OMG - I'm marrying my cousin!!!!!!! [Archive]

JerAndKathy

07-19-2006, 11:53 AM

Ok, so here's the deal. Kathy and I just got into Geneology here about a year ago and in doing research on both sides. We stumbled across a rather odd last name. Yes - on both sides.

Thankfully, this name dates the late 1800s on each side. It's my Great Grandmother, not sure of the relationship for Kathy, it's very distant, tho. We've not dug deep enough to find if there is a connection or if it's just fluke. But, will make for some interesting research. :D

Anyone else ever find strange connections like this? :D

destinationbride07

07-19-2006, 12:00 PM

um no lol lol

JerAndKathy

07-19-2006, 12:02 PM

Funny thing is I'm in Ohio and she's in Ottawa, Ontario! LoL

first glance we initially think no, it's not. Two seperate countries. But the more we look, we did find some border jumpers in the histories...So, who knows? LoL

*Gina*

07-19-2006, 12:03 PM

Wow. What are the odds of THAT?? :lol:

christinas2006

07-19-2006, 12:10 PM

Wow that is crazy.

JerAndKathy

07-19-2006, 12:12 PM

UH-huh...Crazy it is. LoL

I mean, s'not stopping us. It's so distant we're not terribly concerned. LoL And may not even 'connect', but there's a chance. LoL

-->Kat<--

07-19-2006, 01:03 PM

yep... that is strange :headscratch: So when are you guys moving to Oklahoma :lol: j/k ;)

JerAndKathy

07-19-2006, 01:05 PM

We aren't. :p But we vacationing in Kentucky this summer? LoL

Editor's Note: No offense is meant to Kentucky at all. I actually like it down there 'across the river. :D

*Gina*

07-19-2006, 01:07 PM

yep... that is strange :headscratch: So when are you guys moving to Oklahoma :lol: j/k ;)

:lol: I thought it was Alabama. (Also no offense to anyone from there)

-->Kat<--

07-19-2006, 01:10 PM

:lol: I wasn't sure where... just knew it was some random state over there ;)

*note no Alabamans, Oklahomans, or Kentuckians were harmed during this post! No ofense meant to those respective states

Maria 05

07-19-2006, 01:17 PM

For the love of do you not know its Ireland

(no offence to the Irish lassies but we all know about Leitrim :hide: )
No not to me but yes reserching genelogy my cousin worked out that she and her husband are also distantly related but you have to go back something like eight generations so it was ok

KathyandJer

07-19-2006, 02:22 PM

That's the same with us...in our family, there is a bit of a tradition where a son is given the maiden name of the mother as his middle name. My brother, my uncle, my great-uncle...and we can trace this back at least 4 or 5 generations.

When we got into the further-back history, there is a man (my great-great-grandfather, I believe) with this strange middle name that is the same as Jer's great-great-grandmother (I think?)... and I just wondered if there was a connection further back, and he was given his mother's maiden name as a middle name :dontknow:

As we piece things together though, there's a definite possibility, because Jer's grandmother (or great-grandmother) was originally from Quebec (I believe)...and I had alot of relatives move from Prince Edward Island or Ontario down to the US (different states)!

Jaci

07-19-2006, 04:31 PM

*meghan*

07-19-2006, 06:01 PM

My aunt's 2nd husband has the same last name as her and my mom's great-grandmother. They never dug into it, but we all wondered if they were related somehow.......good thing they aren't married anymore :heee:

Kya

07-19-2006, 07:21 PM

Lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No, but I am scared to find out though!!

jillian

07-19-2006, 09:04 PM

My great-great-grandparents were cousins. Maybe that's how they did it in the old country.

KathyandJer

07-19-2006, 10:17 PM

:caught:

I won't even tell you about my family. I think it's a SMALL town thing, rather than any particular area of the country.

But no, Chris and I are NOT related, not as far as our geneology tells us...but our families by themselves...well, let's just leave it at that.

Ohhh, it's definitely a small town thing :rofl: One of my bridesmaid's has an Uncle Grandpa. I don't remember the exact story, but she grosses out. Albeit a little weird, technically "uncle grandpa" and grandma were not related at all... :lol: And there's a few other twisted roots in the family tree - same situation in all of them too - no blood relatives...just weird scenarios :lol2:

angie

07-19-2006, 11:37 PM

Wow! That's something else! There's no way FH and I are even remotely related. He can claim a very distant relation to Marilyn Monroe though. Kinda cool, eh?

JerAndKathy

07-19-2006, 11:38 PM

That is cool! :)

Noelle

07-20-2006, 09:01 AM

I had weird connections to an ex-boyfriend...my aunt Lois is married to a guy named Don. My Uncle Don's step-mom was previously married to my ex-boyfriend's great-uncle! Yes, it was all by marriage!

Now with my DH, my mom has found someone with the same last name as DH's in a family geneaolgy book...however, we're not thinking it's any relation!

Isn't it crazy how in small towns everyone is related?

Oh, and on another note we have a group of 12 friends, and we've decided that we're all related SOMEHOW! Let's see, I'm married to DH, and his brother is married to Sally. Sally is related to 2 of the other girls, one of which's DH is my 5th cousin. Oh and another one of the guys and I share a relative -- his uncle (By marriage) is my 3rd cousin...yeah, a bit confusing!

-->Kat<--

07-20-2006, 10:03 AM

I would have to see that drawn out to understand it! :lol:

Noelle

07-20-2006, 10:59 AM

I would have to see that drawn out to understand it! :lol:

Here you go...
http://im1.shutterfly.com/procserv/47b6d901b3127cce8b2cde96bdb100000016108VZuWjRzw

-->Kat<--

07-20-2006, 11:29 AM

:lol: I didn't think you'd really do it... it looks like some complex equation :lol:

Noelle

07-20-2006, 11:47 AM

Well, I tried to do it on the computer, but realized it would be much easier just writing it out! It wasn't TOO difficult...I'm not sure on ALL of our connections (so that's why some say "related")

Angela

07-20-2006, 04:32 PM

Tom and I are related through marriage.....my step-grandmother's son-in-law is his mother's cousin. Confusing, huh? There really is no relation, thank goodness....we just think it's funny.

Spatula Girl

07-20-2006, 05:23 PM

That's funny :lol: - but not impossible. When my cousin on my mom's side was getting married, we discovered that his future wife was actually related to US on my dad's side. So they weren't related, but we were related to both the bride and groom:).

carolinalady67

07-20-2006, 08:29 PM

:lol: I thought it was Alabama. (Also no offense to anyone from there)

No, it's North Carolina. No kidding, in looking up marriage certificate requirements I learned you can marry your first cousin in North Carolina! :gag: But not a double first cousin (what ever the heck that is) I mean we do have some standards here :giggle:

So Jer and Kathy if you need to move here let me know I'll help you find a house :)

smiles

07-20-2006, 09:37 PM

DH and I are not realated at all. On DH's side there is one weird thing with one of his mom's cousins where the cousin married an aunt. I'm so confused by the story though.

carolinalady67

07-20-2006, 11:07 PM

Oh, but Chris did "date" his Aunt in high school. :lol2: He has an Uncle not much older then him and he went out with the girl his Uncle ended up getting married to. Yes, he is from a small town!

blondelildevil

07-21-2006, 12:47 AM

:lol: I thought it was Alabama. (Also no offense to anyone from there)

Isn't it Arkansas? hehee I know thats what we always joke around about here in Texas... people marrying their sister or brother. I HOPE I DIDNT OFFEND ANYONE!!!

KathyandJer

07-21-2006, 08:54 AM

So Jer and Kathy if you need to move here let me know I'll help you find a house :)

:lol2: We'll let you know Lisa!

Funny how different people use different states as the brunt of their jokes, huh? :lol:

*alissa*

07-21-2006, 09:16 AM

Wow, I reasearched my and Dh's geneology a little, absolutley no relations there! (But,then again, it was hard pinpointing my granny, she lived in the hills of kentucky, and they weren't very good record keepers there!) so maybe if I was able to research more on her side....????? LOL

Lela

07-28-2006, 09:00 PM

Okay, here's my weird familial relationships story- my sister and I are our own cousins. We have the same great-grandfather six generations back on my mom's side and five generations back on my dad's side, so my mom and dad are cousins, so my mom's kids would be cousins with my dad's kids- but my mom and dad's kids are the same people, so we're our own cousins! :O

And I'm with Amanda- it's Arkansas. And ironically enough I went to school in Arkansas- appropriate, huh? :D

fideliaamora

07-29-2006, 12:52 PM

alright guys! i'm an alabamian!!! thanks!

haha, no, i'm just kidding. you'll find more of that in rural alabama/mississipi areas. maybe even tennessee? it's not *as* common as you all may think... but i have to admit i do know of one uncle marrying his neice (direct niece at that!). but that's it. only one. lol. and im not helping my reputation am i?

Michelle

07-29-2006, 03:59 PM

Funny how different people use different states as the brunt of their jokes, huh? :lol:

Yes. In Alabama, Mississippi is the brunt of the jokes!

Hughto

08-02-2006, 07:58 PM

I had a weird relationship thing happening in my family for a bit....

My mom's brother, Bruce, was married to a woman named Bobbi. They had my cousin, Josh. They got divorsed.

Bobbi then had another child with a man named Sam. They never married and wound up breaking up, but were only attached by the kid.

My dad was remarried to a woman named Celia for awhile. Celia wound up having an affair with Sam. So, technically, my step mother hooked up with my cousins, brother's dad....

Lela

08-03-2006, 05:08 PM

So, technically, my step mother hooked up with my cousins, brother's dad....

Whoa... headache trying to figure that out, even with the clear explanation....

Jaci

08-03-2006, 10:52 PM

hah, I gotcha, but only because I understand the cousin's brother's dad...I have a half bro myself.

BrightEyes

08-09-2006, 02:52 PM

Closest I come is within my own family-

My mom's brother married my dad's sister (aunt and uncle since divorced). So their son, Andy, is our "double cousin" and my sis, brother and I tease him that is pretty much our sibling since he has all the same basic genes. :lol:

Well, Andy is also only 4 months younger than me and we both had blonde hair and blue eyes when we were little (we both still do, although my hair is "helped along" :lol:). So there are pics of us as toddlers where we could be fraternal twins.

Jaime

08-09-2006, 09:04 PM

I am from West Virginia, and in order to get married here they ask you if you are cousins.

My cousins are actually on our family tree twice. They are on each side. What are you gonna do, really. It happens.

Kristie

08-11-2006, 12:39 PM

Isn't it crazy how in small towns everyone is related?

Not True. I'm from a small town and we're not all related. Maybe it's different in the US but in Canada that isn't true.
There are more small towns in canada then there are large cities.

Jaime

08-12-2006, 01:15 PM

My Mom is from a town where everyone is related pretty much. If you go to the local fair Grandma would say "There's a cousin, there's your aunt, there's another cousin", etc, etc.

*Kim*

09-10-2006, 06:45 PM

No kidding, in looking up marriage certificate requirements I learned you can marry your first cousin in North Carolina! :gag: But not a double first cousin (what ever the heck that is)

my dad has double first cousins. lets just see if i can explain this.... my dad's parents (my grandparents) had siblings that married each other as well. so both sisters each married a brother. there for their children are double first cousins. meaning that both sets of cousins have the same grandparents, cousins etc...

KelciAlexandra

03-23-2007, 02:29 AM

me and my FH have family that have the same last name but i dont think we're cousins. . . but my FH does have 2 pairs of first cousins that wed. . . one pair are actual blood first cousins. . .the other pair are step first cousins. . . i think its icky but thats just me. . . and yes both pairs do have children

Jaime

03-23-2007, 03:15 PM

My cousins are on the family tree twice :hehe: My Uncle married a distant cousin.

I have all of my teeth though.. well not really :shuffle:

03-23-2007, 04:25 PM

nope

soulmates

03-26-2007, 01:15 AM

my dad has double first cousins. lets just see if i can explain this.... my dad's parents (my grandparents) had siblings that married each other as well. so both sisters each married a brother. there for their children are double first cousins. meaning that both sets of cousins have the same grandparents, cousins etc...

I have double first cousins!
My mom's brother is married to my dad's sister.

carolinalady67

03-26-2007, 01:24 AM

KelciAlexandra

03-28-2007, 11:00 PM

OMG i know im double posting on this thread but my sister is startin to date my FH's first cousin. . . so me and the FH have been talkin about this and worked it out that if they do end up gettin together and married that all of our kids are gonna be first and third cousins and that our nieces and nephews are gonna also be our second cousins and that we all are gonna be first cousins/ BIL && SIL. . . WEIRD. . . cool but WEIRD

renee

03-31-2007, 08:26 AM

Both Ron and I did some research ~ his is very much homogenous from this area of the Netherlands. Pure Dutch. My background on the other hand is, on my dad's side, traced back to Frederick Wilhelm I of Prussia and the area of Germany now called Baden-Wuerttemburg. My mother's side is Welsh and Scottish. The only connection is that some people on my dad's side married into the royal Dutch family. Ron's family isn't even close to the royal Dutch family though!

Funnily enough... my best friend's last name is Jansen. She was born in Renkum (where ALL of Ron's family is from) and adopted by the Jansen's. Ron has family who also are called Jansen :) So we jokingly say that she is his cousin (she's adopted though and we know nothing about her bio-parents at all, but... there is a chance that they *could* be related because Renkum is a tiny town and they are all pretty much related to each other :lol: )

Jelly Bean

04-03-2007, 08:59 PM

Not for me but for my parents. I can't remember the exact details but it turned out that one's Great Great Grandma and the other's Great Great Great Grandma were sisters!

Jelly Bean

04-03-2007, 09:02 PM

my dad has double first cousins. lets just see if i can explain this.... my dad's parents (my grandparents) had siblings that married each other as well. so both sisters each married a brother. there for their children are double first cousins. meaning that both sets of cousins have the same grandparents, cousins etc...

Same thing happened somewhere in my family history. I think it was either three sisers from one family married 3 brothers from another or 2 sisters and 1 brother married 2 brothers and a sister.

RDC_girl

07-07-2007, 03:12 AM

A friend of mine married her BIL's brother. So two sisters married a set of brothers, Hence all the kidlets are double first cousins.

Jelly Bean

07-17-2007, 10:23 AM

Oh, I forgot that my husband's aunty and uncle are first cousins that married too! They have never had kids. Actually come to think of it Hubby's dad is the only one in their family of 4 to have had any kids!

KathyandJer

07-22-2007, 06:36 PM

Looking through our family tree, I had to laugh because I have one great great uncle who seemed to just work through all the girls in one family - he was married, then widowed; married his first wife's sister - again he was widowed; and yup, you guessed it - married his first and second wife's sister :lol:

There were a few things in the family tree that were hard to figure out :headscratch:

serda23

07-22-2007, 06:48 PM

I think I'd be pretty scared to be the next sister! :giggle:

KathyandJer

07-22-2007, 06:54 PM

Me too...I was beginning to wonder if he didn't get tired of one sister and kill her off to move on :laugh3:

JerAndKathy

07-22-2007, 07:07 PM

Me too...I was beginning to wonder if he didn't get tired of one sister and kill her off to move on :laugh3:

Or maybe he was a hard man to live with and he drove to the grave! :lol:

Jelly Bean

07-22-2007, 10:43 PM

:lol: That is so funny!! :laugh3:

glamgurl36

10-24-2007, 12:22 PM

haha o man, thats scary, at least it was from the 1880s and not not 1980s...that would have been interesting

~*Kate*~

01-11-2008, 01:16 PM

O.M.G. And you thought your cousin was bad...
http://www.cnn.com/2008/WORLD/europe/01/11/twins.married/index.html

*Tanya*

01-11-2008, 01:48 PM

Oh my god, could you imagine how traumatic that would be??? Ugh.

My story isn't nearly as twisted as that one, Kate, but I'll share it anyway.

My biological father, Johnny, has a sister, Susan.
My mother, Linda, has a first cousin, Robert.

Susan and Robert married each other. So because Robert is my Aunt Susan's husband, he's my Uncle Robert through marriage. But because he's my mom's first cousin, he's my second cousin, or cousin once removed or however they say it. So I always call him Uncle Cousin Robert. :heee:

hellobethie

01-11-2008, 02:29 PM

Wow.
That's all I got.
Wow.

~LeAna~

01-11-2008, 03:04 PM

That is a crazy story!!

Golden Circus Girl

01-18-2008, 01:14 PM

Anyone else ever find strange connections like this? :DWell, my parents realized after they were married that they're eighth cousins or something. That makes me my own ninth cousin. (Or something. It confuses me.) We tell them that explains a lot. :lol: