My sister hates my wedding photos [Archive]

Maria 05

07-20-2006, 12:46 PM

My little sister cant stop crying when she sees my photos and or my dvd. She says she looks hideous and like a beached whale. I dont know what to do its breaking my heart. I think she looks beautiful. Here is one of the pics that she wanted to slash and burn (her words not mine)
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http://xs74.xs.to/pics/06136/wedding2.jpg.xs.jpg (http://xs.to/xs.php?h=xs74&d=06136&f=wedding2.jpg)
What can I do I dont want to show my photos to anyone now because I am afraid of hurting Soracha's feelings

Krissy

07-20-2006, 12:53 PM

Are you kidding? she's so cute! (You're not too shabby yourself either ;))

I can understand looking at yourself and being unhappy with what you see. But I wouldn't think the she wouldn't want you to show your wedding pictures with others.

If I were you I wouldn't be bringing them all out when she's around. But I wouldn't stop sharing my special day either.

jrbecca

07-20-2006, 01:54 PM

I think she's beautiful. We're our own worst critic. I wouldn't hesitate to show others your wedding photos. Share them all you want. Perhaps she'll overhear others commenting about how nice she looks, or how beautiful the picture above is and change her mind.

But, please do tell her this...if I look half as beautiful on my wedding day as she does in the photo you posted, I'll consider myself blessed. She has nothing to be ashamed of!

Noelle

07-20-2006, 01:54 PM

I think you BOTH look GREAT!!!

Maria 05

07-20-2006, 01:55 PM

thanks girls I am just really worried about her.

Krissy

07-20-2006, 02:01 PM

Has she always had low self esteem? Is she currently working on losing weight? Or is she depressed?

carolinalady67

07-20-2006, 02:02 PM

You both look very beautiful. We see all our own flaws in pictures. Even on days I left the house thinking I looked good if I see a picture from that day all I can think is "why on earth did I think I looked good". I'm very worried about our wedding pictures because I don't want to look at them and feel that way. So I do understand how your sister feels. And no amount of other people telling her she looks great is going to change how she sees them. I just hope time will help her see how beautiful she is.

Is it normal for her to not like pictures of herself? I don't think you should feel bad about showing the pictures to others. If you were passing around a picture of her at her worst then I would side with you sister more.

Coze

07-20-2006, 02:09 PM

Hi hi-

Both of you are beautiful and I agree... we are our own worst critics... I couldn't believe when I started thinking about Honey's and my wed-site that there was only 5 pictures of us together during our whole relationship... why?? Because I hate being in front of the camera. Then a friend told me that 'if I was not content with who I was, I would be motivated to do something about it and working hard to remedy the situation and since I hadn't done anything about my weight issue, I must therefore be content with who I was'... I understand your sister thinking she's big, but she's not... really, she is beautiful!!

TTFN...
D.J.

destinationbride07

07-20-2006, 02:45 PM

she looks fabulous!!!! and that's the truth! ...awh i am sorry she feels this way...

destinationbride07

07-20-2006, 02:46 PM

btw u look fabulous as well :)

Emily

07-20-2006, 04:25 PM

While I understand that she doesn't care for the way she looks in the pictures, she has no right to prevent you from showing off pictures of YOUR day. These are about you and you should NOT feel badly about showing off your wedding pictures.

KathyandJer

07-21-2006, 08:57 AM

You're both beautiful...and definitely don't stop showing the pictures!

Is there something else going on with your sister? Did she recently gain some weight or get dumped by a real jerk? Sounds like something is really really affecting her self-esteem.

*alissa*

07-21-2006, 09:21 AM

I think she looks wonderful! She ahs great hair, great coloring, great eyes! She is all around gorgoues!
I will agree we are our own worst critics, and if she is feeling down or depressed, then there isn't much any one can say to change her mind.
Don't feel like you can't show your pics, though. Like someone else said, just don't go flashing them around while she is around.
BTW, maria, you look FABULOUS!

MrsRea

07-21-2006, 10:31 AM

I think she looks great. Im sorry that she feels differently!

*Diane*

07-21-2006, 01:51 PM

Kari

07-22-2006, 12:35 PM

This may sound harsh, but those photos are NOT about her and she should be ashamed for mentioning it to you.

JMO

Mandy

07-24-2006, 06:45 PM

I don't think she wants to prohibit you from showing off your photos. I am the same way: I HATE having pictures taken of myself, but I would never want anyone to hade away photos. So keep showing off your beautiful pictures and remember that you should never have to store those away...for any reason :).

HelenAngel

07-25-2006, 10:43 AM

You both look fabulous! I agree with other posters and just don't bring the pictures out around her. However, maybe also gently point out that while she may think she looks bad, other people do not. I think I look like a beached whale/hag in my wedding pictures but my husband keeps telling me my opinion is skewed so I try to push past it.

Andrea

07-25-2006, 06:13 PM

im with krissy...she is gorgeous...i think shes very pretty...its so unfortunate in this world today with everyone thinking they've gotta be super skiiny

Maria 05

10-28-2006, 09:21 AM

I forgot about this thread

Soracha is much happier about her self image now she still thinks she looks "big" in my wedding photos but she is much more relaxed and has lost some weight (she is exercising and on a healthy eating plan.) In fact last time I was down she had borrowed my dress and said it looks better on me

:laugh3:

Thanks girls Soracha is much happier and my wedding photos are not an issue

Also thank you for all the wonderful compliments I showed them to Soracha and while she was mad at me for venting here she did like what you said about her .

angie

10-29-2006, 01:22 AM

In ten years, she may look at those pictures and say, "I don't know why I hated them. I looked good then!". Until then, just be proud of how beautiful you all looked and don't stop showing them. The look of happiness on your faces... priceless.

:agreesign: I had very low self esteem in my 20s. I thought I was ugly blah, blah, blah...Now I look back and think, why did I waste so much energy thinking that? Why didn't I appreciate what I had?

Your sister is very pretty as you are. I'm glad she came around and is feeling better about things.

Raychel

10-29-2006, 03:21 AM

I thought I looked terrible in my sister's wedding photos and video too, to be honest. I don't like to see myself in them b/c I feel like the dress was unflattering and I hated the way the stylist did my hair, but whatever...it's not like anybody was really looking at me that day or cares what I look like really in the pictures. I would definitely not throw a fit about them. I don't like them, but whatever it's not what I look like everyday anyways and people know that.

Glad to hear that your sister is feeling better about herself now though.

sweetiez

11-01-2006, 04:42 PM

oh my lord! hOW COULD she say such a thing im sure she has some sort of depression. does she see anyone? you girls are BEAUTIFUL.. dont feel like u cant show off ur pics.. DO IT!! they are beautiful.