At some point, you have to say "No." When was that for you? [Archive]

jrbecca

07-20-2006, 11:49 PM

OK, we all know that we can get carried away with wedding plans. What may have started out as a simple family affair can quickly explode into the social event of the year. At some point, we all have to draw a line and say "no" to an idea, a thing, an activity. Where was that line for you?

For me, it had to be doing bathroom baskets. It's a nice idea, but it's one too many. If I have to bring my own tampons, so do my guests.

:lol2:

Poloke

07-21-2006, 01:41 AM

Well, we had to say no to the bathroom baskets too. ITA w/ you on that. We also had to say no to the chocolate fountain, much to the sadness of my younger cousins. We said no to the personalized matches and BM tote bags. There are more but I cannot think of them right now.

katieandalex

07-21-2006, 08:06 AM

Jenny...I have to agree with you on the bathroom basket idea!

For me it was when we were still planning the NYE Bash....it was getting too carried away with being a NYE Bash instead of our wedding day....so I said "I'm stopping this." and we changed the date and I've had plenty of say in yes and no since then.

*alissa*

07-21-2006, 11:25 AM

For me, it was my mom's idea to have MOH and bridesmaid wear tiaras also. I din't want to wear a veil, and so my tiara was my substitute for a veil....I wanted to stand out, not blend with my MOH and Bridesmaid! I did comprimise and say okay to rhinestone headbands.....

Angela

07-21-2006, 04:59 PM

destinationbride07

07-21-2006, 07:01 PM

paying folks way to hawaii...NO WAY...i can barely pay my own lol lol

jillian

07-21-2006, 08:11 PM

I have to say NO to many of my BMs ideas. They are nuts.

KathyandJer

07-21-2006, 08:29 PM

I don't think there's anything we've had to say no to just yet. However we keep coming up with more and more ideas and I'm sure that something is going to end up nixxed in the next year :lol:

JerAndKathy

07-21-2006, 08:32 PM

My aunt tried to 'suggest' the typical magnet STDs. (just the other night) And sounded a little put off when I attempted to very diplomatically tell her we didn't like them and magnets just didn't fit with geekery. LoL

I think she bought that they were cost prohibitive. :lol:

nikkiscott

07-22-2006, 11:20 AM

I haven't had to say no yet. I guess I shouldn't say that. I've had to say no to other peoples ideas and helpful hints. I actually think I pissed off my one aunt when I told her that I was not having seating cards. I thought they were a waste of time and money. She thought it was wrong not to have them because then where do people sit specially family. I told her that she better get to the reception/supper early. lol I am having seats reserved for bridal party and family, like sibilings, and grandparents. But aunts and uncles and cousins are on their own.

Becki

07-22-2006, 11:27 AM

After I found out one of my BMs was pregnant and that meant she, her husband (an usher) and daughter (the FG) couldn't make the wedding, both my mom and FMIL thought I should replace them. I was against replacing them because to me she was still part of the wedding even if she couldn't be there. She'd helped me plan, pick out their dresses, and just generally listened. How could I replace her? They kept saying I needed to "even out the party" and I just said no. It caused some drama, but ultimately I am happy with my choice.

fizbobunny

07-22-2006, 11:28 AM

I said no to children. Some people are really peeved about it....I have a nephew who will be 14 months at the time of the wedding, and Tom has a niece and nephew who are really young as well. I just don't think they belong at the wedding. It upset a LOT of people, but I put my foot down about it.

I said no to children too. I had people still complaining about it after the wedding. One lady said it was a shame cause the kids would have enjoyed it and so would the guests. She even said they would have stole the show. I have never met her kids, and I wanted to be the star of the show :D

Angela

07-23-2006, 07:29 AM

I agree...we're the stars of the show on our wedding day, not anyone else! I think I've finally made my sister realize that it isn't about her, but me and FH.

Theresa

07-23-2006, 07:51 AM

I also said no to children. I really had to put my foot down with my MIL about it. We had a very formal ceremony and evening reception, and IMO, it just wasn't an appropriate location for children. The ceremony lasted from 4:45 'till almost 6:45 - I certainly wouldn't expect my child to sit through that. I did however, offer to find a reputable babysitter to stay in a hotel room with any children that might need to travel with their parents. However, none came.

destinationbride07

07-23-2006, 08:19 AM

*Stacie*

07-24-2006, 05:57 PM

I said no to children. Some people are really peeved about it....I have a nephew who will be 14 months at the time of the wedding, and Tom has a niece and nephew who are really young as well. I just don't think they belong at the wedding. It upset a LOT of people, but I put my foot down about it.

Good for you to sticking with it. I wanted mine that way but I knew that would not happen... unfortunately. We don't have a ton of kids coming but I wish zero were coming. But FH did have a say in it and he said that would not be possible.

lalalola

09-03-2006, 01:54 PM

While we were at my FBIL's wedding, FH crazy aunt was playing with her little ugly poodle (that goes everywhere with her and doesn't shut up) and she said to the dog "McDuff, can't u just wait to go to Brian and Lacy's wedding next summer". I politely said to her (cuz we both despise the dog) that no kids and no dogs are invited. I never thought in a million years that she would bring her dog along, but I'm glad the conversation came up early and we weren't suprised with an extra guest at the wedding!!!!!!!!! And yes, I do think she was alittle peeved about it, but she has a whole year to get over it!

PurpleFlower

09-05-2006, 10:56 PM

I've had to say no to sending STDs to people we didn't know. It wasn't to hard and she took it really easy!

smiles

09-09-2006, 11:08 PM

For me it was making my own placecards that were very complcated. My mom liked placecards that had periwinkle ribbion sewed and tied in a bow through the top. It would have been so much work to do the amount I needed. I ended up making basic placecards.

Kirsten

09-12-2006, 06:48 PM

There was a heart-stopping 2 days right before the wedding.

My cousin (G) has separated from his wife. He moved in with the woman he's been seeing immediately after (of course, none of us are supposed to know he's living with his girlfriend, she's "just a friend"). G was going to bring the girlfriend to our wedding! :huh:

DH wasn't happy about it, I wasn't happy about it, G's parents weren't happy about it. . . luckily we were able to convince him that meeting The New Chick at a wedding really wasn't a good thing. Especially since he hasn't even started to legally divorce his wife (and she was at my shower!)

*Ashley*

09-12-2006, 08:01 PM

I said no to Save the Date's for everyone -- I think they're a waste (just my opinion though). I do think, however, that I am going to go to Hallmark and get about 30 printed to send to our family in NY (though they're already planning their trips here) just to be nice.

Poloke

09-12-2006, 10:43 PM

Also said no to Kids at the wedding, limos, bubbles, disposable cameras, videography, bridal party luncheon....

MrsRea

09-13-2006, 09:34 AM

I said no to children as well, the OOT baskets, seating chart, chocolate fountain, getting married in a church, chair covers..Man I think I could keep going and going but thats all for now.

Oh yea we didnt do limos or any wedding day transportation...just my car!

Andrea

09-13-2006, 10:10 AM

I said no to children. Some people are really peeved about it....I have a nephew who will be 14 months at the time of the wedding, and Tom has a niece and nephew who are really young as well. I just don't think they belong at the wedding. It upset a LOT of people, but I put my foot down about it.

damian and i talk some about our wedding, and this is one thing we can't agree on. HAHA I would love to just invite family like aunt uncles, yada yada yada and friends with no kids, but since Damian has nieces and nephews he JUST met, he wants them tehre

Raychel

09-21-2006, 04:44 PM

I said no to everyone else's expectations of our wedding...and finally got good with the idea that this should be about us and not other people.

Kylie

09-21-2006, 11:54 PM

I said no to just about everything :laugh3:

No to a local wedding

No to an indoor wedding

No to a bridal party

No to guests (we had 3 but they invited themselves)

No to a real officiant, yes to Elvis

No to a reception/party

No to a registry

I wouldn't have done it any other way.