KelciAlexandra
06-22-2008, 11:08 PM
fh and i finalized several aspects of the wedding including the date and location. we decided to push the wedding back to october 28th, 2011, so we have a while until we get married; we have also decided to have the wedding in south lake tahoe, california (my family is from the san francisco area and his is from the gulf in mississippi). we decided to have it in tahoe because my family will be helping and his will not (their decision), it is a place we both love, and we are going to try to move out there after we finish school.
fh told his parents a couple of days ago the date of the wedding and the location. they were upset because we were not getting married sooner (it will be our 5th anniversary, so to us we're not rushing it), and they told him they wont be able to go because it is too far away and they wont be able to afford it.
is it just me or are they CRAZY!? i mean the wedding is 2 1/2 years off so they would be able to save the money, we're not asking them to pay for anything (not like they would even if we needed them to). also i think they have no right to be upset with us for choosing to wait until we are more stable in our own lives before getting married, we're both comfortable and confident in our decision to wait and i cannot understand why they would be upset over that (except for the part that i wont be popping out babies for them anytime soon).
im just confused on how to handle this situation. at the end of the summer i will be spending a week with my FILs and i have no idea on what to do if these issues come up. i know they look down on me because they think im a snob for choosing a ceremony and reception site that is not at their house (which was a joint decision btwn fh and i), and also think that im "stealing" fh away from them when really im sharing my experiences in traveling and my love for new things.
im now starting to worry that our wedding is just going to be my family and friends and maybe half a dozen people from fh's side not including his immediate family. im worried about him missing out on our wedding day because of the actions of his family; i mean i'll have my papa/daughter dance, but me wont get his mother/son dance unless he substitutes someone else, and he wont be able to share our happy day with the people he grew up with and loves. i really want this to be a happy occasion but it feels like everyone is depressed or upset over it.
fh told his parents a couple of days ago the date of the wedding and the location. they were upset because we were not getting married sooner (it will be our 5th anniversary, so to us we're not rushing it), and they told him they wont be able to go because it is too far away and they wont be able to afford it.
is it just me or are they CRAZY!? i mean the wedding is 2 1/2 years off so they would be able to save the money, we're not asking them to pay for anything (not like they would even if we needed them to). also i think they have no right to be upset with us for choosing to wait until we are more stable in our own lives before getting married, we're both comfortable and confident in our decision to wait and i cannot understand why they would be upset over that (except for the part that i wont be popping out babies for them anytime soon).
im just confused on how to handle this situation. at the end of the summer i will be spending a week with my FILs and i have no idea on what to do if these issues come up. i know they look down on me because they think im a snob for choosing a ceremony and reception site that is not at their house (which was a joint decision btwn fh and i), and also think that im "stealing" fh away from them when really im sharing my experiences in traveling and my love for new things.
im now starting to worry that our wedding is just going to be my family and friends and maybe half a dozen people from fh's side not including his immediate family. im worried about him missing out on our wedding day because of the actions of his family; i mean i'll have my papa/daughter dance, but me wont get his mother/son dance unless he substitutes someone else, and he wont be able to share our happy day with the people he grew up with and loves. i really want this to be a happy occasion but it feels like everyone is depressed or upset over it.