Is it true? [Archive] - Must Love Weddings

*TanyaJeanne*

07-17-2006, 09:27 PM

Even though I am not married yet...Chris and I have never fought up until we started planning the wedding. We get into stupid little fights that last a hour or so...but still...we never use to be like this!

Good thread ashley :)
I am interested in the answers from everyone too!

Krissy

07-17-2006, 09:39 PM

Oh heck yeah. Our first arguments were definitely wedding related. You're not alone.

*TanyaJeanne*

07-17-2006, 09:53 PM

Me Either...I get so mad because we fight about the smallest stuff!

kate

07-17-2006, 09:57 PM

Me Either...I get so mad because we fight about the smallest stuff!

Us too! It is not worth it to argue about it, but it usually happens when we try to pick our first dance song. It should be a horribly simple task, and we just can't do it..

jillian

07-17-2006, 10:55 PM

We fight more now too! It's so horrible because we are suppose to be planning the happiest day of our lives.

MrsAbi

07-18-2006, 02:42 AM

Yeah I have to agree. I can't believe the stuff we fight about while planning this.

Just this past couple weeks I've been nagging him to recreate the sailor/nurse kiss in Times Sqaure picture.

Yeah it's for our STDs, but still. Why did I get angry that recreating a historical picture wasn't on the top of his to-do list? I can laugh about it, now that it's done.

Maria 05

07-18-2006, 04:47 AM

Oh yes our arguments were over the wedding (we still have the occassional spat) but definitely wedding planning brings out the worst and the best in people

Angela

07-18-2006, 07:05 AM

I have a really short temper, so we had some pretty good spats. But once the wedding planning started, forget it....I thought there were going to be fists flying some nights!

Now that we're working on moving it seems like we're arguing more again, though I have to admit it's me and my short fuse....if he doesn't listen to me the first time I say something, I've been snapping at him. Gotta get that under control, and he needs to start listening better!

*meghan*

07-18-2006, 09:52 AM

Brent and I haven't had a wedding argument yet. That's not to say that we won't ever though - I know things will be a lot more hectic in the next 3 months! Wedding planning has got to be one of the most stressful events for couples, so any kind of bickering is not unusual. I guess that means that Brent and I are weirdos :lol:

christinas2006

07-18-2006, 10:17 AM

we have argued over everything! He wanted a small wedding with like 50 people. But, I didn't want that. I wanted all of our family invovled. He has a large family of atleast 60 who live in town. The biggest thing is that he does not want to dance. I have bent so much much on this issue. We are only dancing for 1 minute and then people can join us. He feels alot better about that.

He doesn't really care anymore about the planning.

*Stacie*

07-18-2006, 03:54 PM

We don't fight... he will just say something (wedding related) I don't agree with and then I will snap back "I don't want to talk about that right now." We have only ever had 2 fights and they were MAJOR things we needed to work through, and since have!

soulmates

07-20-2006, 10:38 PM

We've had a few wedding "fights" but we've spent mroe than half of our relationship engaged so the engaged part hasn't really been too different from the dating part.

~LeAna~

07-21-2006, 07:41 AM

We fight too. I think it's because our dynamic is changing and we need to adjust. We just moved in together and that's been tough. It's gotten better though. I think we just needed some adjustment time.

MsJessica07

07-21-2006, 06:40 PM

It's been hard because he's feeling like I'm rushing him and then I'm feeling like he's taking soooooo much time to do everything that it drives me nuts.

Of course, then he realized that because of his slowness he'd missed a great opportunity (possibly for good) and so he's been a lot better about listening to me when I say that things don't last forever...

We've DEFINITELY begun fighting more since getting engaged, but we're working on it. We're taking it week by week, and hopefully that'll keep us on target :)

Mandy

07-24-2006, 10:29 AM

Chad and I get in 'fights' I guess...but it's not so much about decisions, it's more about stress. We feel like there's so much put on us since no one in his family has ever had a traditional "wedding", yet no one s helping us! It kinda seems like my family are the only ones doing anything--and they live 1000 miles away!

I'll be very happy once we're married and the planning aspect is over...it's just turned out to be more of a pain in the rear than I ever anticipated. I've certainly learned alot about some people!!

Trinia

07-24-2006, 06:57 PM

We dont really fight about wedding stuff to much, There is the occasional thing we dont agree on but I try to leave it when it comes to him getting mad over something wedding related, I dont know why I do this cause I never stop pushing when we are fighting about anything else....

HelenAngel

07-25-2006, 10:54 AM

We fought a good bit during our wedding planning because weird things happened (like Hurricane Wilma) and I was doing essentially all the planning myself so a lot of work & planning fell on him. However, I wouldn't say it means you can handle anything- a good friend of mine had a very lavish wedding & fought a good bit with her fiance through the planning. They got married and got divorced after 2 years. :( The thing with them was they didn't continue to communicate well after the wedding (well, and he couldn't be faithful to her).

*Sarah*

08-08-2006, 11:55 AM

We don't really fight much on wedding related things. We have pretty much the same vision of what we want. Its how to get everyone around us to see that same vision that's tough.

I think more of our fights are related to still getting used to living together, not really anything wedding related.

-->Kat<--

08-08-2006, 12:18 PM

Planning this wedding has put alot of stress and pressure on us and I'm the type of person that doesn't feel settled until all of our ducks are in a row. Essentially I'm a planner and he's a dreamer, so yah, we've had a couple of disagreements due to the wedding. Plus now the fact that he's living with a married couple from church kind of has me feeling a little abandoned :shuffle: even though he came over and made me dinner yesterday, the closeness of falling asleep together and waking up together is gone until we get married. Good thing it's only 20 something more days

rowanmayfairs

08-08-2006, 12:33 PM

We had some conflits over where to get married..

we both wanted something outdoors but couldn't find anything we could afford. $500+ for a location only was out of the question.

We never argued over it, but couldn't come to an agreement about where to get married.

Then the preacher of our location FINALLY returned our call and we agreed upon that church.

Otherwise most other wedding planning has been MY decision.. He has put very little input in and does NOT complain. I try to show him some of my ideas and stuff.

I get a little frustrated at him at times.. When he doesn't feel well he acts like a big baby. I love him..but with the wedding, bills, him being sick .. I feel like i wanna SCREAM . But I find something good about the whole thing and then I will feel better.

Andrea

08-08-2006, 12:36 PM

the one guy that im standing up for in his wedding...yes im a best man, they used to fight ALL the time, but now its even worse. HAHA stupid jerk won't help with the planning so ive had to give him a good swift kick in the butt or two

KathyandJer

08-17-2006, 06:31 PM

Wow - great thread Ashley!

Jer and I don't fight. I mean, we've had one fight in our whole relationship and it was one of those that we managed to talk about after a while and sort through - it was pretty stupid actually!

We just don't fight - I know that's weird, and that we will at some point, I'm sure...but so far, nothing! :shrug:

Sk8ermaiden

08-17-2006, 06:52 PM

FH and I really don't fight. We prefer to be rational and talk about things that are important to us, over yelling at each other and hurting each other's feelings. We hate to be mad at each other.

We have not had a single wedding-related (directly or indirectly) fight. I don't think we've even had a fight since we were engaged. And yes, even though it's a year away, the entire darn thing is planned. All of it under budget as well (including taxes and tips and an allotment for unexpected expenses). We decided what was reasonable for us and what was important to us, and we have stuck by that.

When it comes to wedding planning, we both give each other's opinions more weight and consideration than we give our own, and that works really well.

lalalola

08-18-2006, 12:29 AM

Well, so far no fights. SOmetimes when I see something really cool that I love (and of course really expensive) he goes, we can't afford that and i say, well WE aren't paying for the wedding

but usually his only gripe is that he is sick of talking about the wedding (and we are only in the beginning stages)

i think we'll be good cause I do not know if he cares about the decorations or invitations (u know the "girlie stuff") so he is mostly allowing me to make all the decisions

nikkiscott

08-19-2006, 04:51 PM

We haven't had a fight about the wedding yet. I ask him is opinion and he says weather he likes it or not and then we talk about it. I get frustrated when I want to talk about the wedding and he keeps changing the subject. I can usually get him to talk about it sooner or later. But no fights. We don't fight all that often anyways.

Vanessaness

08-23-2006, 04:03 AM

sarahm08

09-19-2006, 09:39 AM

I think Jason and I argued more before we started planning the wedding. Neither of us is stressed about it. I've just been collecting a bunch of pictures from wedding websites and asking him which ideas he likes. The only thing we ever really bicker about is if we're driving and I'm trying to explain something and he doesn't understand and I can't show him a picture. He's very visual!

Next time you feel yourself getting upset, just walk away from it for a minute or try to look at it from each others perspective.

Happy wedding planning to everyone. It's a lot for just one day, but you want it to be the most perfect day of your life right. So, maybe it's all worth it in the end.

US_UKlove

09-19-2006, 12:07 PM

Planning this wedding has put a lot of stress and pressure on us and I'm the type of person that doesn't feel settled until all of our ducks are in a row. Essentially I'm a planner and he's a dreamer, so yah, we've had a couple of disagreements due to the wedding. Plus now the fact that he's living with a married couple from church kind of has me feeling a little abandoned :shuffle: even though he came over and made me dinner yesterday, the closeness of falling asleep together and waking up together is gone until we get married. Good thing it's only 20 something more days

Wow, I wouldn't know how to act to be able to fall asleep next to my fiance! :(

Count your blessings! Esp. only having 20 more days to go!! :floating:

-->Kat<--

09-19-2006, 12:34 PM

Wow, I wouldn't know how to act to be able to fall asleep next to my fiance! :(

Count your blessings! Esp. only having 20 more days to go!! :floating:

ummm... it's been 2 weeks since we got married... that post that you quoted was old ;)

US_UKlove

09-19-2006, 12:47 PM

ummm... it's been 2 weeks since we got married... that post that you quoted was old ;)

DOH!!!

LOL (Why don't they have a 'smacking forehead' emote???) :hysterics:

-->Kat<--

09-19-2006, 12:49 PM

no worries... it's the best going to sleep with and waking up to my husband... my life wouldn't be the same without him. Hopefully you'll get to experience that with your FH soon.

I think they do have a smacking the head smiley... :doh:

-->Kat<--

09-19-2006, 12:50 PM

yep... it's just : doh : but without the spaces ;)

US_UKlove

09-19-2006, 01:21 PM

HA that's priceless!!!

:doh:

sweetiez

09-20-2006, 03:47 AM

omgf yes!! GREAT THREAD!
im so glad im not alone!!

09-20-2006, 06:10 PM

:computer:

My Husband and I argued all that day, getting ready, right up to the end. I said I didn't want to get married at all that day, well, some 30 plus years later we're still heeeeeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrreeeeeeeeeeeee.
:rofl:

Venus

09-21-2006, 10:51 AM

I almost wished we had argued during planning then I would of at least had some input. I show him this or that and he would say that fine "middy" I realized very early on that his participation was going to be very very limited so I made a list of exactly what he had to take care with the dates it had to be done by and instead of hounding him I would every now and then pull the list out of the night stand so he would see it and put it away again, lol. So no we didnt fight. Yes I stressed and even tried to get him to share in my anxiety but he'd never bite.

Vanessaness

09-26-2006, 12:23 AM

jillian

09-26-2006, 08:53 AM

That Girl

10-11-2006, 05:56 PM

My ex-husband and I barely ever fought about anything, much less about the wedding. The engagement was smooth sailing. But we ended up divorced. :shrug2: I don't think fighting or no fighting during an engagement is an indicator of the future.

Kya

10-17-2006, 08:36 PM

Yes indeed.

We've almost been together for 8 yrs, and we have had our arguements and so on. But, more then less since trying to plan our wedding, you can peek around the corner and hope that no one is stepping on egg shells.

wendy9879

10-17-2006, 09:10 PM

We've been together for almost 6 years so we've had our share of big fights. Days before the wedding, we were at the point where we couldn't be anywhere near each other. :girlfight: We were so stressed out! Items needed to be dropped off at the club, we had last minute projects to finish, etc. I remember saying the night before the wedding..."I can't wait until we can go back to normal". I honestly know why people elope!:rofl:

10-18-2006, 03:37 PM

:computer:

I had to say I love this: :girlfight:

:dust:

wendy9879

10-18-2006, 04:15 PM

:pointlaugh:

thefuturemrsgoss

11-11-2008, 12:16 PM

All of our arguements are linked to the wedding or marriage in some way. If it's not about his side of the family hindering my plans (no guest list, no rehearsal dinner ideas, no NOTHING) it's about the fact that when I ask him something it's "I don't care" or "whatever you pick will be gorgeous, just go with that." it sounds sweet, but it gets FRUSTRATING.

Secondly, there's a lot of fighting over the fact that he's 23 almost 24 years old, and his mother is not wanting to cut the apron strings enough so he can get married and move to Texas. It's not that difficult, she's making that way. She's been on a mission since we crossed the "serious" line to keep him so busy he forgets all about me... And barely has time for me..

"us" time is hard to come by these days, and it's because of her and this stupid wedding! For the record-i wanted to ELOPE!