What "normal" things do you not care about?

[Sk8ermaiden]

This kind of ties into the traditions thread, but not really. I remember on UW there was a bride who totally forgot to order a cake, because she really couldn't have cared less about cake.

A girl on another website was told it wasn't a real wedding unless there were roses on her cake. (This is clearly delusional, but funny nonetheless. :lol:)

I'm sure there are more for me, but this weekend my mom was asking when I was having a manicure and pedicure done. I answered that I wasn't having them, and I thought her head was going to explode! She spent 10 minutes trying to convince me I HAD to have them, and then gave up.

What were yours? What did people tell you you had to have, that you really didn't care to have? Did you give in?

[jillian]

~ I didn't have a pedi. Didn't want feet pictures so why spend the money?
~ Didn't do the new, old, borrowed, blue thing. Honestly I forgot about it.

[Sk8ermaiden]

Oh yes, I'm not doing the old, new,borrowed, blue thing either. Just more stuff I've have to tote areound/wear!

[PrairieDawn]

I did my own makeup, mani and pedi. Lots of brides gush about makeup trials. I just did what I always do... but with a new, darker shade of lipstick. *shrug*

We didn't plan for a videographer... but ended up with three wonderful videos recorded by our brothers, plus Corey recorded the ceremony from a tripod the church balcony as a surprise for me.

We didn't have a honeymoon. That was a financial and practical decision, though. We had no more $ and no babysitter.

...Pam

[~*Kate*~]

Garter toss. None of our guy friends wanted to catch it, and I wasn't too keen on showing off my legs anyway.

[Mandy]

Ummm, my dress. :shuffle: Bad Bride, I know.

I could've cared less though. I don't think it was necessarily that I didn't care what my dress looked like-it was more because I was so sick of fighting with my ILs about every single aspect of the wedding.

My BM's ended up getting me out 2 weeks before the wedding and we found my dream dress for $54.00! So, I guess it all worked out! :)

[PrairieDawn]

Mandy I had to go look at your dress. WOW! Congrats on a find. I understand how the stress of the wedding can make you give up on the details of the event. Its best to focus on the marriage, anyhow. But I'm thrilled for you that, despite not caring for the dress, you had one that looked so beautiful.

...Pam

[Trinia]

I didn't have a white dress.. It was ivory and pink. Mostly pink. I loved it.

Didn't get a pedicure either.. my feet were going to be covered up and I hate them anyways so it didn't matter.

I was 6 months pregnant. :lol: Wasn't about to change my date just because I unexpectedly became pregnant.

I did my own makeup

I didn't have a traditional aisle.. My dad planned it and I loved the way it worked.

[~Lizzybeth~]

I did my own makeup as well. I was afraid that anything anyone else would have done wouldn't have looked like me.

No videographers either. I felt that a photographer was enough.

And no alcohol. At all.

[stephjhudson]

eek! no alcohol :)

[Angela]

We didn't do the honeymoon either, even though everyone told us we "had" to. We moved 2 months before the wedding, and didn't have any $$ left. We're going away for a few days for our anniversary this year, and are going to splurge on a nice hotel since we didnt' do a honeymoon.

[Raychel]

I didn't even think twice about who would do my makeup. I knew I would. You guys would probably faint if you saw my makeup stash (although I admit I tend to buy stuff just b/c its pretty more than how much I wear :lol: ) There wasn't even a makeup artist that could compete with my selection :lol: And I know how to apply everything, so yeah, that one didn't matter to me.

Even if I would have had a 'traditional' reception I would not have done bouquet & garter toss. It is just corny to me. (I said TO ME.) =P

I also did not care that much about invites/announcements. I cared a little, but just enough to assure they looked nice and that was it.

I'll post again if I think of anything else.

[Dmsangel]

Not doing the borrowed, blue etc.

I don't care about the not seeing each other before, but fh does so we're sleeping apart the night before and won't see each other the day of until the ceremony.

Not getting a limo.

[Sabby12s]

We didn't bother with the bouquet/garter toss. I didn't see the point and honestly no one missed it!

[~LeAna~]

I shamefully admit, there wasn't much I didn't care about in the end.

I wasn't too worried about cake- my aunt made it for me and it was beautiful!

[Sk8ermaiden]

So, I was just reading a thread on another website. Dozens and dozens of brides saying they barely remember their wedding days and are dissapointed by the blur it was and how few people they got to hang with.

This is why I left out everything that isn't important to me or Chris. No hours of pictures between ceremony and reception. No long-ass recieving line. No million dances or million toasts, no bouquet toss. No mock exit, or even real exit. No jazzed up bridal party or couple entrance. I have no problem with these things as a guest, but as a bride, I object. I don't want my coordinator and my DJ shuffling me off to do something else every 10 minutes.

I just remember my friends' wedding. As soon as one thing ended, they were already gearing up for the next. I just don't want to be like that. I want to kick back and enjoy my reception with my guests.

[*TanyaJeanne*]

We didn't have a cake...we had angel food and strawberries

We had a receiving line because I thought we were "supposed to" (That would have given us more time to get to the reception and start talking with people. I feel like we didn't get to talk to everyone)

[Slugsmama]

We didnt do a receiving line, and we didnt have a grooms cake ...

[serda23]

There were a lot of things I really didn't care about! I never even thought about being introduced, so I was totally surprised and taken off guard when the DJ decided to do it. (Pretty much he was just there for background noise, as far as I was concerned. :lol:) And we cared so much about toasts and tosses? That we completely forgot to do them. :giggle:

[Raychel]

So, I was just reading a thread on another website. Dozens and dozens of brides saying they barely remember their wedding days and are dissapointed by the blur it was and how few people they got to hang with.

This is why I left out everything that isn't important to me or Chris. No hours of pictures between ceremony and reception. No long-ass recieving line. No million dances or million toasts, no bouquet toss. No mock exit, or even real exit. No jazzed up bridal party or couple entrance. I have no problem with these things as a guest, but as a bride, I object. I don't want my coordinator and my DJ shuffling me off to do something else every 10 minutes.

I just remember my friends' wedding. As soon as one thing ended, they were already gearing up for the next. I just don't want to be like that. I want to kick back and enjoy my reception with my guests.


Great point! In the beginning I was a bit tore up over not having a big traditional wedding b/c, like a lot of people I think, I grew up under the impression that that is just what you do...that is what constitutes a wedding & if you don't do it that way, something is wrong. It's almost amusing to me now to really think how much tradition and cultural influences have on life events like weddings.

Looking back, I wouldn't change what we did for anything in the world. It was perfect. Intimate...only the details we cared about. Totally able to enjoy every moment b/c there wasn't a big list of things that had to be done. Only get married and enjoy ourselves.

[*meghan*]

No receiving line.

No grooms' cake.

No something old, new, borrowed, blue.

No sleeping apart the night before wedding - DH and I both stayed at home that night.

No limo.

[Deidre98]

Honestly, all of the little details like the bows for the favors, what the cake table is going to look like, etc, I really don't care about. I am just ready to get married.

[nikkiscott]

We stayed together the night before.
We didn't do a garter toss, that was up to Scott and he didn't want to do it.
He saw me in my dress before the wedding.

I didn't care about transportation.

[nikkiana]

No sleeping apart the night of the wedding. My mom seemed like she was going to through a fit over it, but we'd been living together for over a year, it seemed pointless to sleep apart for just one night.... Plus, I wouldn't have been able to sleep anyway.

I didn't care about the bouquet/garter toss.

No something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.

No professional hair-do. Only quasi-professional make-up (a friend who's a Mary Kay consultant did it :lol:)

No limo. (We had a same location wedding/reception).

[Amanda&Hugo]

We didn't do a limo. I didn't see the need to spend the extra $ for a couple of miles! And we did not do the "getaway" or fake exit, since we were staying at the hotel where the reception was! We didn't want to leave the party. :) We did not do birdseed, rice, bubbles, or anything either since we didn't do the "getaway."

[glamgurl36]

i think ill need a glass or two of champagne at my wedding
ive heard a lot of people dont have alcohol at their weddings

[Kathy]

We're not having a receiving line - we're dismissing everyone by pew instead.

No limo, but we are renting a fancy car for the two of us.

No professional make-up.

I barely care about having flowers - only roses, and only what's necessary.

Not having anything thrown us, as we're probably not going to do a grand exit.

We're doing pictures before the ceremony, so I obviously don't care about him not seeing me until the ceremony.

[Trinia]

We didn't do the feeding each other cake thing.. I actually didn't even realize we didn't do this until looking at other people's pictures. And I don't care.

[MsJessica07]

No limo or anything because we had the reception at the same place as the ceremony, no throwing things at us.

We also ended up leaving the reception separately, since I was totally useless to help take stuff down in my dress. Raif ended up bringing some things to his parents house and I didn't see him probably from about 5 until about 8:30...it was pretty funny. But we were both seeing people from out of town, his relatives and my friends. So it worked out and we enjoyed two days pretty much by ourselves after that :)

[Winter_Bride]

I didn't care about flowers. At all!!! My flowers were fake (metallic silver and gold pointsettas!) because I wasn't about to blow a fortune on flowers.

We didn't have a limo. It would have been fun, but definately not one of my "must-haves"

[LyssaKel]

If I would have had a traditional wedding, I wouldn't have had anyone walk me down the aisle. I don't have a relationship with my father and I have been independent for so long that the symbolism of someone "giving me away" would have been forced and not at all true to my situation.

[SueMartin]

we didnt do the bouquet toss, or the garter thing ( hey I'm OLD) and I didnt have anyone give me away....

[fritafondle]

I didn't have a receiving line.

Also, my ex's aunt did the wedding cake, and I just told her I wanted something pretty and gave her a few specifics.

Also, I didn't spend a lot on my shoes. I just picked out a basic white sandal at a shoe store. And I still get to wear them on occasion.

[Liz&Cailen]

We're thinking about not having a traditional wedding cake. Instead, we'll just serve desserts as part of the meal. Maybe tiramisu or something like that. Have you heard of anyone doing that?

[PrairieDawn]

Hi Liz

I've seen some couples have a desert table with a statue on it instead of a cake and topper. How important is it for you to pose with a cake for photos?

...Pam

[Liz&Cailen]

I don't think I'll miss the cake cutting picture. With the wedding still a year or more off I guess I have a lot of time to consider it though. hmmmm.

[Kiera]

Up until we decided to get a wedding cake, I couldn't have cared less. But Jake wanted one (why I have NO idea) and if I'm going to do it, I'm going to do it right. :)

I wasn't into the limo thing either. I just booked the cheapest and easiest limos they had. Honestly, as long as we all get there in one piece, what the heck!

[km]

I like all the traditions and I even like the spa day. My daughter had all the traditional wedding to do's, except we definitely threw out some of those stupid dances....... I had a spa day with my daughter it was fun for us also nice to relax.............

[jrbecca]

Honestly, I couldn't care less about whether there is alcohol at a wedding reception. Our reception was dry, and when I attend others, I'm there to see the couple, not imbibe.

[thefuturemrsgoss]

We went to a wedding recently and I decided I don't want a unity candle. my Parents are divorced and i don't have a good relationship with my mother, so why should I have one?

FH is still a bit so-so on that idea tho.. i think he wants one for SOME reason?

[BASIA]

We didnt have traditional guest book/ we had questions on the tables for the quest but I didnt even went and read them all.

No groom's cake

Sleep together the night before.

Just few dances (our and parents)

No long lists of songs to be played (just most important dances and ceremony music)

No hair trial ( I didnt know how to do my hair till the wedding day because the style I wanted would not go with my veil)

I had people dance even during the dinner, I wanted people to have fun the whole time so If someone wanted to dance before we got there or during dinner the DJ actually encuraged them to do it.

[MrsAbi]

We slept together before the wedding because he had to leave the next day.

I also walked out of the hotel without makeup. My mom had to hunt me down at the venue. I completely forgot.

[foronceinmylife]

We're thinking of doing no alcohol as well because it's such a hassle with the venue but we're debating.

Favors I really could care less about but we ended up doing a little something for the adults.

[Mrs.Brooks]

I didn't care about the cake. I actually wanted cupcakes. It was my MOH that was horrified by the idea of no wedding cake. :lol: Her shock made me get one.