Sk8ermaiden
08-28-2007, 10:23 PM
I am just so frustrated. My good friend is driving me crazy.
I asked her to be a bridesmaid and I don't regret that. She is a very good friend. I will however, refer to her as BMZ (bridesmaidzilla).
We went dress shopping (me, and the three girls). We have an appointment at David's, but we go by AA to kill time. We then go to David's. I say, "Please just pick out anything in apple that is tea length or can be hemmed to tea length." My sister finds a great dress she loves, my other friend finds a great dress she loves. BMZ tries on approximately three things, walks out of the dressing room, shakes her head, and just flatly says, "No."
"What?"
"No, I want the one at Alfred Angelo."
"Are you sure you can't find one here? Have you seen everything?"
"They don't have anything; I want the one at Alfred Angelo."
So, me not wanting to be have a smackdown with my friend over this, and my other two girls being super cool and laid back (though quietly outraged for me - did I mention that I was buying all three dresses?), we head back to AA.
I understand that she has a large chest and is uncomfortable in many dresses. I, in fact, have the exact same size chest, so I REALLY get it. If she had pulled me aside and said she was discouraged and frustrated, and could we try this another day, or maybe even go back to AA, I would have felt a lot better about it. They have dresses at David's that are almost IDENTICAL. I was just upset that she felt so entitled to what I was going to buy her for my wedding when I gave them such loose guidelines to begin with.
Chris and I paid for dresses, the hair and makeup, and they can just wear red shoes and whatever jewelry. We didn't want it to cost them anything to be in the wedding.
We did want them to have really nice gifts as a thank you. It was really important to us. Everyone else has been really great and I love buying them things that they really want might not be able to buy themselves.
Except BMZ. She tells me what she wants, and then when I am asking her logistics questions, she's all, "Well, I really would prefer one that's this way," and "Why don't you just buy this one at Home Depot?" "This one has 680 sq. inches of grilling space."
She's just being so picky and ungrateful that she is sucking all the fun out of buying her anything and I just want to write her an effing check so she can buy whatever the hell she wants. I put a lot of thought into which one I would get her considering her situation and living space and likelihood of moving again soon...It hurts my feelings.
I feel like we've bent over backwards to make things good for our whole bridal party, and she just takes advantage when everyone else has been happy and grateful.
I don't need advice really (unless you've got some). I just wanted to vent. I am really down about this because I was having so much fun buying everyone's presents. :sigh:
I asked her to be a bridesmaid and I don't regret that. She is a very good friend. I will however, refer to her as BMZ (bridesmaidzilla).
We went dress shopping (me, and the three girls). We have an appointment at David's, but we go by AA to kill time. We then go to David's. I say, "Please just pick out anything in apple that is tea length or can be hemmed to tea length." My sister finds a great dress she loves, my other friend finds a great dress she loves. BMZ tries on approximately three things, walks out of the dressing room, shakes her head, and just flatly says, "No."
"What?"
"No, I want the one at Alfred Angelo."
"Are you sure you can't find one here? Have you seen everything?"
"They don't have anything; I want the one at Alfred Angelo."
So, me not wanting to be have a smackdown with my friend over this, and my other two girls being super cool and laid back (though quietly outraged for me - did I mention that I was buying all three dresses?), we head back to AA.
I understand that she has a large chest and is uncomfortable in many dresses. I, in fact, have the exact same size chest, so I REALLY get it. If she had pulled me aside and said she was discouraged and frustrated, and could we try this another day, or maybe even go back to AA, I would have felt a lot better about it. They have dresses at David's that are almost IDENTICAL. I was just upset that she felt so entitled to what I was going to buy her for my wedding when I gave them such loose guidelines to begin with.
Chris and I paid for dresses, the hair and makeup, and they can just wear red shoes and whatever jewelry. We didn't want it to cost them anything to be in the wedding.
We did want them to have really nice gifts as a thank you. It was really important to us. Everyone else has been really great and I love buying them things that they really want might not be able to buy themselves.
Except BMZ. She tells me what she wants, and then when I am asking her logistics questions, she's all, "Well, I really would prefer one that's this way," and "Why don't you just buy this one at Home Depot?" "This one has 680 sq. inches of grilling space."
She's just being so picky and ungrateful that she is sucking all the fun out of buying her anything and I just want to write her an effing check so she can buy whatever the hell she wants. I put a lot of thought into which one I would get her considering her situation and living space and likelihood of moving again soon...It hurts my feelings.
I feel like we've bent over backwards to make things good for our whole bridal party, and she just takes advantage when everyone else has been happy and grateful.
I don't need advice really (unless you've got some). I just wanted to vent. I am really down about this because I was having so much fun buying everyone's presents. :sigh: