Deposit slip included in invitation!

[jillian]

I read this in Dear Abby just seconds ago. I am shocked that people had the balls to do this:

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I received a wedding invitation from my nephew's son, whom we have never gotten to know very well. Included in the invitation was a deposit slip to a bank savings account "in lieu of gifts"!

We later learned that everyone on the guest list received a deposit slip, even the grandmother. Is this proper? This is the first time we have ever heard of this, and frankly, we were rather insulted. -- PUZZLED IN COLORADO

What do you think?

[lalalola]

plain and simple rude

but i guess people look at it like some register for gifts or honeymoons, why not just ask for money?????

[*Sarah*]

:jawdrop: That is so wrong on so many levels!!

[Winter_Bride]

Well, points to them for not beating around the bush!! :lol:

[Kathy]

I agree, that's pretty awful. If you prefer monetary gifts, let your family spread the news to your guests.

[Christa]

Wow, just wrong

[ginny]

:speechless: My jaw dropped...wow. They should have just said, please take all your money and deposit into our bank account. That's just...rude.

[*meghan*]

Wow, I can't believe someone actually had the nerve to do that! Incredible.

[Angela]

Wow....people never stop amazing me.

[Maria 05]

ye gods and little fishes that is just amazingly rude.

[Mrs.H]

Wow... I don't even know what to say about that. That's just rude.

[Poloke]

all...sorts...of ....wrong!

[Trinia]

wow. rude.

[Kelly]

:jawdrop: That is so wrong on so many levels!!

ditto..I would politely send my regrets

[RadishWife]

That is just too funny. I would by the cheapest thing I could find and send it to there address and also send my regrets.
Lets see are we getting married or lining our pockets... hmmm I have a guess!

[SueMartin]

:shakeshead: some people :(

[carolinalady67]

Jillian, tell us what Abby said! After she picked herself up off the floor I'm sure.

[Raychel]

I want to see someone try to defend this :lol:

[Kristin]

I was so stunned by this that I looked up Abby's response. Here it is:
DEAR PUZZLED: Please waste no more time feeling offended. The family who issued the wedding invitation is obviously grossly ignorant about the basic rules of etiquette. According to "Emily Post's Etiquette" (17th Edition), when issuing wedding invitations, "any mention of gifts or listing of gift registries is unacceptable."
I am sure you dealt with the solicitation you received as you would any other. Just be glad they didn't have your bank account number, or you would have found enclosed with your invitation a notice stating that your account had already been debited $125 to cover the cost of your dinner.

[~Sherry~]

:jawdrop:

[Aramelle]

Sadly, I'm not surprised. :sigh:

[Jaime]

I would be afraid to let anyone have one of my deposit slips, don't they have your account number on them??

Oh yeah, and the rude factor is pretty bad too :hehe:

[*TanyaJeanne*]

Wow. RUDE!!

[serda23]

Even I am all like :eeek:, and I don't mind when people mention gifts! But that is just nuts! And also, besides the rudeness factor - how would they know who deposited what? I'm guessing they aren't too concerned about thank you cards.

[Tanyak]

Even I am all like :eeek:, and I don't mind when people mention gifts! But that is just nuts! And also, besides the rudeness factor - how would they know who deposited what? I'm guessing they aren't too concerned about thank you cards.

Excellent point!

[Jaime]

I just checked.. my depsosit slips have my account number and my routing number on them. Perfect for the irritated wedding guest to set up automatic payments to their local gym or internet service :giggle:

[Mimzy]

Sounds like a perfect response. You could claim to be so confused and thought they were being nice. hehe

[Theresa]

I just checked.. my depsosit slips have my account number and my routing number on them. Perfect for the irritated wedding guest to set up automatic payments to their local gym or internet service :giggle:

:giggle:

[Emily]

I think I would be so offended by this, I wouldn't bother going to the wedding.

[Jaime]

I am just shocked that they aren't more paranoid about who has their account number. :errrr:

[Aramelle]

I just checked.. my depsosit slips have my account number and my routing number on them. Perfect for the irritated wedding guest to set up automatic payments to their local gym or internet service :giggle:

A bit off the initial topic, but an FYI: routing and account numbers really aren't private information. Look at your checks - the information is on all of them. So, anytime you write a check, you hand out the exact same info. :)

[jillian]

That's why I don't write checks. When I give money, I give cash.

Unfortunately when my SIL rented from a family member she always had to give cash because that family member would steal the account #.

[BrightEyes]

I am just shocked that they aren't more paranoid about who has their account number. :errrr:

that is what occurred to me first. But seriously, why not just pass the word along instead?

[AlmostMrs.Australia!]

tacky!!!!!

[US_UKlove]

Beyond tacky!!!

[km]

I can't believe it,,how rude,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,aghh