to wear a veil and awful clothes. :lol:

[lizaanne]

Shower: I'm torn. The practical side of me says you really don't need anything, you don't want to invite certain women on the guest list so don't bother, you don't want to put your Friends of Honor in a position to have to do this. Then my totally frivolous side would so totally love a tea party with all the pretty china and crystal, and sweet little things for our house together for the bedroom and bath. :) But I probably won't have one, so oh well. :( Oh - and I hate games too, so maybe it's just as well.

Bachelorette: I will strangle anyone who even suggests anything more than a couple friends going to a day spa for some pampering. I absolutely despise the idea of a bachelorette party. It's totally not me.

~Liza

[jrbecca]

Bachelorette: I will strangle anyone who even suggests anything more than a couple friends going to a day spa for some pampering. I absolutely despise the idea of a bachelorette party. It's totally not me.



I have to agree with you on this--a stereotypical bachelorette party just isn't my cup of tea either. I went to my MOH's raunchy event last year and about crawled under my seat I was so shocked and uncomfortable.

[*Sarah*]

Shower - I would like to have one couples shower so I don't have to travel back to MI any more than necessary and I don't want to try and squeeze two into one trip. I'm hoping FSIL and FAIL (aunt in law) will just work with my MOH to consolidate! FH's side of the family is just ginormous though and they live for these events so it might get too big for that.

Bachelorette - I'm not really expecting one since I'm so far away. If there is one, I'd rather do something fun that my sister who will be 15 at the time can be involved with than the "typical" bachelorette party. We'll see what my BP comes up with :dontknow:

[KathyandJer]

Shower - doesn't really matter to me. Because I've been married before, I'm not expecting any sort of shower at all. Anything that anyone wants to take the time to do will be wonderful :)

Bachelorette Party - not having an official Bachelorette party, however I'm inviting a couple/few girls back to my hotel room after the rehearsal party to sit 'n chat and watch a movie or whatever. If I can manage it, I really want to do the matching PJ thing too :lol2:


Need to do an update - Jer's Best Person is throwing us a couple's shower - it will just be something relaxed and fun - probably a BBQ in her backyard! Now I happen to know that her and her mother are good ones for coming up with some kind of crazy themes, but hey, whatever they want to do, I feel honoured that they are :)