I'm scared...

[Weddingplans]

Really...I am scared. I just don't know what we are going to do.

I was talking to FH last night, and I guess I just did not realize how dire our situation was, concerning money. Because of him traveling out to this other wedding last weekend, he now has no money in order to pay for his rent, which is due the 1st. It cost him more gas than he thought it would, and then his brother didn't have as much work for him that he said he would, either. Not only do we not have rent money, though, I also have 2 loans, one due on the 7th, cell phones, credit cards, electric, and I'm not sure what else, all coming due...and we have NO money to pay for them.

Patrick is hoping that people are just generous and give us money at the wedding....but the problem is, even if we got enough to pay for rent (which I'm not sure we'll even cover that!), we still need money for our honeymoon....money for gas, and food while we are there...and we were wanting to stop and stay the night on our way up there and back so we wouldn't have to drive through the night. I don't know how that is going to happen now. I'm trying to collect enough for the honeymoon, but it's going to be super TIGHT.

And I'm kinda torn about what I want for gifts from the wedding...money would be super nice, as we would be able to pay for rent, maybe some of the honeymoon, some other bills...but at the same time, I also want THINGS, because well, there are still things we really NEED. Like a vaccuum...Patrick hasn't been able to vaccuum his house since he moved in, because his vaccuum quit on him, and we need a new one. Or towels, we have like, maybe, 6 between the two of us! And I know I will have to go and get lots of stuff, starting out, in order to clean the place up and stuff....and we'll need money for that too.I felt like we were starting to come out even, and that everything was FINALLY starting to come out straight. I guess not....


I just don't know what we are going to do...we have money for NONE of this...and I'm kind of scared. :mope:

[Krissy]

Holy Moly! Your wedding is so close! I'm sorry these money woes are sneaking up on you right now! Do you not already have money put away for the honeymoon? Honestly, if you have other things that need to be paid could you put the honeymoon on hold? I know it's probably not what you want to hear, but at some point I think you just have to figure out your priorities.

[Sk8ermaiden]

I was thinking the same thing. Cancel the honeymoon. You have other priorities that are way more important. I would also use any cash toward your bills. Getting stuff and going on your honeymoon will feel good now, but these bills can put black marks on your credit report and high interest rates can snowball. Then, after the wedding, you guys need to have a serious talk about budgets. Going to out of state weddings when you don't have enough money for rent is a really bad idea.

Could you take out a low or no interest loan from your parents or other family members? Just to get you through this set of bills? I am sorry this is coming to the surface now. :hug:

[Jaime]

I would also put the honeymoon on hold or just ask your parents for money to cover the bills. As long as you aren't making a habit of it they should be cool with it.

Also, I just wanted to add that I only have 6 towels too! We got 6 nice towels for the wedding and I've never added to the collection, although I have to do laundry a lot.

Good luck! :hug:

[saraw04]

I'm sorry this is happening to you now! I was going to suggest the same thing as the other girls. The first thing I would do is put the honeymoon off for now and get everything else paid for first and then worry about a honeymoon. It doesn't sound like you would have too much fun on a HM anyways since you would be worrying about how much you were spending and how you were going to pay for it. Good luck!

Sara :)

[angie]

Please postpone the honeymoon until at least next year. Even if you get a lot of money from the wedding, you have loans, credit cards and house essentials to get. You guys really need to catch up on things before spending money on a trip. I know it sucks, but it'll be best in the long run.:hug:

[~LeAna~]

I agree with the other ladies. Postponing is no fun, but I don't think you can really enjoy yourselves if you're worried about money.

[mrs.g]

I agree with the other ladies. Postponing is no fun, but I don't think you can really enjoy yourselves if you're worried about money.

ITA

Sorry you're going through this. :hug:

[*meghan*]

I also agree with the other ladies. You don't have to have a honeymoon right after the wedding. Sometimes it's fun to wait anyways - gives you something to look forward to!

[Mrs.H]

:hug99: Aww, I'm sorry all this is coming up on you so close to the wedding!!! I hate to say it, but I agree with the other ladies as well, and think you should postpone the honeymoon. You can still go, it'll just give you something more to look forward to, and you'll be able to have more fun while you're there.

[*Ashley*]

As soon as I read this, postponing the honeymoon was the first thing that came to mind.

I'm sorry, I know it's the last thing you want to hear three days out from your wedding, but that's the best option in my opinion.

[jillian]

I'm sorry that you are going though all this right now. :comfort:

I agree with the other ladies, post pone the HM. I know you don't want to hear it right now but bills are priority.

[Weddingplans]

Here is the problem, we have already booked AND PAID for our room, and are not able to back out without losing all the money for it.

[Sk8ermaiden]

I don't think it matters. That money is already lost, but you will only spend more by going. That's money that you really need for your rent.

[*Ashley*]

I don't think it matters. That money is already lost, but you will only spend more by going. That's money that you really need for your rent.

What she said.

In the grand scheme of things, that money for the rooms the least of your worries, you know? It seems like you've already made your mind up though, so I'm sure you'll go on the honeymoon, as most everyone would want to! (It's the honeymoon, for goodness sakes :)) It just isn't the logical decision in my opinion, but also in the grand scheme of things, my opinion, along with the other girls here, matters little -- it's your life, do what you think is the best thing to do :) No matter what you decide, you'll have a beautiful wedding and a husband who loves you very much, and in the end, that's all that matters :hug:

P.S. Couldn't you honeymoon at a later date? Say maybe take an extra special vacation/honeymoon next year when you can afford it?

[Mrs. Bebe]

Some places will allow you to change your rsvp for a minimal charge as long as you stay booked there. You may want to inquire about this before making up your mind. Best of luck to you!

[Mrs. Bebe]

Oh, ALSO- FH and I had a "pseudo- registry"- not because we need money but because we're travelling abroad for a year after the wedding. What we did was register for the things we really need, and not register for very much. Then our wedding party spread the word that gift certificates and cash would be greatly appreciated so that they can be used when we set up house in a year and a half. I know that it's very close to your wedding, but it was just a thought to help out the second part of your post.

[angie]

I'm surprised a hotel wouldn't give you a refund with over a 24 hour notice. Maybe I don't travel enough to know this can happen? I would still call the hotel and see what you could do. It doesn't hurt to try. If you can't cancel it, at least try to switch to a later date.

[Krissy]

I agree with everyone else. I would call first and see if you could postpone it. Then you could either use it later or maybe someone else could use it. Or you're out the $ for the room. Big whoop. If you owe bills, they need to be paid before you go on any vacation. Do you really want to start your life in the hole moneywise or with blackmarks on your credit?

[Angela]

I have to agree with the other girls. We didn't go on a honeymoon right after our wedding, because we couldn't afford it. Yeah, we could've with all the money we got as gifts, but we didn't count on getting so much. We're finally taking a vacation for our first anniversary. Am I sad that we didn't get a real honeymoon? Yeah. But it's just a quick vacation - I would've been dealing with the stress from bills for a lot longer than that.

I would call the hotel and just ask if you can keep the booking but change it to a later date in the future, so you're not losing out.

Good luck!

[Maria 05]

Sweetheart I have money woes for our wedding too and you have to prioritise. Rent utilities and essentials have to be paid first. I am so sorry you are going through this

[~Tala~]

I agree with everyone else. It is ultimately up to you, but if I were in your shoes, I would go on a honeymoon when we could afford it and actually enjoy it!

P.S. I hope you have a wonderful wedding! Only 2 more days! :heee:

[*Diane*]

Would you really enjoy a honeymoon, knowing that when you get back, your financial situation is going to suck pond scum? :bighug: