Lori
07-20-2006, 05:18 PM
This might be long, gosh where do I start. My mom agreed to buy my dress, cake, and pay for the location.
My mom is the type of person that wants to buy the 1st thing she sees.
When I went dress shopping for the 1st time, I bought my dress that day and only tried on 6 dresses. Why?? because she wanted me too and well she is paying. I would have rather thought about it and went else where to look at more dresses.
Then the venue, I can't lie I love it. But who books their venue the day they just go to look at it? I wanted to look at lakeside gardens first before we decided. Since that was where I wanted to get married since I was 14. (which ends up being cheaper) But once again she is paying.
My location printed out an estimated cost which included the site rental, food for 100 people, drinks, and linens. It was about $8,000 she said she refused to pay for my chair covers 1/2 through the booking process when I asked how much they would be. I didn't want to say sorry I don't want to get married here since my mom wont pay for the chair covers.
So I figure I can come up with the $400 from somewhere or hopefully talk her into paying for them. :sigh:
a week after booking she claimed she wasn't paying for alcohol, I was like what? You said you agreed to her estimated cost amount. She said yea that doesn't include alcohol. I bet her $100 it did. And showed it to her the next day. She never paid me the $100.
So now its time to get the cake. I wanted a square, round, square, round 4 tier cake that was $615.00 and fed like 140 people. She then talked me into getting a 5 tier square cake in the last two minutes that cost us $948.00! I still like the look of the other one better :( Then I wanted to just pay the deposit so maybe I could change it down the line when I talk to my mom about it. but nope, we paid in full. So now I'm stuck with a way too big cake. It is going to be beautiful but wow $1000 on a cake! :dontknow:
Oh okay so then she tells me we need to find a coordinator to hire to take the stress off me. So I set up an appt with one. everything is all good there. :bliss:
Today she calls me to ask how much coordinators cost and that she likes to set up things why can't she. Well 1st of all you think ugly brown conference room chairs will look alright at my wedding with all this other expensive crap. Yea okay. Then she still refuses to pay for the chair covers and says I can't afford it, I just paid 1,000 on a cake.And tells me "Maybe if you would have gone with a cheaper cake you could have paid for your chair covers!!!!" :shakefist: are you kidding me? I wanted the cheaper one I told her. She said well you can still call and change it. No I can't! I can only change the shape and flavors and decor not the actual size of it.
Then She tells me she booked my DJ(a guy that comes in and tans at her salon). How are you going to book a DJ without me saying yes??? We were still trying to talk davids stepsisters bf into doing it. We are going to end up with a cheesy ass Dj, I can already see it. I said we can't afford it. She said I'll pay for it! Okay whatever then. Still not happy about it. Since she will probably try and back out of paying that too!
Now she doesn't want to pay a coordinator!! She should have let me know that before I booked an appt. :hopmad:
I'm not trying to sound like a spoiled brat or anything...I appreciate everything she has done for me. But I don't like to be told,I'm paying for one thing, then all the sudden say no I'm not. Its really throwing off my budget and stressing me out.
:mecry:
Then complaining about money when she is paying for my 30 y/o, high school drop out, sister to go through beauty school and paying everything for my nephew. She is 30!!! should she be able to afford to raise her own son??
And paying to move my 40 y/o, high school drop out, step sister here from NY, buying her a house, giving her an over paid job to sit on her butt and do nothing, paying for her bancrupcy, paying for her to go through beauty school, paying for her to get her teeth fixed, buying her clothes ect.
Then there is me. I graduated with honors, tried to go to college but she begged me to stay and help run the company, I did part time college for awhile. Bought a house on my own when I was 20. When I ask her help to pay for my school she says no. I ask her to help pay to get my wisdom teeth pulled, once again she can't. I was happy I'm finally getting married so she can help me out like she helps my other loser sisters. And now she is pulling this.:bawling: :bawling: :bawling:
My mom is the type of person that wants to buy the 1st thing she sees.
When I went dress shopping for the 1st time, I bought my dress that day and only tried on 6 dresses. Why?? because she wanted me too and well she is paying. I would have rather thought about it and went else where to look at more dresses.
Then the venue, I can't lie I love it. But who books their venue the day they just go to look at it? I wanted to look at lakeside gardens first before we decided. Since that was where I wanted to get married since I was 14. (which ends up being cheaper) But once again she is paying.
My location printed out an estimated cost which included the site rental, food for 100 people, drinks, and linens. It was about $8,000 she said she refused to pay for my chair covers 1/2 through the booking process when I asked how much they would be. I didn't want to say sorry I don't want to get married here since my mom wont pay for the chair covers.
So I figure I can come up with the $400 from somewhere or hopefully talk her into paying for them. :sigh:
a week after booking she claimed she wasn't paying for alcohol, I was like what? You said you agreed to her estimated cost amount. She said yea that doesn't include alcohol. I bet her $100 it did. And showed it to her the next day. She never paid me the $100.
So now its time to get the cake. I wanted a square, round, square, round 4 tier cake that was $615.00 and fed like 140 people. She then talked me into getting a 5 tier square cake in the last two minutes that cost us $948.00! I still like the look of the other one better :( Then I wanted to just pay the deposit so maybe I could change it down the line when I talk to my mom about it. but nope, we paid in full. So now I'm stuck with a way too big cake. It is going to be beautiful but wow $1000 on a cake! :dontknow:
Oh okay so then she tells me we need to find a coordinator to hire to take the stress off me. So I set up an appt with one. everything is all good there. :bliss:
Today she calls me to ask how much coordinators cost and that she likes to set up things why can't she. Well 1st of all you think ugly brown conference room chairs will look alright at my wedding with all this other expensive crap. Yea okay. Then she still refuses to pay for the chair covers and says I can't afford it, I just paid 1,000 on a cake.And tells me "Maybe if you would have gone with a cheaper cake you could have paid for your chair covers!!!!" :shakefist: are you kidding me? I wanted the cheaper one I told her. She said well you can still call and change it. No I can't! I can only change the shape and flavors and decor not the actual size of it.
Then She tells me she booked my DJ(a guy that comes in and tans at her salon). How are you going to book a DJ without me saying yes??? We were still trying to talk davids stepsisters bf into doing it. We are going to end up with a cheesy ass Dj, I can already see it. I said we can't afford it. She said I'll pay for it! Okay whatever then. Still not happy about it. Since she will probably try and back out of paying that too!
Now she doesn't want to pay a coordinator!! She should have let me know that before I booked an appt. :hopmad:
I'm not trying to sound like a spoiled brat or anything...I appreciate everything she has done for me. But I don't like to be told,I'm paying for one thing, then all the sudden say no I'm not. Its really throwing off my budget and stressing me out.
:mecry:
Then complaining about money when she is paying for my 30 y/o, high school drop out, sister to go through beauty school and paying everything for my nephew. She is 30!!! should she be able to afford to raise her own son??
And paying to move my 40 y/o, high school drop out, step sister here from NY, buying her a house, giving her an over paid job to sit on her butt and do nothing, paying for her bancrupcy, paying for her to go through beauty school, paying for her to get her teeth fixed, buying her clothes ect.
Then there is me. I graduated with honors, tried to go to college but she begged me to stay and help run the company, I did part time college for awhile. Bought a house on my own when I was 20. When I ask her help to pay for my school she says no. I ask her to help pay to get my wisdom teeth pulled, once again she can't. I was happy I'm finally getting married so she can help me out like she helps my other loser sisters. And now she is pulling this.:bawling: :bawling: :bawling: