How long were you dating before committing?

[Kya]

I just wanted to know how long everyone has been dating before becoming a actual hot item?

Like I said we really only dated as bbf not boy and girl or girl and boy.
But it was almost like within 2 mnths that I can say that we just said its official.

[MrsAbi]

We were good friends before we started dating. I think we always thought that we could be together for the long haul. We started really talking about marriage after we went to a wedding for one of his managers.

[TLC371]

We met on a blind date, we pretty much were serious right from the beginning. I would say within a month we were officially dating...we pretty much knew right from the start that we were it for each other.

[Krissy]

Well, let's see...our first date was Dec. 16th. I was seeing two other guys at the time. Broke it off with one of them before Christmas. Bob and I said I love you's and all that mushy stuff on NYE and I broke up with the other guy officially the next day. (though he knew it was coming) So what's that....like 2 weeks? yeah...2 weeks.

[smiles]

We started out as good friends. Our first date was Oct. 13th and we were going out regularly right away we just hit it off from the begining. We really became a couple December 19th when he asked me to go to his family Christmas.

[Fellnlove92203]

Fh and I were friends first and then started dating. I would say after about 8 months together we knew we wanted to get married (went to Vegas for my bday and fh wanted to get married right then!)

[Deidre98]

I think from our first date on we knew we were inseparable. Actually, nothing was ever really mentioned until one day we called each other our bf/gf to other people and looked at each other and it felt right.

[*Stacie*]

We count the day we met as the day we started dating- July 25th 2004! We met and I could not stop thinking about him and we were insperable after our first date. I would say he "officially" asked me to be his girlfriend on August 20th 2004?? Somewhere around then. Even though we both knew we were each other's SO.

[Trinia]

We were committed from the first time we started hanging out.

[Christa]

9-10 months. He went away to college and we didn't really know where it was going so we didn't become exclusive. After 1 semester away he transferred to a college closer to me and it was just a few months after that.

[BJ'sBabyGirl]

Our first date was on March 2, 2002 we became 'official' two weeks later on March 16, 2002. He gave me my promise ring on August 25, 2002. It just took another 3 1/2 years for the engagement ring LOL!

[jillian]

Neither of us are quite sure of our official date.

[Jaci]

we dated from September through November 5, 1999 before we made it official, though neither dated anyone through that time.

[fideliaamora]

we went on our first date feb. 21... we didn't date anyone else... but we also didn't make things "official" until march 14. it's kind of hard, bc we can't decide which date to go by. when we made things official was a sweet night... but we really dated almost a full month before hand. what do you ladies think? this could pose as a good QOD. what do you count as your anniversary... when things became official or when you went on your first date?

[Angela]

About a month after we started dating, I think.....it was probably a little less though

[*Ashley*]

I met him in September 2000 but we didn't start dating until December 2 and were together then -- he doesn't remember this (conveniently) but he invited me and my roommate over to watch football (he remembers this) and then I stayed over there, and one of his roommates walked mine home. Anyhow, we didn't go to sleep until about 2AM and he kissed me and said "I think we'd be good together" then said what time is it -- and said okay, it's December 2."

So that's the date we count as our anniversary -- he's not much into them, but I, being a girl, am :)

[Noelle]

we count the day we met as our "anniversary date" We dated long distance for about 2 years (okay, our entire relationship before our wedding).

[Poloke]

We met online but on our first date I pretty much knew he was the one. don't ask how, its just a gut feeling. That was on halloween. By january, we talked about getting engaged, and went ring shopping the next month. So we've pretty much been serious from the start.

[*meghan*]

Our "official" date is August 2nd. We met in college 8 years ago and were friends, but never dated. We didn't see each other again for 5 years after that and when we met up again, sparks flew and that was it! I think there was always a hidden attraction for one another when we were in college together, but neither of us did anything because we were dating other people! I love knowing that the attraction stayed with us for 8 years :)

[bnd94]

We started dating April 3, 1994. We got engaged on xmas 1997

[RadishWife]

My husband and on an online dating service and talked for a really long time and just knew we wanted to meet. I would say after the first date we knew that there was something there. He was and always has been a gentleman. When we went out the first time there were butterflys and I felt like a school girl dating for the first time, we both took our realationship slow and spent everyday together and after two three weeks of meeting in person we were only dating each other. We did not do any naughty naughty for a long while after, we wanted to be able to say I love you before we did that and we knew this was not a realationship to mess up. As you can see he loves me...lol due anyday now! (oh lord please let today be the day!)

[Michelle]

We began talking in High School in early October 1999, and became official on November 2.

[Cindy]

Jim and I met online in January 11, 2005. I actually was talking to someone else too, whom I thought was "the one". But Jim was more local, as this other person was in the South. I remember talking to my mom about both of them, and saying that Jim was closer and "he such a nice guy". He told me he loved me about a month after, but I didn't say it until late March of 2005. So, while I never met "Mr. Alabama", as I called him...I would say that Jim and I were serious pretty much from the start.

[theAmericanNtheSwede]

i think it must have been by the end of our first date ;)
we just knew....

[Ally]

we say that we became an item the day we met, cuz we have been together ever since.

[belle67]

The day we met.
My dad set us up and we talked on the phone for a week before we actually met. When we did, we just knew that we would be together exclusively from then on.

[katieandalex]

Umm.....1 day. Is that bad? We were completely commited after our first date!

[Sk8ermaiden]

We were friends for a couple months, and he asked me out on Christmas day. We had our first date on Dec. 30th. We made it official on January 31. To answer the QOD, we count Jan. 31 as our anniversary.

I had just gotten out of a long-term relationship, and was all bound and determined not to be in another relationship anytime soon, so I was seeing two other people, although kind of half heartedly. He knew this but told me later that he had made up his mind that he would wait as long as it took. But I knew from the beginning that I couldn't resist FH. I was melting. Mellllllting.:handkiss:

[soulmates]

Before the first date?
I knew I wanted to marry him before the first time we went out. He bugged me for about a month to go out with him before I finally agreed to though. (I wasn't too sure about a serious relatioship at the time). We went out on a date for the first time on December 13th and became official on the 16th. We were commited to each other long before that though.

[rowanmayfairs]

We started talking on August 15th, 2005. Met August 20th, 2005 . He Moved in with me December 09, 2005 . Got enagaged Dec 24th, 2005 .So it was a whirlwind romance :) We will get married on September 23rd, 2006 . By then we will have been together 1yr, 1 month, 3 days :)

[~LeAna~]

We dated a couple weeks before we made anything official. We were friends for about 6 months before that though.

[Maria 05]

A day we just hit it off from the start.

[Theresa]

We met on September 11th, 2003 and went on our first date on September 13th. By church the next morning people knew we were an item :lol:

[Alice]

Um... well, we'd known each other for close to a decade before we started dating... but we were dating for less than a month when I moved in w/ him. ^_^

[Aubrey]

I'm not sure when we became 'official' after our first date, but it didn't take long for both of us to know we'd become serious. We knew we wanted to marry each other maybe 6 months after we started dating.

[stephs]

i guess it was more or less from the get go. But he admitted later that he regretted asking me out at first. lol but hes glad he didnt dump me.

[Kathy]

We met July 2, 2004. Figured out we liked each other about three weeks after that. Our "official" date is July 27, we're going by our first kiss, but technically it was the 28th since it was a bit after midnight. That's kind of how it is with our engagement date, too, since it was nearly 3 am when he asked me. But we were pretty much official the first time we talked about a relationship.

[bnd94]

We started dating April 3rd 1994(It was Easter) He asked me to marry him in 1997. We didn't set a date and weren't in any hurry. We are finally going to get married this September:)

[Andrea]

Damian and i started to be "committed" about a year and a half into the relationship. I knew things were gunna be this way for awhile (ever) but ya, thats when things go serious

[Swahilis]

We were pretty serious from the beginning. We committed the day we met, and have been counting since that date.

[Amanda&Hugo]

As soon as Hugo and I first spoke to each other (we were in a class together and spent a week looking at each other before we broke the ice!), I was gone. I don't know what it was but I was so drawn to him and he felt the same way. We went on our first date right then between classes. From that point on we met each other going to class, sat by each other and shared a book, and he drove me to my next class, and then we would have a date afterwards almost every day. We have been inseperable since!

I waited to let him bring up commitment (marriage) b/c I knew better than to rush him. But he brought it up our first Christmas together- we were together over 3 years before the formal proposal though.

[skeletor]

We were pretty much inseprable when we first met.

[Vanessaness]

8 Months!!

[Naima]

We met, we spent three days together. We were exclusive after that. :shrug: I had no chance.

[lalalola]

We were pretty serious from the beginning. We committed the day we met, and have been counting since that date.

We were pretty much inseperable since our first meeting. For the first 6 months, I think we only spent 3 nights apart!!! We didn't get engaged until about 5 years and 8 months into our relationship

[::Amanda::]

We started dating June 5, 2003. We had talked on the internet and phone a lot before that. But that's the day we met in person. By October, he gave me a promise ring. Then when we had been together 2 years, he gave me an engagement ring. We will be together 4 years right before we get married.

[Stacy]

I don't really know. I was only 17 when we started dating, and I kinda liked another guy at the time too (hehe) but I never pursued anyone else. So I guess for me from the start. For him it's another story though I think. I don't really know when he became commited. I'm going to ask him tonight.

[Gemini13]

When I met DH I was determined I was not going to be in a serious relationship with anyone!!! Was seeing a couple of different people on a regular basis but not ready to commit. Met DH in Oct. had our first date 10/27, told him I thought I was falling in love with him around the beginning of December, broke it off with the other ones after Christmas and only saw DH from that point on.

So, approximately 2 months.

[Mischie]

When I met DH I was determined I was not going to be in a serious relationship with anyone!!!

Me too! we also 'dated' for about 2 months before deciding we were getting serious. My DH was on exchange in Canada and had his plane ticket ready to go back. We met in April, started hanging out in May, Decided we really liked each other on July 1st, and his ticket to return to Germany was Aug 14th! Suffice to say, he never made it onto the flight and moved in with me in September of that year.....

[Sabby12s]

We became exlusive after dating for a month.
I was actually involved with someone else at the time, but that relationship was at an impasse since there was 3,000 miles between us and he was unwilling to move.

We got engaged after dating for a little over 2 years.

[Hughto]

We met January 11, 2002. We were great friends over the next three months. We started dating April 11th. We count that when we were committed. I was graduating and moving in five weeks, so we didn't think we would wind up being really serious. I graduated, and we both realized it couldn't be just that. It confirmed we were together for the long haul.

[sweetiez]

at the time i just got broekn up with on my birthday yup.( Which was dec 9th) . I def. didn't wwant any sort of bf.. what so ever! awhile before that my friend aaron kept bugging me to join myspace...so i finally did. and nove sometime his friend derek always left me messaages on there say hey whats up and he was a friend of aarons... I didnt give a crap! I never wrote hem back ever! . one night i was really bored. and called aaroon to hung out cuz he 'owed' me ihop *haha* at the time he had a crush on me.
And derek well he thought i was hot i guess. So aaron didnt wanna come out 2 my house.. but derek said he'd drive out here ( He didn't know it was me at the time) and we all hung out and went bowling..which was fun! and some how i dont rememeber derek got my cell number and he texted me saying "uyour a kick ass girl" i even remember the first time he said hi to me and how he looked at me! weird huh!? ever since that night we been together almost every single night but a few !! MAYBE :):):) so i guess it was ment to be.

[MikeNMisty52408]

When we get married we will have been dating nearly two years, but good, good friends for 3!

[sweetiez]

i guess i never said how long we were datting hah.
lemmie think. 2 years and 8 months! ;)

[MostlyMel]

Hm, me and Ryan had been seeing each other for about a week or two before we made it official. He had another girlfriend at the time when we first started dating (see my journal). But right after he broke up with her we knew we were "it" for eachother, and we've been together ever since! :)

[purple_octopus]

We are really wierd. After dating for a few months, we committed to each other in 6 month increments for the first year. After the 6 month period was over, we evaluated our relationship openly and honestly with each other. We planned to do this until marriage was a possibility, but we kind of forgot to at the 18 month mark and beyond. It was around that time, though, that we decided that we did want to get married. It took us forever to set a date, and even longer to tell our families. :p I think we both fell flat on our faces in love from the beginning, but we're both practical/skeptical people and we wanted to give ourselves every oportunity to grow, change, or fail before we started talking seriously about marriage.

[Flying_V_Goddess]

Well...I've known Nick for about four years and we were friends before we "officially" went out. I say officially because there were some unofficial things going on before that. We used to go to the movies about two times a month (as friends) and when he'd bring me home we'd just stand there on my porch for a while staring at each other probably wondering if the usual goodbye and hug should move into a kiss. Half of the time it would. Oddly enough, even though everyone thought we'd make a cute couple, no one actually knew about this "behind the scenes" stuff that was going on. Mostly because everyone knew I wasn't into guys (none of the guys I liked ever liked me back so I just gave up on them and focused my attention on women...basically went from bi to full time lesbian for 3 years).

You could say that we we're dating 2 years before deciding on marriage (if you call going to the movies twice a month and trying to progress beyond home plate on my porch "dating). But officially, it was 3 1/2 months before we went to a jewelry store and picked out a ring to put on layway (I guess that's a somewhat a proposal...he said he'd give me a more proper proposal once he pays off the ring and picks it up when I'm not around). :D

[sweetiez]

Hmm i guess i'd have to say from the moment we met. i just think we wrere "ment to be" as corny as that seems but true. we were Together 24/7 expect when we had to work:(. but we basically lived together the day we met ;). it just worked. And that was Janurary,2005 ( very early like the 4th or something.) But i remeber saying at new years. This year will be my year. And surprisingly my wish came true!!! how amazing was that :)
So Janurary 23rd,2005 we ofcially became bf/gf :) And engaged on April,24th,2006.
and we will be married September,8th,2007. So thats My story!

[Renny]

we talked on the internet and phone a few weeks before we meet in person (I meet him through a woman I worked with that he had dated and she set us up in a group chat) and from the moment I heard his voice I didn't want another man in my life, I just knew. He told me that I was the kind of person he could see himself with forever and just knew and told me he loved me, this was before our first in person date. Our first date was June 11, 2004 and it was just known that we were a couple. neither of us asked the other our status in the relationship, we knew what it was before we ever really met ;)

[BeachKat]

I met my soon to be ex husband in 1999 through a Britney Spears chatroom and we became friends but didnt fall in love and meet until in June 15, 2002. Then I got married to him but I didn't want to get married but my dad forced me because I was pregnant with our first child. I was enagaged at the time but wanted to wait until I was ready.I always wanted a wedding but had no choice but to marry in a courthouse.. meh! We tried our hardest to work our marriage but but it didnt seem like we are meant to be. But we are going to be friends due to our 2 beautiful little children.

Anyways, I met Heath through a friend of mine at another forum a year ago. We was friends at first and getting to know eachother then later we became best of friends and we came from the same background and had alot of common than we thought! One day, when we was talking on videophone.. he told me that he love me out of the blue. I was suprised but pleased to know that! And I had to admit that to him also and had feelings for him also. So I am going to see him around New Years' Eve. Yes, we have talked about marriage but wants to wait until both of us finish college first. A promise ring would be nice from him later on at first though.. hehe! :hehe:

[Ally]

we dont really know when we started dating, so we just say that the day that we met was when we hooked up. we talked or saw each other every day since then.

[Shaylee]

We have somewhat of a “sordid” tale. We started dating in Oct. of 1996.
Got engaged June 10, 2001. Broke up in March of 2002.
Got engaged again just recently (he gave me another ring on Christmas Eve) so in short I would say, over 10 years. Gulp. :lol:

[renee]

This is a tough one. When I met Ron we knew at that moment that we would be VERY good friends, if not best friends. I was married actually at the time and he had just split up with his wife.

But we were only friends. So much so that 3 weeks after we met we got matching ankle tattoos (the chinese symbol for "friend"). We were both going through really rough times and were absolutely best friends.

I split up with my XH unofficially in Jan 2004 (he moved to England but I told him at that point I wasn't going yet). In Feb I discussed several things with my X that Ron gave me the balls to discuss (he's always been able to give me courage - or at least help me FIND the courage inside of me) and after our discussions we both pretty much knew it was over. So, end of Feb 2004 I asked X for a divorce :(

I believe it was April or May when my relationship changed with Ron, but we were both not in a position to be ready for a relationship. We were on/off/on/off, but honestly... it was HARD to be away from each other because of the FRIENDSHIP. Eventually we got our crap together. In November of that year we made the commitment to each other.

And now... he's asked me to marry him :) And I never ever ever thought I would even WANT to get married again, but I must be a complete sap because I know that I want to always be with him!

[dolface546]

We met at his house (his mom encouraged us to meet) and hung out that night. The first date was the next day and he was already calling me his girlfriend.

[IneedCaffeine]

1wk after meeting. He actually said I love you to me like a week or 2 after we met. I thought he was CRAZY lol.

[badluckbunny]

i totally did not believe in love at first sight, but Alex says he fell for me the moment he saw me. also, he knew was going to marry me three days later. when that boy told me this after he proposed 8 months later, i thought, "nutzoid!"

i guess i kinda have to believe in this love at first sight thing now. =) ::blushes::

[*Kim*]

Jeff and I started seeing each other after his ex kicked him out in the middle of november but it was only casually. we made it official on January 1st 2007

[granola]

We met Feb 9, 2002... I was still sort of with my ex boyfriend at the time and I had a lot of trouble cutting ties with him. It wasn't until about May or so that I was actually 100% into being with Chad, and just Chad. We got engaged in November of 2002. :lol:

We didn't get married until 23 months later, though. So we had a good deal of time as a commited couple before we were married. I was just young and immature at first.

[iceprincess04]

We have been dating over 7 1/2 years now. By the time we get married it will be over 8 years.

[*Tanya*]

Our first date was on May 18th, and we "called dibs on each other" on May 26th. :shuffle: :giggle:

[Winter_Bride]

Well, saying as we were seeing other people while we were "dating"... :shuffle: I'm going to say about one month, and that was pretty much only because of my "non-relationship" with another boy... (long story) That was the time between our first kiss, and him actually asking me out.

We realized our interest each other as friends, but with him in a confusing, LD relationship, and me in a "on again, off again" non-relationship, we stayed "just friends" for awhile before we could actually date, and once we really started dating that's when we "committed".

Confused? Tell me about it! :nuts:

[*TanyaJeanne*]

After about a week we were "bf/gf"