I Freakin Lost It!

[KelciAlexandra]

ok so im a bit calmer than i was last night because i might be able to fix this but im still FREAKING out...

so last night me and jared went to a Gamma Phi Beta party at a local club and i was so happy that he was actually enjoying himself because he HATES going to bars/ clubs... this was actually the first time we've been to one that hasnt ended in a horrible fight... so i had to go to the bathroom and after i finish going pee i feel my ring... YES MY ENGAGEMENT RING... slip off, then a *ting* like it hitting something and then of course the automatic flushing toilet has to kick in right at that moment... ok so this is me at that point==> :errrr:... i calm myself down and tell the whole bathroom what just happened and a HUGE search starts... one of my best friends whose in the soroity (she invited us to the party) says that she'll go to the bar to ask for a flash light... well she comes back and says that they dont have any, and that jared asked her what was taking me so long and she told him someone spilt a drink on my dress and i was trying to get it out... when really i was near tears and freaking out trying to find my ring... i was in there for almost half an hour looking and i finally gave up, got my dress a bit damp so he would believe the story about the drink getting spilt, and tried to walk out with a smile on my face... he still hasnt noticed and a couple of the girls in the soroity said that they would try to get me a job (because I HAVE NO MONEY OR JOB) so that i can replace the ring cause i DONT want to tell jared... it would break his heart because that was a whole paycheck for him and he doesnt have the extra money between all of our bills... mostly i just feel like im going to :puke:

[lalalola]

Awww, the sucks!!!! Stupid automated flushing toliets!!!!!

Honey, you gotta tell him, he's going to notice!!!!

[Trinia]

:hug:
You defiantly need to tell him.

I am so extremely sorry you lost your ring.

[KelciAlexandra]

you think i should tell him before or after i replace it? cause to tell you the truth i REALLY dont want him to find out... actually its more like i dont want to see the look on his face when he finds out... and he's the kind of guy to skip paying his truck note to buy me another one and right now we REALLY cant afford it AT ALL... my plan at the moment is to tell him that i forgot to put it on if he asks where its at, and to put ALL of my paychecks towards buying the replacement before he notices... im hoping i can have the replacement before our anniversary in october

[Trinia]

Well I would personally tell him before.. If you tell him you forgot to put it on and then later tell him you lost it after you have bought a new one he may feel hurt that you lied to him.

I know you are only trying to prevent hurting him but it isn't your fault.

I asked my DH what he would want me to do and he said it isn't a big deal, it sucks but there is nothing you can do about it.

So ya.. I would tell him before instead of keeping him in the dark about it.

[KelciAlexandra]

i know i should... i just remember the last time i almost lost it... the night he gave it to me i was getting out of the truck and it slipped off at the edge of a dark parking lot and he looked like he was going to be sick... it took him 15 minutes of crawling on the ground to find it... :( im just really scared about hurtin him with all this cause i know it was a big stretch for him to get it in the first place

[Trinia]

:hug:

[angie]

:speechless: OMG sweetie. That is horrible! I am so sorry this has happened to you. I hope you find the courage to tell your FH. :hug99:

[*Diane*]

Honesty is the best policy. Tell him.

[Jaime]

I would tell him before.. he isn't going to be mad at you, it was an honest accident. It wasn't like you were being careless..

Stupid auto flushing, once that happens, it is pretty much a lost cause :( :hug:

[Krissy]

Wait you are really seriously considering not telling him?

I think you'll feel better all the way around if you're just up front with him. If he's going to be your husband you shouldn't have secrets.

[oupiglet]

I can't believe that you didn't tell him as soon as it happened. Honesty and trust should be the the foundation of your relationship. You should also notify management and maintanance of where ever you were. Sometimes there are traps and curves in pipes that might have caught your ring. It might be too late now, but it can't hurt to find out.

Good luck.

[*Ashley*]

You have to tell him. It's not something you did on purpose, and while yes, he'll be upset and angry at first, he loves you and he'll understand.

I'm so sorry that happened to you :(

[Mandy]

Oh hon, what a stressful place to be in. :hug:

My DH and I both say that it's best to be honest and let him know. He may be upset- but he'll most likely be upset at the situation and not at you. Not being upfront may only compound the problem.

Good luck sweetie!!

[Jaime]

I don't think he will be mad. I once wrecked husband's brand new car two weeks after he got it. Mind you this was the first nice car he had ever had and it took him a long time to decide on it. But he wasn't mad because it wasn't something I did on purpose. Just tell him the truth and go from there :hug:

[Raychel]

You have to tell him! And seeing that so many people know..something is likely to slip sometime.

It is not your fault what happened. So I would just tell him and them let him know that you are working on replacing it and go from there.

And I don't know if your ring was a little too big or what, but it sounds like it might have been if it is slipping off so when you get a replacement, definitely make sure that it is sized right so no more slipping off!

[KelciAlexandra]

ok so starting from the top what i've decided on doing...

TOMORROW:
-call the club when office hours open and tell them what happened and see if it somehow didnt fall in the toilet/ was found, or if theres any way to retrieve it
-call the place where he bought the ring and see if there's a warranty on it
-work up the nerve to tell him/ HOW im going to tell him

SUNDAY:
-after a lot of practicing tell him what happened and give him an update on what ive done so far to find it/ replace it

*im going to tell him sunday because im not going to see him till friday and i dont want to tell him over the phone, and saturday is his and his best friend's/our best man's joint 21st bday party so i dont want to drop the bomb on him before all that and ruin his weekend

and it makes it even worse because the day before i lost the ring it fell off in my dorm hallway and it was found by my neighbor who gave it to my RA and it took me ALL DAY to track it down and get it back... and when we were going out the door to go to the party i actually thought "oh should i take my ring off because i dont want it to fall off again... no it'll be alright nothing will happen to it"

and about me not wanting to tell him, well there's a couple of reasons... i just know that he'll be real upset, not at me, but that the ring that he spent all the money he had on is gone and that he cant replace it without skipping paying a bill (which he will try to do because he wont think about the consequences, like losing our furniture, his truck or having our cell phones turned off)... i just dont want him to feel like its his responsibility to replace it when it was my fault, NOT because im afraid that he'll be mad at me or anything like that... also the day that i lost my ring was actually the first in a long time where everything went perfect (we had an all day date), and this was the first time i got him to go to a club/bar where he enjoyed himself, i didnt want to ruin his night or the perfect weekend we were having... i just didnt and dont want him to worry about it because he already has enough to worry about already... i know im just rambling at this point...

[KelciAlexandra]

You have to tell him! And seeing that so many people know..something is likely to slip sometime.

It is not your fault what happened. So I would just tell him and them let him know that you are working on replacing it and go from there.

And I don't know if your ring was a little too big or what, but it sounds like it might have been if it is slipping off so when you get a replacement, definitely make sure that it is sized right so no more slipping off!

the ring is a half a size too big because he used the same size as my class ring which i wear on my right hand... he was planning on getting me a new set when we got married and i decided not to get it resized because it fit my right hand perfectly so we both decided that when i got my set i would wear this one on my right hand

[Winter_Bride]

Sounds like you've got a good plan, I sincerely hope all goes well. I also advise you look into something like this:

http://www.viewithere.com/ring_guard/

So that this doesn't happen again!! :glomp:

So all that's left is for me to wish you luck, and please let us know how everything goes!!

[KelciAlexandra]

ok so i have good news and i have bad news

Good News
The jewlery place said that they have a year warranty with receipt

Bad News
Jared probably tossed the receipt, and the place says that they cant look up purchases (WTF??? they freakin had to take all his personal info down when he ordered the ring and they have proof that he paid for it)... and i called the bar and the girl i talked to was sooooooo rude... she just said "ok gimmie your name, number and what you lost and i'll have them call you back" i asked what time they were going to call because i have class and her response was "well i dunno... like in 24 hours or something" and then she hung up

[oupiglet]

ok so i have good news and i have bad news

Good News
The jewlery place said that they have a year warranty with receipt

Bad News
Jared probably tossed the receipt, and the place says that they cant look up purchases (WTF??? they freakin had to take all his personal info down when he ordered the ring and they have proof that he paid for it)... and i called the bar and the girl i talked to was sooooooo rude... she just said "ok gimmie your name, number and what you lost and i'll have them call you back" i asked what time they were going to call because i have class and her response was "well i dunno... like in 24 hours or something" and then she hung up

You need to call back and ask to speak to a Manager. Don't just talk to who ever answers the phone. Get the person's name, title, and phone number as well.

[KelciAlexandra]

UPDATE!

so i sucked it up and before i could really think about it enough to chicken out i called jared and told him what happened... he was kind of quiet for a second and then told me that he thinks he still has the reciept and that he's going to look for it when he gets off work... we also agreed not to tell our families because we really dont need their BS right now (because trust me i know SEVERAL of them that would have a ball rubbin it in our faces)...

and about this...
You need to call back and ask to speak to a Manager. Don't just talk to who ever answers the phone. Get the person's name, title, and phone number as well.

ive decided that if i dont get a call by the time my classes are over with 2 o'clock-ish then im going to call again and ask to speak with the manager because that was really unacceptable how that girl handled it... the only reason i didnt call back was because i had to get to my first class this morning

[Krissy]

Glad you were honest!

[KelciAlexandra]

Glad you were honest!

i was planning on telling him all along... i just didnt know when... cause i mean how do you really tell your fiance that you just lost the engagement ring that they gave you... its like how do you tell your parents that you wrecked their car, you dont want to but you have to, its just not going to be very pleasent...

i just hope this can be one of those things that we look back on when we're old and laugh at it.... i hope...

[KelciAlexandra]

ok so yesterday i called the club TWICE and both times the person who answered the phone was SOOOO rude and hung up on me without really giving me any info... so today i guess it was the manager from there called me and i told him that i lost my engagement ring in the girls bathroom... he said that no one had reported finding one (why would they report finding a diamond ring?)... but he'll let his maintance crews know to keep an eye out... personally i have NO hope of finding the original ring... if it was found i doubt the person would come forward NOW... so right now me and jared are just searching EVERYWHERE for that recipet and he told me that he's gonna go by the jewlers to see if there isn't some way to get the records of the purchase and use that as a receipt... i've actaully calmed down a lot since talking to jared about it, but i still feel guilty about losin it everytime i realize its not on my finger anymore

[US_UKlove]

If Jared can't find the receipt - did he happen to pay for it with a credit card? Perhaps the credit card company would have a record of the transaction (and maybe the jewelry store would be able to take that as a 'receipt')?

[km]

That is really disheartening. I think the best thing to do is (I think the bar is useless) , I don't think they would really put the effort in. I don't think I would buy another ring, save the money for your wedding band, but if you do get another ring, have it sized before you wear it.. Good luck with everything

[KelciAlexandra]

well jared cant find the receipt and he doesnt own any credit cards, so we've pretty much called it a lost cause... so i came up with this idea and jared agreed to it, since i lost it that i would save up the amount that the original ring cost and i would put it towards a set that i really like and then he would pay the difference on it... i really wish i could have that originial ring though... i didnt even like it all that much (it wasnt one i would have picked out) but just that he gave it to me and the meaning behind it... its always gonna bother me too that i lost it :(

[Krissy]

Well, you live, you learn. Make sure the new one fits properly.

[KelciAlexandra]

Well, you live, you learn. Make sure the new one fits properly.

:word:

[SueMartin]

was it insured? maybe in your contents policy? I lost a bracelt once and the insurance company covered it.

[Jaime]

When Noelle's DH lost his wedding band in the snow, she said something like how she understood how her marriage didn't hinge on that one piece of gold. Something to that effect.. basically meaning that the ring isn't the substance of your relationship, it is the emotion behind it.

[KelciAlexandra]

its not that our relationship depended on that ring (cause that wouldnt be a relationship at all) its just that it meant so much because #1 it was the first piece of nice jewlery that a guy has ever gotten me #2 i know how he bended over backwards to get it in the first place (to tell you the truth we were plannin on gettin married w/ or w/o an engagement ring) #3 it just sybolized how much we love eachother... i dunno i guess the one thing that just really bothers me about this whole thing is that im use to playing with it or touching it (it made me smile everytime cause it would remind me of the night he gave it to me)... i just feel really guilty about losing it

[KelciAlexandra]

HE FOUND IT!:jump4joy: well not the ring but he found the reciept last night! he just got bored and started going through the nightstand on his side of the bed and randomly is was just sitting there... so next time i can go out there (he usually comes to see me in louisiana instead of me goin to mississippi cause its less gas) we're gonna go by the jewlers and see about gettin my ring replaced
:thewave:

this doesnt mean we're in the clear yet but it means that we're gettin closer! :floating:

[US_UKlove]

Excellent news!!!!!!!!!!

[~Sherry~]

:nuts: WOW!! I'm so happy he found it!!!

[*Sarah*]

That is good news!! :thumbsup:

[lalalola]

They replace your ring even though you lost it????

That is wicked!

[dolface546]

That is great!! Get a ring guard while you are in there! My ring almost fell off one day and we went into a jewelry store and got one. Problem solved.

I am SO glad he found the receipt!!!!

[KelciAlexandra]

well we dont have the ring yet but they told me over the phone that the receipt works as a warranty and that if i've lost it to just come in and they'll see what they can do to replace it... so i still need prayers that its all gonna work out ok... but we're a BIG step closer to getting it replaced :D

[jillian]

That's great to hear!!

[oupiglet]

How long will it be before you can get there? Do you have the name of the person who said that they would help you out if you have the receipt? I don't mean to sound skeptical, but I don't want you to get your hopes up. A warranty usually will cover if something breaks, not if you loose the item.

I really hope it all works out for you.

[KelciAlexandra]

the soonest i can go there is in 2 weeks (i live in louisiana and fh lives in mississippi) and dont worry im not getting my hopes up... for all i know that one woman didnt know what the heck she was talking about... but we have a back up plan and im just as happy with that as this one

[km]

:computer:

If they are going to replace your ring that is great news, it is rare for a jeweler to replace a ring that was lost. Almost always they will replace a ring if it a error on their part not the customer. So I wouldn't leave the store unless you leave it there it have it resized and picked up later.

:wavey:

[BrightEyes]

I don't mean to sound skeptical, but I don't want you to get your hopes up. A warranty usually will cover if something breaks, not if you loose the item.

I really hope it all works out for you.

I agree, I hate to say it- I am not sure the warranty means they'll give another one if you lost it. I imagine the reason being is that they woudl have to be concerned about customers (not you, obviously) saying they "lost" a ring to get a second one.

I can't imagine how sick you felt- I don't know if you are a praying type, but sometimes praying to St. Anthony helps. But glad that you told him and that went alright.

[Deidre98]

:hug: I hope everything works out!

[angie]

Did the jeweler offer your DH insurance on the ring? Maybe that's how he can get another? I'm glad he found the receipt and you're trying to work it out.

[fritafondle]

So what happened with this?

[KelciAlexandra]

we had to get a new ring... but i like this ring better than the first because i got to pick it out this time ;)

http://i26.photobucket.com/albums/c137/KelciAlexandra2/IMG000012.jpg

[Winter_Bride]

That's a beautiful ring too! What's the stone in the middle?

I'm sorry you never found your original ring though!

[KelciAlexandra]

its a sapphire... i would have liked it to be a darker shade of blue but other than that its perfect!

this ring was about $100 more expensive than the original but since i felt like it was my fault i paid the difference on the ring

[SueMartin]

I am so glad that you have your engagement ring again, even if it wasnt the original one..