Break-ups Pre-E?

[*Ashley*]

I was just thinking about this.

Did you and your FH break up Pre-E or if you're still Pre-E, have y'all had a patch where you've broken up?

Michael and I broke up for about 18 hours once. It was the most miserable I have ever been (and drunkest as a result...and most tired after 2 hours of sleep because I couldn't). It was bad. Anyhow, of course he realized how stupid it was because we really broke up over NOTHING. Seriously, nothing.

We had times where we both weren't sure, but once we were at the same place in our lives, it was easy!

[MrsAbi]

We broke up for about six months. He is two years older than me and he went off to college while I was still in high school.

We have the same birthday and a couple days before our birthday, he IMed me and we agreed to meet online just before midnight to celebrate our birthday. Well, I accidently fell asleep that night and didn't get online. He called me up the next day to *dramaticaly* tell me how hurt he was. We got back together after that.

[Coze]

Hi hi-

We broke up and it last for a whole day because he was jelous that I went out on a date the night we broke up. He realized that he didn't want to break up with me after that...

TTFN...
D.J.

[RDC_girl]

Mark and I have never broken up in the 4 years and 7 months (today) we have been dating. We have had one fight that may have resulted in a break up right before the 2.5 year point, it was a scary time but we never broke up.

I know a friend of mine when she was dating her husband, they broke up for a week after about 2 years together, then got back together.

[Christa]

We broke up 2 years ago and it lasted a couple of months. I felt like I was too young and wanted to date other guys. I dated like 3 guys and had some fun, but I missed Nate like crazy and it just made me realize that I only wanted to be with him.

[Krissy]

We've never broken up. I did that before with a past bf but that's because he just sucked.

[*heather*]

DH and I broke up for 3 months because he told me he would never consider having children. That, then, was not an option for me. We were both miserable, really really miserable, and we got back together on my 25th bday with the condition that we'd both live with "maybe" for a while. It worked out, obviously.

[Sk8ermaiden]

Nope, never. Never even been close...everything just kind of fell into place when we started dating.

[~Lizzybeth~]

Yeah, we did once for about a week. I was beginning to finally be okay and then he came back. We haven't done it since

[HisBlue]

We've never broken up and then got back together.

We talked about it... ONCE and just talking about it bothered us too much to do it!

[*Ashley*]

Were your break-ups for stupid reasons? Ours definitely was. I ended up going out and getting trashed that night, he ended up going out with his friends for an hour then went home :) Neither of us handled it well, obviously :)

I think it strengthened our relationship actually and I'm not sure if it would really be considered one, LOL -- it was so short!

[MrsAbi]

Our reason wasn't really silly, just kinda weird. It was toward the beginning of our relationship and with him in college, we didn't see each other every day and our scheduled didn't match up so we kida just lost contact.

[jillian]

We broke up for a month. It was definately for stupid reasons. I cannot remember the reasons, but they do not matter as now we are happy and getting hitched!

[~Tala~]

Yeah, DH and I broke up for two years! We met when we were 17 and things were getting too serious....he wanted to see other people...see what else was out there. So we both did. It was the best thing that could have happened...it made us realize how much we truly loved each other and that we were meant to be!

It wasn't for a stupid reason IMO. We were both immature (him more than me, lol)...but we were able to find ourselves and then come back together as more mature people. We've dated for a total of seven year.

[kate]

We haven't ever broke up, not even close. We hardly ever fight either.

[Deidre98]

We have never broken up but we came close a few times due to the fact that I was living in San Diego and he was in the Bay Area and neither one of us handled that part of our LDR very well.

[~Sara~]

FH and I broke up once when we first started dating. We were dating for about 3 months and things were moving way too fast and getting way too serious for me, who had never had a serious relationship before. I ended it and "dated" a few other people but we got back together about 4 months later. Honestly, I think it was great for our relationship because we were both able to see what else was out there but then realized we were meant to be :happysigh: We've been together ever since...and that was about 4.5 years ago :heee:

[~LeAna~]

We had a really rough patch once. I found out something about his past that really upset me and made me think differently of him. I cried and cried for about 4 days. We talked about it a lot and I realized that his past is his past and he can't change that no matter how much I cry.

[*meghan*]

We've never broken up, but we did have an argument about 2 years ago that almost resulted in us breaking up (and it definitely wasn't anything stupid). We ended up working through it, and now I think it's made our relationship stronger. :)

[Kya]

Yes we have broken up twice actually.

We had gotten together fairly young and in 2001 we broken up for a yr and half. We both dated other people and tried to be civil to one another due to the sake of our son. And this past summer for three weeks due to us both stressing on a serious note. It was mutual and it hurt like hell, but I lost my independence due to me being comfortable and I needed to find it.

He was going through something mentally as far as the whole marriage thing is concerned. He knew I was for him, but he wanted to make sure he was the right one for me. He didn't want me to change my mind and not walk down the aisle or even ask for a divorce.

But, it all worked out. I didn't see anyone during that time and neither did he.
And we sat and talked on the third week of being seperated and decided that we needed and wanted each other. That our love was more on a spritual plane and it was more then a physical, emotional, mental, verbal plane to us.

[*Stacie*]

We have never broken up or have ever come close... although when we did have our 2 fights I thought that this may be it.. done. But we worked them out within a day.

[Stitch's girl]

We did break up once... when we started dating, I was 19 and he was 22. We were both in college together only for that first year, and while he did not leave the area afterwards, it was still different. I still had 2 more years of school, and he was meeting new people, working on his career... we both kinda felt like we were holding the other one back, so we broke up after 2 years together.
The break up lasted 8 months, during which we did not speak at all (and let me tell you, the first month of it was the most miserable I have ever been). I then spent most of my senior year of college single, dating new people, and having a great time with my friends. Nate and I ran into eachother one night and spent the whole night talking and catching up, and we haven't been apart since. We never would have wound up together if we had tried to stay together the first time- we really needed the clarity of seeing what it was like without each other to fully appreciate what we have together. We have been together 5 years now since reconciling, and 3 months to go till the wedding!

[MrsRea]

Yes we have broken up once as well. We had been together 2 1/2 years and I was about to turn 21. We had been dealing with a long distance relationship and some other little things. I had a miscarriage a few months before and neither one of us handled it well. So I told him we needed some time apart. We still talked every few days and when he came in town to visit we would still see each other. But we dated others and after about 3 months I was miserable. Oh, during that time he would just cry to me on the phone and beg me to change my mind. But I just knew that we needed time apart. He then decided he was going to go to florida for spring break with a bunch of people....girls :sigh: ...and it was the most miserable week ever knowing he was down there. I had a talk with him before he left asking if we could get back together and he told me he would think about it and went off to florida. We got back together in March of 2003 and then he proposed in August. We both know now that it was the best thing for us. We both got to make sure that we wanted to be together.

sorry so long...

[smiles]

We've never come close to breaking up. There were little fights, but nothing that would have caused us to break up. There was a time where I was thinking about moving away to take a job where we didn't know if we could do a LDR, and if I had taken that job we probably would have broken up, but it didn't feel right to take that job, so I stayed by him and everything worked out.

[Jaci]

I think we broke up for about five minutes one time, it was soon after we graduated high school and things were really difficult, but I don't count it as a break up. We have taken breaks to give each other space, but never break ups.

[lunarmagic]

My DH still teases me that I "dumped" him once. We were long-distance (REALLY long distance) and that first summer I visited him (4 years ago - yikes!) I was having a great time, loving it, loving him... but I just kept thinking, when I go back to college, how is this going to work? I'm never going to be able to survive, this relationship will never work out. I think I told him what I was thinking, that when I went back to college I just didn't think I could keep it up.

Of course we decided to just "try it and see", and three and a half years later I moved permanently and we got married. ;) So I guess it did work!

[SmilingHoney]

I believe at our 9 month point (of our 7 year relationship) we broke up for almost a month. People from his past were showing up and causing problems for us. He thought that I would get upset at how complicated things were getting so he decide it was better to see other people. So after 2.5 weeks of moping, my friend set me up for a blind date. FH heard about it and wasn't really happy about it. I didn't really want to go on the date, but decided that it was better to move on. Then FH heard through our friends that I was skipping class to get a tattoo. He tagged along with one of them and started to try to talk to me. I barely spoke to him (or our friend that brought him) that night. He kept calling after that and after making him wait a week, I took a chance on him again. That first night we went out again, he said that he loved me (for the first time). We haven't looked back since!

[lalalola]

We've never broke up but we came close twice. At about the 2 1/2 yr mark, Brian started working this new job that took him out of town for months straight (honestly~~~and we were used to living together) and we had just moved away from all our family and friends and I was so lonely...and had way too much time to think......I was thinking that I needed to experience life for myself....but as soon as he got home, I realized why I had stuck in with out relationship for so long. We both worked really hard to talk more (while he was away) and spend our time together better (no more tv nights) and Brian also took more time off of work. We also went through the exact same stuff just after the five year mark.....we had both quit smoking, so we were so grumpy and my brother also moved in with us, so we had no time together....it was terrible.

But, what doesn't kill u only makes u stronger!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Jessica!]

Heath & I never broke up.

[sweetiez]

Ohh lord.. yes we have before but it lasted like an whole maybe 2 hours if we are lucky!!? the whole time we were just HORRIBLE. it was over stupid crap too!!! He just got all depressed saying he has nothing to live for cuz i am everything to hem. and that he loves me more then life its self *awww* yeah i feeel the same way..his everything to me. Honestly... I dont think we could ever live without each other.. it was like we were made for each other. oh by the way them 2 hours were the worse feeling... and time that has EVER happened to me.. I hope that would never happen again. and hasn't i think it has made us stronger and made us realize we are ment to be!!! :) We been through ALOT and if we can get through what we have in the past. We can get through ANYTHING. :)

[Hughto]

We haven't broken up. We've close to taking breaks before, but not actually breaking up.

[*Sarah*]

We broke up about 9 months into our relationship. I let my best friend convince me that FH wasn't the one for me. We came back to work our summer job a few months later and things were awkward at first but eventually we started hanging out as friends. Soon neither of us were feeling like we were "just friends" but because we had become such good friends, I was reluctant to make it a romantic relationship again. We couldn't fight those feelings for long though and before we knew it, we were a couple again. I think I have a better appreciation of my feelings for him now and I know that even though there were things I didn't like about him, they couldn't beat the things I LOVED about him.:loveydovey:

[jenn2350]

We broke up for 3 hours, over something really innocent that I made into something bigger, and then 2 days later we were shopping for rings. We've lived together for 2 years and been together for 4 years.

[Flying_V_Goddess]

About three weeks ago we had sort of a break up...

I've known Nick for about 4 years and when we always had some sort of connection that I tried to fight. So it was no surprise when he said he wanted to marry me and we started talking about it more and more and it got me really thinking about a wedding even though he hadn't (and still hasn't) given me the official proposal with the ring (right now our engagment is kind of like a mutual agreement with a ring on layway being paid off slowly). And the more I thought about being a bride the more insane I got. What dress will I wear? How will my hair look? Should I keep growing my hair out for the wedding? What's my wedding theme? Am I going to even have a wedding theme? That sort of thing.

I told you that story to tell this story. About three weeks ago we were at the mall with some friends and the first thing you see when you walk into the mall is a jewelry store. And there's several more jewelry stores on the way to Game Stop and Hot Topic. That was Hell for me because I got wedding on the brain and Nick hadn't proposed to me yet, but he keeps telling me he wants to marry me. To makes maters worse, I had forgotten my little notebook in the car (if I see a piece of clothing in a store I'll sketch it out in hopes that one day I'll create it for myself) so I had to walk past all those jewelry stores with Nick to grab my notebook form the car.

I just freaked out once we got to the car. I told him how I felt about the whole thing. "You keep on telling me you want to marry me, but I haven't seen a ring. I feel like my chain is being yanked." Then I got to thinking that maybe he really DIDN'T want to marry me because there's "something wrong with me" and doesn't know how to tell me. So I couldn't take it anymore and said that we're over.

We hadn't been broken up for an hour when we got back together. And while I was walking around the mall he had finally decided to look at a ring and said he wanted to show it to me. :)

[MostlyMel]

We took a break for about a week at our 1.5 year mark, then we were together for about 2 months before we broke up again. A month later, I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant and told him about it. We both got so excited that we decided to go out together that night to celebrate and to talk about how we'd work everything out. So we went to dinner and then ended up going shopping and looking at all kinds of baby stuff. Afterwards we went back to his house and had a long talk about how the past month had been miserable for us and that we should get back together. Not just because of the baby but the pregnancy is what brought us together that night and it was such a great night and we realized that we were really meant to be.

[sweetiez]

awwwwwwww Melanie thats so beautiful :)

[IneedCaffeine]

We broke up for 3 whole days. I could hardly stand it. I ended up texting him and told him I was sorry for saying the things I said. We got back together the next day :D. It was a real fight though, nothing small. We were having serious problems with the way he was making me raise his daughter. I was a SAHM but it felt like I was a single stay at home mom. He was never home, always working or playing pool. And one day I wanted to go shopping with my mother and I didn't want to take his daughter with me (my grandparents had my son) and he wigged out on me saying he needs a "break". I was like, "well what about me? I'm with her 24/hrs a day." At that time she was VERY stubborn (still is lol) and no one wanted to make her mind because they felt sorry for her after living with her mother (that's another story all on it's own). Anyway- he moved out. We got back together 3 days later but we staid living in seperate places for about 4 or 5 months. Then we moved back in together. It hasn't been all rosey since then but it's MUCH better and he's more willing to give me a break now, even if it's just a 10 minute nap.

[renee]

Oh, man, we broke up SEVERAL times when we were first together. On, off, On, Off... it was so disheartening and every single time we got back together simply because we were miserable without the other one. We had some issues, we both sought treatment (I'm still in therapy) and we committed on Nov 19 2004 to make it work for good. We've not had any real issues since :)

[Allyson]

We broke for not even a day about a year ago. We were fighting over something ridiculous, and it obviously turned into a "big thing". I walked out of the fight and Luke said "we're done, this is over". I was SO devastated, ah! Just thinking about it makes me upset. That night, he came by my parents house where I was and we fixed everything.

[renee]

I totally understand that devastation :( To be honest sometimes I still hear the words "I don't love you anymore" in my head, something Ron said to me during one of our breakups :( I wish I could forget but that hurt SO bad... of course I FORGIVE him and I know it's not true, besides we ARE TOGETHER now... but I wish those words would disappear.

[~*Kate*~]

I thought that we would break up when we graduted from high school. I just assumed we would go to different schools and be done. That wasn't what I wanted, but I thought that at 18 we were too young to be deciding our futures based on each other. Meanwhile DH had already chosen which college he was going to, but was trying very hard not to put any pressure on me as I made my decision, and told me we would make things work no matter what, which made it much easier for me to rationally consider my options. :)

Finally I ended up choosing the same school he had-- not because he was going to be there, but because I had a full scholarship (we actually went to school on the same scholarship). Then he told me that he was secretly planning to transfer to whatever school I had chosen anyway. :lol: 10 years and a degree apiece later, it seems to have worked out!

[granola]

We broke up once for a few days when we were dating. I think it was about 3 mo into it. It was just immaturity honestly. I had a really shitty ex boyfriend that hated to see me happy. :rolleyes:

[*Kim*]

Jeff and I broke up almost 6 years ago and just got back together 4 months ago. Back then it was due to circumstances that we broke up and a series of events kept us apart afterwards. We still thought of each other and wanted to get back together when it first happened, but either one of us managed to get it together enough to call the other and do it. Then over the years, we dated other people, married them and eventually had babies. After 6 years, once my relationship was going to the crapper and his was rocky (and it was at my brother's wedding), we started talking again. We've kept in touch for the last almost 2 years now. He was there as much as he could be for me when I seperated from my ex husband (he was still married to a psycho b*tch so couldnt do much without her accusing him of sleeping with me) and when things finally ended with her, I was there for him. Its not 4 months later, and we have been officially dating for almost 3 months.

[*G & V*]

Broke up for about 1-2 months after being together 2 1/2 yrs because of my immaturity and feeling like I hadn't had my fill of other men :dunno: But it made me realize how much I wanted to be with him after being apart. We grew so much closer after all that :floating:

[jesmendi]

Wesley and I haven't broken up. The closest we ever came really wasn't that close. I was sick with gall-bladder attacks and freaking out cause I didn't know what was wrong with me. Then the doctor was rude to me when I took Wesley with me to figure out what was wrong and I freaked out. Wesley got frustrated because everyone seemed to be needing him so much at the time and he couldn't handle it anymore. That fight lasted about fifteen minutes.

[*Jenn*]

my bf and i have only been dating for a little over 2 years, but we've never broken up. we've come close a few times, but never gone the whole way. i'm not expecting a ring anytime soon - he's going into his junior year of college and, well, i just work full-time, a couple times over. and i'm currently working on getting my certification for wedding planning! :)