Bridezilla or just standing up for yourself and what you want?

[Raychel]

What is a "bridezilla" to you? How would you describe a "bridezilla" moment or a "bridezilla" in general? Is it a totally losing control response? Being a huge bitch about everything? Making unfair demands?

Do you think the word can also be used to manipulate brides into being more docile when dealing with planning a wedding? If a vendor commented on how it was so great that you were laid back and not bridezilla like and then proceeded to do something that upset you or was not what you wanted, would you be any less likely to confront them b/c you didn't want to be feared labeled bridezilla?

[nikkiscott]

I don't think calling someone a bridezilla is right when they know what they want. Its just they way they go about getting what they want. Yelling, calling people names, is wrong. But standing up for yourself in a nice but demanding way is ok.

[BASIA]

Like Nikki said if you know what you want than that is ok as long as you are telling people in an acceptable way. Telling your BM that they need to go on diet and than locking the fridge is not ok. Making people change the color of their hair is not ok. Making people leave everything for the next year and not have a life is not ok. Knowing that you want your reception to be in such and such place and than sticking to it is ok. Not wanting kids at your wedding and sticking to is is ok as long as all these request are made in a way that will not offend anyone or disrespect anyone.

[*Diane*]

I think women are labeled as bridezillas when their focus becomes completely about themselves and the wedding. Here is an example; a bride threw a screaming :hissyfit: at the bridal shop because some of the BM's dyeable shoes had black heel taps and the rest had beige. Seriously? That is worth getting so upset- the color of the bottom of the heel of the shoe? :nono:

If, for example, your wedding flowers arrive and they are dead- screaming is viable option. :giggle: It may help to vent but then, it is time to put the emotion aside and focus on fixing the problem.

Forcing other people to bow to your every demand, being irrational, expecting everyone else to be as interested in your wedding as you are, making other people feel uncomfortable- that is a bridezilla. Women shouldn't lose their sense of respect for others just because they are getting married. In fact, I think someone who does become a bridezilla is showing quite clearly that she is not mature enough to be married.

Even if someone was trying to manipulate me by using the bridezilla word, first I would ask myself if that comment is valid. We all let emotion get the best of us occasionally. If it was uncalled for, I would still try to be respectful but firm. As the customer, if they can't provide what I want, then I am certainly happy to find a vendor who can provide it. If a friend or family member is being disrespectful, they are more than welcome to keep their happy :moon: at home on the day of the wedding. I don't have a problem with defining boundaries. I just want to be sure that the boundary is a responsible one. :)