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Mandy
07-22-2006, 09:18 AM
Okay--I've tried to take it all in stride and bite the bullet...now I need to vent before I just blow up. My MIL is driving me absolutly mad and I am so sick and tierd of her dramatic cr@p!

FMIL and FFIL divorced (very messy) back in 1995 or so. They now live only 3 mins away from one another. This means, they fight constantly. It's just become childish now. They couldn't put it aside when their first grandchild was being born--they fought in the delivery room!! FFIL has gotton better, wanting to make sure his kids arn't subject to hearing what is going on between his ex and himself. He is still deeply hurt and upset, but at least we don't hear about it every single time we go over there!

FMIL on the other hand, talkes about it all the time. I have no idea why her new hubby isn't more upset. She also feels that he kids need to divide their time evenly. If you go over to FFIL's house...you better plan on going to her directly after for the same exact amount of time. It's just pathetic.

Now, my dad and his wife were out here last week--and of course we made plans. We got home at about 10pm every night since we were out sightseeing. FFIL made plans to have a luau cookout on Thursday, so we worked around those plans since he went out of his way to make plans with us. FFMIL found out and is now talking about us behind our backs because she is angry that she didn't get to meet my dad. Keeping in mind, she NEVER called to meet them, she never even MENTIONED it. I'm so over her stuff. She pulled this with my mom the last time she was out here and it got to be so much it made my mom uncomfortable because she felt as if she was being pressured into dividing HER time evenly.

I understand divorces suck--my mom has been through a few: but this is rediculious. I'M not one of her kids. I'm not going to be pressured or bullied into making my life fit around hers. She does this to our neice, Alexis and I will certainly NOT let this happen with my family.

Okay--I guess I just needed to vent. I'm just shocked that a grown woman can be so childish. :complain:

Maria 05
07-22-2006, 09:33 AM
Poor love I am here to let you vent. Want my hammer? :hammer:
Its so silly when adults act like kiddies do you want me to enlist her into kindergarten because that is where she sounds like she should be.
:hammer:

RadishWife
07-22-2006, 09:52 AM
I'M not one of her kids.


I think you hit the nail on the head... you are not a kid. You two (you and your dh) are adults and you say and do what you want...when you want. You are doing nothing wrong.

Krissy
07-22-2006, 09:53 AM
You know I don't get it either. Doesn't she know you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar? I'm sure if she was nicer about it people would WANT to visit more.

RadishWife
07-22-2006, 09:57 AM
Maria you know they put the hammer smily on this site just for you (it is true)!

Marion
07-22-2006, 10:37 AM
Sorry sweetie:hug99:

She may have some issues with the divorce and although it has been quite a while she must still be looking for special attention ...that should have nothing to do with you though! We are here to vent to anytime.

Mandy
07-22-2006, 11:16 AM
Thank you ladies---it's nice to feel likeI'm not insane. I'm so sick and tierd of her bull.

Maria: I think I need to call you in to use the hammer if she doesn't knock it off soon ;).

Krissy: Exactly. That's the exact reason we don't like going over there. If she'd change, we may go over there more...but until then, we just prefer to steer clear.

mkupperoct: Yep! She doesn't like to think we're adults. She also thinks it's completly normal and acceptable to stop by our house unannounced and uninvited even after we've talked to her about that. She gets upset if we don't invite her in when she just shows up, but we've got plans!! We're at the point where we don't even answer the door when she does that! Agh!

Soon2bEMrs.V: Thank you :) She does want special attention, but I'm not going to play into it. She's not a baby--she's a grown adult and she needs to act like it. It's just a pain :(