Planning/Creating Bridal Shower

[*TanyaJeanne*]

I am going to be one of the main people throwing together the bridal shower for my friend. Since I am guessing it will cost a fair amount of money, do I still want to get her a wedding gift on her wedding day?

I have lots of questions!! :) I have never been a BM before.

[Renny]

I'm a MaOH and planning the shower too and I'm guessing I'll be carrying the full cost of it (them) and since I am spending so much I plan on still getting a gift but just something smaller. I am also thinking about it being something like a recipe party so that she can get some cool kitchen things and build a little cookbook at the same time, and well to be honest you can find some pretty reasonable kitchen goods.


ohhh for some reason I read it as a gift for the party not the actual wedding day. I am also planning on getting a simpler gift for then too, though the big gift is me doing the flowers/centerpieces/decorations.

[lalalola]

When I planned and paid for my friends shower, I got her a very small shower gift but still did get them a good wedding gift. It sucked having to pay for everything especially when the other BM "co-hosted" (said a speech, everyone thanked her, etc, etc).

[Mel]

it is standard to still give a gift both at the shower and for the wedding...
if money is tight and your bride is cool, these are obviously open to discussion. and as i am sure you know - you have a year to give a wedding gift (esp as a member of the bp)

[Winter_Bride]

The past few showers I've thrown I haven't given a gift at the shower (or if I did, it's been a small one), but have still given a wedding present no different than if I weren't in the wedding party at all.

If money's an issue, you CAN get a wedding present that is meaningful but won't break your budget - I'm brainstorming but it's late right now... I would still plan on getting her a wedding present, however.

[jillian]

I'm 'co-hosting' my friend's shower next month - well the MOH is doing the bulk of planning I'm just putting in some money, decorating, taking RSVPs - and I decided to put a $50 limit on the bride's gift for the shower.

Do what you can do. If you can't afford x amount of money don't go spending it. Include in the card a letter telling her what a good friend she's been over the years and how you're very happy for her.

[MemphisMom]

As the shower hostess, your main gift is the expense of the shower. My friends and I usually host showers as a group so we combine our $$ and give a "hostess gift" from all of us.

I would also give an additional wedding gift. The amount of the gift is not important, give what you can comfortably afford. When you are in a wedding you are already spending a lot so a smaller gift is certainly appropriate.

I always purchase from the bride's registry, most brides have a wide price range of gifts to choose from.

[km]

you would still give a gift for the wedding, but you don't have to be so extravagant.