Going to a wedding

[smiles]

Did anyone go to a wedding while you were just dating FH? How did he feel like going as your date? Did it create wedding talk between you or your familes and friends for you?

[*Ashley*]

It was annoying! I knew I wanted to marry him but I'm two years younger and he had graduated college so all his friends were getting married like, a year later. It was nuts! I'm very glad I never have to go to another wedding with him pre-e!

[*TanyaJeanne*]

I had gone to many weddings with Chris pre-e...I would always ooohh and ahhh....He just kept telling me "someday honey that will be you"

lol

[Deidre98]

We went to 2 wedding's pre-e. The first one nobody really said anything to us because I was in college and they all knew we wouldn't be getting married any time soon. The second was FSIL's wedding and everyone kept asking us when we were getting married. it got really annoying!

[MrsAbi]

I went as his date to a wedding while we were pre-e. The bride was his former manager so noone really said anything. It didn't really prompt us to talk about getting married, but we did talk about alot of things the couple did that we would never do. (There were several things we didn't like.)

[fideliaamora]

Did anyone go to a wedding while you were just dating FH? How did he feel like going as your date? Did it create wedding talk between you or your familes and friends for you?

we went to a wedding this past may. i want to say it was our 2nd wedding together... but the first one was his brothers (and we'd been dating for about 3 months), so the first one didn't. The second one was right after our 1 year anniversary, and our third will be my brothers (which is in about a month). THe last one did cause some wedding talk, but nothing too major. I guess it's because we really didn't have alot to do with that one... however, my brother's has caused more! Then again, by the time my bro gets married we'll have been dating for 17 months (almost to the day) and I'm starting to get a lil' more antsy (i'll blame it on the girl genes) to get married. I guess I feel the last one to get married and there have been (or will be) 7 couples I (we) know get married this year. For those of you who dream about being married--you should understand :)

[jillian]

We went to a ton of weddings pre-e. Actually our 3rd date was his cousin's wedding. At that wedding his brother asked me when we were getting married! (jokingly since that was the first time i met his family). Nobody really said anything to us at the weddings until 2 years ago. The ever popular: You guys are next!!!

[fideliaamora]

We went to a ton of weddings pre-e. Actually our 3rd date was his cousin's wedding. At that wedding his brother asked me when we were getting married! (jokingly since that was the first time i met his family). Nobody really said anything to us at the weddings until 2 years ago. The ever popular: You guys are next!!!

haha... that reminds me of my bf's brothers wedding. it was (literally) a shot gun wedding... no music, nothing. her 4 yr old daughter "gave her away"... it was crazy. anyways, AS SOON as they announced "kiss the bride" his dad looks at me and says "so when are you doin this!?" ( mind you, we'd only been dating 3 or 4 months!!) now that we've been togetther a year and a half, i get it alot more. now his extended family are asking what their role for the wedding will be! (they are from way out in the country. they are used to have family do everything... one do cooking... one do flowers... one do pics... one do hair--that's what she was talking about). i kindly informed her that i'd already envisioned my dream wedding and that it'll all get taken care of fine! (of course, in the context this was fine. after about 5 min. of badgering i couldn't take it. she was talking to me like i wasn't going to have a WEDDING... but more like a shotgun wedding... she wouldn't understand that my planned wedding to my ex had 300 invited. lol... it should call for an interesting evening IF we get married!)

i love his family, they really are great... but we both grew up in 2 really different ways and it really shows in some aspects!

[jillian]

You know what my response to his question was? "Next week." That's when his brother knew I was a good fit for him!

[BJ'sBabyGirl]

We have gone to a few weddings since we have been dating and we were in most of them (not engaged for any of them). The first was my sister's, I was MOH. It was adorable because when I turned around for the processional he was sitting there with my little brother on his lap and this big grin on his face. It enhanced the wedding talk (I had joined UW to help get ideas for showers and such, and became addicted to the pre-e threads because of this wedding) I thought it was going to happen soon after that (2 1/2 years is soon?). The next was his dad's good friends wedding. This one was fun. We had a great time (the bride is actually our cake lady). Didn't really excite too much talk about ours. The next was his good friends wedding, he was MOH (hehe). I was super annoyed by this one because they were our age, had been dating less time and she was going to break up with him, he proposed and all was well. It did bring up wedding talk but I was kind of bitter because it was one of those 'should be my turn' things. Then there was my best friend's wedding last year. I was a little bitter because I was hoping to be engaged by this time but so happy for my friend. I was mistress of ceremony and he helped me quite a bit. This did bring up a lot of talk because I was really behind the scenes making sure everything was working well and he was asking questions about pricing on venues and such as well as vendors we liked/didn't like. The last wedding we attended pre-e was a wedding of one of his best friends. I was very bitter at this one. We had been dating for a couple of months shy of 4 years and weren't even engaged, they had known each other since October (it was Jan) and were getting married! It did bring up a lot of "we are not doing that" (seemed a lot like a shotgun wedding...we are still confused about the rush). We haven't been to a wedding since getting engaged, but have 1 coming up in Sept and at least 4 next year (July, Aug and 2 in Sept) and he is in 3 of the 4. I am so glad that I won't be hearing "when will you guys finally get married"! Or at least be happy that I have an answer, now I just have to prepare for the stupid looks when they hear the date! LOL!

[Coze]

Hi hi-

Honey and I went to a wedding very shortly into our relationship. I was so fresh outta my last marriage and couldn't handle it so I ended up crying most of the time. When everyone left the ceremony location, I couldn't help it any longer and I just sat there and cried and cried. He held me close and comforted me though, sticking with me through the whole ordeal.

TTFN...
D.J.

[Michelle]

We went to quite a few weddings while we were just dating. It didn't really cause much anxiety on my part for awhile because we were so young at the time, but once I was about 20, and my best friend at the time, and my FSIL were planning their weddings and there was no talk at all of marriage between the two us, they became harder to handle.

What always makes it worse is when people say "When are you two going to get married?" before there are any plans for marriage at all. It hurts a lot. People should be more sensitive to that stuff.

As we became older we started to talk about marriage - what we liked, what we didn't, what we wanted and what we really didn't want as well! For the most part our families were kind enough not to push the subject for awhile and just let us fall into it on our own.

[*Stacie*]

The first wedding we went to when we first started dating was 3 months into the relationship. His sister was getting married in Portland Oregon so we drove down together. It was the first time I met his entire family!! I ended up catching the bouquet when she threw it and everyone went crazy. Bryan screamed "NOOOOOOOOOO!" hahahaha... and then I teased him about it for the rest of the night. I told him that bringing me to his sister's wedding didn't put any ideas in my head that weren't already there. I told him how girls are ALWAYS thinking to themselves, 'could he be the one?', and he whispered in my ear "I am the one!" *shivers down my spine*

Then at his brother's wedding last September I KNEW we would be the next to get married, and sure enough! Here we are, 29 days before our wedding! :)

[christinas2006]

We went to one of our friends weddings from work. He got married August 7, 2004. We both had already talked about getting married. We just started to talk about it more (Or I should say I talked about it more then him!) It is kind of funny because we are getting married on August 5, 2006. They thought it was really neat that it was close to their date.

[Trinia]

We had went to a few weddings pre-e, everytime it was people who are close to us so we got the usual "When is it your turn?" I found it did make it easier to talk about our own wedding whenever it was gonna be

[MsJessica07]

We went to my cousins wedding in January '06 (also, literally, a shotgun wedding) and there wasn't much talk from the family about the two of us, although he did come to the wedding with me and it was out of state, mostly because there were like 5 people who knew us. Most of the family there was hers, and we were the only ones there from my mom's sister's side. It definitely brought up wedding talk between us, since there were so many things we'd never do, but it was also practically the first time we'd talked about getting engaged or getting married out loud...

The evening after the wedding was the first time he admitted to me that he'd been musing about asking me to marry him...and it happened 6 months later :)

[angie]

My FH and I went to a wedding 5 months after we started dating. Someone asked us, "So! When are you 2 getting married?!" We were like... uhh..."we just started dating a few months ago!":blush: We've been to a few more weddings after that pre-e. No one else brought it up and we didn't really discuss marrying each other. We weren't in a rush.

[Kari]

We went to three weddings. There really wasn't aany "talk" but he caught the garter at ALL THREE.

[Marion]

Did anyone go to a wedding while you were just dating FH? How did he feel like going as your date? Did it create wedding talk between you or your familes and friends for you?


I went to two pre - e. The first one was a year and a half after we were dating and the second one was about 6 1/2 years after we were dating. The second one was tougher on me. :)

No one really said anything to us . Maybe his uncle but we just nodded and ignored it. I didnt want to get married at all so the first wedding wasnt bad because I was so busy meeting a ton of people. The second one was tougher because I was ready and he hadnt asked so I was driving myself crazy. I would say that the second wedding did get us to talking about marriage but not until a few months after it.

[Angela]

We went to 4 weddings before we were engaged, and 2 since we've been engaged, though we were invited to more and just couldn't make it because of some other obligation or travel trouble. This is actually the first year since we've been together that our wedding is the only one (for us, at least...my FSIL is in another wedding the weekend before ours!)!!

[curlgirl]

Wow - does this post hit home or what?!?!? :laugh3:

My boyfriend and I have been to many weddings over the years, most recently we went to one this last Saturday. At last count on Saturday we had 7 inquiries as to when "we" were getting married come from various friends/family members, not necessarily people close to us either. It makes you wonder why do people feel they have a right to ask a question like that?!?!? I mean I don't think I have EVER asked someone that unless it was my BF or something.

Of course the fact that I have caught (did not try to) the bouquet at the last 4 weddings we've gone to doesn't help the questions I'm sure. I didn't even go up for the bouquet toss at this last one :)

Curlgirl

[Andrea]

haha because i have a LARGE family and lots of friends, we've been invited to a lot. We've been to 2 together. I haven't really noticed any talk different but these wedding we attended we last summer...so we were together almost a year and a half already

haha he gets sick of so many weddings. we have 1 in august, 4 in september and 2 in october

[*meghan*]

I went to a wedding with Brent 2 weeks after we starting dating. No wedding vibes then :lol: I think I started to get them after we went to a wedding last summer - it must have worked b/c he proposed 6 months later! :)

[Crystal]

I actually went to a wedding as his guest about a month after we started dating. He was a groomsmen in the wedding so it was a little awkward. That was the first time I had met some of his family and I pretty much had to do it on my own. They were very nice though and made me feel comfortable. It took awhile to warm up to them at first.

[Jaci]

We went to a wedding a few months after we started dating, no questions then as we were still in high school. We then went to another wedding after our HS graduation, but no questions then because we only knew the bride and groom, none of the family or anything. We've also been to a wedding for his friend, and yeah, I think those people may have asked.

[Kathy]

At my FBIL's wedding back in June, pretty much every adult relative asked us when we're taking our turn. FH and I had already talked about it, so whenever someone said that to both of us, we just looked at each other, smiled, and said "we'll see." It was easier than getting annoyed, but also let people know that we were thinking about it already.

[lmhcmm]

Corey and I have only been to 3 weddings together. 2 before we became engaged. The first one, there was no talk of us getting married. The second, was his dad's wedding. LOTS of questions then and his step-mom (boy does that sound weird to say when he's 34 :lol: ) threw her toss bouqet AT me. :lol: A little over a month later he asked me to marry him. :)

[sweetiez]

Oh yes we went to a wedding May,2005 together.. it was really fun:)
He told me someday this will be us.. awwww...
and they had these lil rings all Around the tables.. and he grabbed one and said " This is for you" AWW it was soo cute!!!! And we were playing and running around with the kids.. and later on when we went home he told me someday he wanted kids too.. AWW yeah alot of talk about the future ;)

[Angela]

We went to....let's see....4 weddings together before we got engaged. We knew it was just a matter of time before we got engaged and married, so there was never any real talk about it.

We went to another 4 after getting engaged. Those were like going to school for me! I got to see what works and what doesn't work for most weddings, and I have to admit (even though I'm going to sound like I have a huge ego), I had the most fun at our wedding that I've ever had at any wedding. We've had a bunch of people tell us how much fun they had (including my MIL, and that's saying something, since her two oldest daughters were married before us!).

[*Kim*]

we havent gone to any as of yet when we were together. We have at least one this summer that we are going to. It might make us talk about it, but with him not even a year out of his horrible marriage, i dont see it happening.

[Fellnlove92203]

FH and I went to 2 weddings before we were engaged. We had a lot of fun at both of them. The first one we went to was almost a year after we started dating and only a few months after he gave me a promise ring. At the reception he told me that he couldn't wait to get married (he popped the question 2 years later... what happened to he couldn't wait!?!) Then the second one was his aunts wedding and that is when he decided he was ready (he asked me a few months later to marry him).

[Qweenie03]

...but we've had a pretty intense wedding experience already. His best friend got married in October, and FFH (future, future...?) was BM. He had to fly back to MO from CA and spent the week prior to the event running around like a crazy person trying to keep the groom calm, coordinate the bachelor party, and help the rest of the BP get everything in order. As his chauffeur, I got an up-close-and-personal look at how even a small wedding can have some pretty stressful aspects. I guess seeing his best friend get married and have a baby really got him to consider what it would be like to be a "grown up." It's been nice--we have very open dialogue about our own future, and have started planning our own ceremony in tiny, tiny steps. :floating:

[glamgurl36]

FH and I were supposed to go to a wedding together but we got in a huge fight, and i thought we were going to break up for good! It was so scary, we had just moved in together and we were still adjusting. he went with one of our mutual friends that is already married and has kids...but i was still bummed I didnt get to go with him. I was upset...but we worked everything out and since then things have been wonderful...we get to go to another wedding in about a month

[glamgurl36]

Did I use FH right? hahah I'm new to this...

[beachyarmygal]

We went to 1 wedding pre-e. We had already kinda been talking about marriage. We started talking about it when he got home from Iraq, because it was him move here or move back to maine. So it was a pretty HUGE desicion. So it depended on what we thought about our future.

But we haven't gone to another one since. And I don't know if we will until we get married haha. I guess I don't know that many people getting married.

[RDC_girl]

Mark and I have been to two weddings together. The first was my best friends LITTLE sister. We were dating about 2 years at that point and my friends grandma asked when we were getting marrried LOL. It was fun. The second wedding was my cousins. He and his gf started dating a month after mark and I started. They got married after 5 years. That wedding there were a lot more questions for us, mostly because it was my family lol. And over a year later, I am still not engaged LOL

[jesmendi]

Wesley and I have been to three weddings so far. But we have been talking about marriage since like three months into our relationship. We've talked about it a lot actually. Anyway...he hates going to weddings with me...calls me judgmental. I can't help that I'm picky about weddings! :laugh3:
At the last wedding we went to everyone was telling me to get in the front of the group to catch the bouquet cause I was gonna be next. And I guess, come to think of it, I am (at this point).

[Mel]

so, i know this is an old thread, but we went to one yesterday that totally got to both of us - esp b/c it is a couple we are very close with.
we have been making comments to each other when we are alone, but yesterday there were a few more sly/sneaky ones, esp from the rabbi's wife and the cantor. and we got a few after services on saturday morning as well...
but in the observant jewish world no one says that stuff straight up, so its all more sly and just funny - we each had the cantor comment on how he looked fwd to our wedding with some common phrases that kind of remind that it is g-ds will...

but the whole amazing wedding weekend of such close friends really brought us closer together i think.