Dress appointment

[US_UKlove]

So I made an appointment over a month ago to go try on dresses (my first time!) next Thursday. I told my best friend and she agreed to go with me.

I emailed her yesterday to confirm and she now tells me that she's made plans to have dinner at her mom's that night.

Might as well cancel now. What's the point going if no one is there to give me an honest opinion on how the dresses look? My mom and sister both already had something going that night (which is why I asked my best friend to come along).

[carolinalady67]

I'm sorry your friend cancelled on you. But don't be so quick to cancel your appointment. The first time I tried on dresses I went by myself. Take a camera with you, take a picture of each dress you try on. They will probably tell you more then a bunch of opinions. Then go back later with your friend and just try on the two or three you liked best and see what she thinks.

[US_UKlove]

I know you're right - and I don't mind going by myself! Its just that the appt is for a weird time (7 pm) but since my friend lives close to the shop, we were going to go to her house after work, have dinner and then go over there.

If I don't have that option, I basically have 3 hours to kill between the time I get off work and my appointment. I live about 35 mins away from the shop, so going home after work and then going back to the shop seems like a waste of time and gas.

I'll just reschedule for a Saturday or something. Besides, I'm STILL waiting on word to hear that my fiance's immigration case will be sent to London. I sent the papers in 88 days ago, and no word yet. I almost don't feel much like getting too gung ho until we have at least jumped that hurdle.

I'm just sort of :( about it all today.

[Poloke]

:petting::hug99:

It is downright upsetting when people cancel out on ya! If you still feel up to it, go look at gowns, try some on. you will at least get an idea of what types of styles flatter you and what ones dont.

Please try to keep your chin up in this and know it will hopefully get better.
*Hugs*

[Kari]

Everytime I went dress shopping, I went alone. Sometimes it is much better to do it that way since you don't have people telling you that EVERYTHING is beautiful. We already KNOW that the dresses are beautiful!

It is kind of a bummer to not share that exciting part of planning with someone, but if you go alone first and decide what type of style you want, you can take your friend later and she can help you narrow it down to the one!

[US_UKlove]

Thanks misssparky for the hugs :) and words.

Kari - you may just be right. I've not cancelled the appointment yet. I'm considering calling them this weekend and seeing if maybe I can bump the time up (where I won't have 3 hours of time to kill). I figure they shouldn't be swamped on a Thursday night, so I bet they can accomodate me.

[Winter_Bride]

Kari has a great point! If you can bump up the time, I would still go. I did end up going with friends/family each time, but I found the ONE person who was most truthful about the dress styles on me was the consultant! Everyone else was probably afraid I'd go Bridezilla on them later! :giggle:

I'm really sorry that you're going through so much right now with immigration! :hug:

[*Ashley*]

Aw, that sucks :( it's part of the fun of the wedding and I'm sorry that she cancelled.

Go it alone, then take her back next fitting? I dunno.

[US_UKlove]

:) Thanks. Seems like I sort of change how I feel about it every half hour or so. I'm not going to cancel it yet in case I do decide I want to go anyway. Maybe it'll take my mind off the lack of immigration success (at least a little bit).

[Kari]

There is nothing in the world like trying on all of those dresses. It is like being a princess picking out a dress for the grand ball. I told the lady in one of the stores "Bring me the most expensive dress you have! I am not going to buy it, but I want to experience of wearing a dress that costs thousands of dollars!"

She gladly did it :)

[Mimzy]

:hug: Sorry! Hope you are able to work something out. So hard not to have the support that you are needing. Hope you hear soon about your fiance's immigration!!

[Winter_Bride]

There is nothing in the world like trying on all of those dresses. It is like being a princess picking out a dress for the grand ball. I told the lady in one of the stores "Bring me the most expensive dress you have! I am not going to buy it, but I want to experience of wearing a dress that costs thousands of dollars!"

She gladly did it :)

A group of us in university used my friend's upcoming nuptuals as an excuse for us ALL to go dress shopping together during finals! NOTHING takes your cares away from a poli sci exam you never studied for than trying on a $5000 gown! :giggle:

[Andrea]

I know how much of a bummer it must be to have your friend cancel on you, however, I believe in what Erie said. The ppl who will be the most truthful ARE the ppl at the shop

[US_UKlove]

Thanks guys. I'm still on the fence about going. I think if I got word that immigration was moving forward, I'd feel more like going. Its just some psychological hurdle, I guess. Its not as if we aren't getting married just cos immigration is slow (or even if I couldn't bring him here) but still.

I treated myself to a massage last night and it was the best thing I could have done for myself. I left there not stressing about anything (least of all immigration). I'm going again in two weeks. :D

[Winter_Bride]

Go dress shopping, try on some beautiful dresses, figure out what styles look good on you, and have fun! ;)

:hug99: And boo for the government and immigration!! :(

[Mandy]

Did you end up going Tracy?

[US_UKlove]

My appointment isn't until this Thursday. I honestly haven't decided yet what I feel like doing. I haven't cancelled the appointment yet, so I guess that's something!

I'm hoping this is our week to hear from immigration - so I'd appreciae all the good vibes you gals can muster for me. :) Of course, tomorrow is a federal holiday, so we'll only get 4 work days out of them anyway - but I'm still hoping they can squish our case in somewhere in that 4 days.

[renee]

Tracy, I'm sorry your friend cancelled on you. Trying not to judge here, but it's hard - I mean, she can't resched dinner with her mom???? This is a pretty big deal for you! It really makes me wish I were closer because I would totally pick up where your friend is leaving off.

I'm glad you got yourself a massage - definitely one of the best things you can do for yourself.

And honestly... I would just go. It doesn't have to be your first and LAST appointment looking for dresses. Go, take your camera, have the ladies take pics. You are such a strong, lovely woman, you can do this on your own if need be. Don't stop YOUR dress shopping just because a friend has let you down.

Good luck with your decision. I hope you still go - I'll be with you in spirit and would LOVE to see any photos of what you tried on to help you make any decisions!!

[US_UKlove]

Awww thanks Renee! You're a gem. :) I'm really just unsure what I want to do. I agree its kind of crappy for my friend to have cancelled. I'm sure she just didn't put it on her calendar, but still. If she had asked me to do something with her that I knew meant a lot to her, I would have put it on my calendar so I didn't forget.

I also don't have a digital camera. Well, my fiance does (but of course, its in England!), so I haven't seen the need to buy another one. I'd have to take any photos on my crappy camera on my phone (or have the dress lady take it). So I dunno.

I'm telling myself that I need to make my decision by the end of tomorrow (in which case, I'd have enough time to call and get the appt time moved up and/or cancelled). But I just thought I'd be farther along now in the decision than I am.

[US_UKlove]

Ok so I didn't keep the appointment. My heart just wasn't in it.

I'd rather go when I'm looking forward to it - you know?

[Winter_Bride]

:hug99:

[US_UKlove]

:) Thanks, girl.