How did you ask people to be in your BP? [Archive]

Sk8ermaiden

07-24-2006, 07:26 PM

They knew already...however, on Chris's side....

Chris decided his best man would be our friend Hartschuh, who is so close to both of us and is really proud to be in our wedidng party (it's so cute!)...Hartschuh has known for ages that he was going to be a groomsman, HOWEVER, apparently FH didn't tell him that he was the best man yet. So last Saturday we're at a party and I say, "You know Hartschuh, as best man, your main job is going to be babysitting Jason." (Our friend that loves to get drunk and take his pants off.) And he just instantly responds, "I'm the best man?!" I didn't know he didn't know!! I felt so bad for spilling the beans, but FH never told me that he hadn't asked him yet!

Hartschuh was grinning like a Cheshire cat though...I know it means a lot to him. He told FH later that FH is his best man too. (Even though he's not engaged yet. I'm sure that wedding will be in a few years.)

carolinalady67

07-24-2006, 07:37 PM

I was going to do something really fun and cool like a gift basket or something but I really just kind of ended up telling my youngest sister she was going to be my Maid of Honor LOL I guess I should ASK her one of these days. :)

Deidre98

07-24-2006, 08:07 PM

I am asking my girls with this card. One of my journal buddies found this and showed it to me when I started thinking of how to ask my girls

http://artbeads.com/maofhoca.html

rowanmayfairs

07-26-2006, 12:21 PM

It was a given who would be in my BP..My sister-who will be my MOH .. I don't have very many friends. (I was her MOH in her wedding almost 3 yrs ago)

And James is only having his best friend as Best Man.

Christa

07-26-2006, 07:11 PM

Nothing creative here, I just called them...

jillian

07-26-2006, 09:18 PM

I wrote my MOH a long letter telling her how much her friendship met to me and and the end asked her to be my MOH. My other friends found out about it and wanted a letter asking them too. So I got some paper and wrote (NAME) WILL YOU BE MY BRIDESMAID? LOVE JILLIAN. They loved it.

Fellnlove92203

07-27-2006, 05:32 PM

I actually got this idea off of a thread on UW.... I used a little poem and at the end I asked if they would be my moh or bm and placed it in a very pretty picture frame and presented it to them. I gave my moh her's on her birthday and she started crying ( I guess it was a good cry because she said yes).

Fh just called and asked (although to me it was more of telling) them that they were going to be in the wedding party.

Rosebud

07-28-2006, 12:20 AM

MaOH and I were scouting out a possible reception site. She was giving me a hard time about setting a date. We were talking about things we've never done before (planning a wedding, for me, was one of them). I told her I had a question for her and she immediately said "yes" before I could even ask the question.

kate

07-28-2006, 12:55 AM

I gave my little sister a card that said
At first you had one brother,
soon you will have two,
someones getting married
can you guess who?

Will you be my bridesmaid?
I did the same thing for my mom and his mom. The rest of them I just called and told them that they were in the wedding. No asking here :) He did the same.

Maria 05

07-28-2006, 04:30 AM

I wrote a letter in the form of a job advertisement
Bride to be looking for Maid Of Honour
Preferably younger sister
Duties include
Stop any Bridezilla moments using any resonable means (murder, bashings and maiming are not REASONABLE)
No experience required
No pay but perks include
1 Pretty dress
Hair and make up will be paid for by said bride in lu of wage
And finally you will get a brother.

To my flower girl it was to her mother
Needed one very beautiful niece for flower girl
Child labour laws inforced
Must be able to carry a basket of flowers
Wear one pretty dress
Must look adorable
Upstaging Bride is not allowed

To my best friend
Needed one good friend as Bridesmaid
Must be a rock of sense
Ability to make Bride laugh an advantage
No pay but perks include
1 Pretty dress
Hair and make up will be paid for by said bride in lu of wage
Must be flexible
The possition ends on the 25th of November after a huge party

Jr Bridesmaid needed
Are you a cousin of the bride?
Can you wear a pretty dress and carry a bunch of flowers
Are you able to behave in Church
If so your Cousin Maria needs you to be her Jr Bridesmaid
No experience needed all training provided at Rehersal

Rosebud

07-28-2006, 10:26 AM

Oh Maria, thats great! How creative!

Katnye

07-28-2006, 04:16 PM

I found cards at Hallmark with a sentimental poem about having an angel by your side. At the end of the poem, I asked them to be an angel by my side on my wedding day. :)

*Tanya*

07-28-2006, 04:39 PM

Maria, that is sooo cute! I love it! :floating:

katieandalex

07-29-2006, 06:53 PM

My brother...he wasn't ever actually asked. I just said "You need to go and get measured for your tux." And he said "Oh, I'm in the wedding?" And I'm like "Didn't Alex ask you?" :lol: The best man was asked by us going in while he was working the one night and Alex said "Do you wanna be my best man?" My sister wasn't ever asked either....she just always knew that she was going to be my MOH, so it was just assumed...plus she said if she wasn't my MOH (since I was hers) that she would be really pissed! :lol: And my friend, I asked her through e-mail. I wanted to make her a card and all of this great stuff....but we were both in clinicals and had like zero extra time, so I e-mailed her and said "Well this isn't really how I wanted to do this....but you know how crazy life is right now. Will you be a BM at our wedding?"

Nothing very fantastic or exciting....

nikkiscott

07-30-2006, 10:31 AM

I asked my moh which happens to be mom by ordering in some flowers that at the time thought they could be my flowers for the wedding, and got them done up like bouquet. Got a card and wrote something in there along the lines of....Mom this is the only time that I will be mushy, How would you feel carrying something like this bouquet down the isle as my matron of honor??

For my bridesmaid I did a little poem and put it in a frame. The frame was great and the poem I liked.
http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y184/notoriousnikki69/BridesmaidFrame.jpg

Fh just asked his side. They were out drinking and he asked one and still has to ask his bm.

Men are so different. They just ask...we ladies have to give gifts.

MrsAbi

07-30-2006, 11:33 AM

I was bad and just e-mailed my girls. But I was trying to invite them to join me for a bridal show the following weekend. They all said yes to being in the wedding, but noone could make the show.

I wish I would've done it differently.

Crystal

07-30-2006, 09:02 PM

I just asked them. Nothing exciting.. lol

finallymarried06

08-01-2006, 10:17 PM

Travis just asked his guys.. but for my girls I wanted it to be special. We're all going to be (and are) teachers, so I found children's books that pertained to my friendship with them (And a sisters book for my sister). Then I had them read it and in the back I wrote a letter asking them to be my bridesmaids and maid of honor. I think they really liked it.. and I was pleased with it =)

*Ashley*

08-04-2006, 10:44 AM

Just asked, almost all the exact time I called them to tell them I was engaged :p

*Sarah*

08-22-2006, 04:07 PM

I sent my girls cards I made with little verses inside personalized for each one.

FH asked his two Best Men while he was on vacation with them in Michigan. He still needs to ask his two Groomsmen. I think he's planning to do go out with them this weekend and do that.

Theresa

08-23-2006, 11:12 AM

I love all the unique, well-thought out ideas in this thread. I called my girls, screamed that I was engaged and then asked them if they'd be bridesmaids :lol: Totally NOT unique or well-thought out!

Hughto

10-10-2006, 08:46 PM

I just asked. I did it in person and it was corny. I was so nervous.

Bri

10-24-2006, 03:58 PM

FH and I took two totally different routes... SUCH a typical thing, haha.

FH called his friend Nate up after he proposed to me, I dunno what he said to him, whether he told him or asked him, we were in separate cars. Either way, Nate said yes. With his friend Rudy, he called him and when he told him that he proposed, he said something like "and you get to stand up there in a monkey suit with me" hahahaha. Rudy agreed, "but I'm not dancing!" :lol: I'm kinda surprised he agreed. Then one of the groomsmen is my choice, cuz it's my "big brother" (really not my brother, but we're super super close). I asked Dave if he was okay with Marc being one of the groomsmen, and he was fine with it, so at Marc's wedding two days after our engagement, I said "We want you to be a groomsman in the wedding." :lol:

For my girls, however, I was a little creative.

I bought some panel notecards (purple), took a silver pen and wrote "Bri & Dave 06*07*08" and drew some stars along the top (landscape direction, haha). Then in black pen underneath, I wrote "We're getting married, and we would like to include the important people in our lives in our special day. Would you please consider being my" and then in silver I wrote "Maid of Honor" or "Bridesmaid" and in black "in our wedding?" then signed it. :D I did one for my brother, too, :lol:

I'm giving my MOH hers tonight, we'll see how it goes! :D

MsJessica07

10-24-2006, 05:51 PM

I just sent my Maid of Honor her card. Because I'm in Israel, I had to figure something out. I wanted something unique and cute, but it had to be in the mail, because I need her to be able to try on dresses when I visit in December and it needs to be arranged cause we'll both be busy.

So, that's where Shutterfly comes in. I made a picture in Photoshop:
http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j228/MsJessica07/bridesmaids/smallcard.jpg
(changed a little bit, with Maid of Honor since when I first made it I wasn't sure).
And used it on a card in Shutterfly. I put a poem on one side and a list of "responsibilities" on the other. They have an option that allows you to get them to mail it, so I used that, and it cost a total of $3.50.

It just got ordered today, so we'll see how it goes!

MostlyMel

10-24-2006, 06:31 PM

Aww, some of these are so cute! Mine's boring... for my MOH I just called her and asked her, and my other BM I just did it via email. Ohh well.

Sabby12s

10-24-2006, 10:11 PM

For my MOH, BM's and one of our GM I made cards asking them if they would be our MOH/BM/GM.

You can see pictures of them in my planning journal.

ginny

10-25-2006, 09:25 PM

well the girls who are my bridesmaids are still in college (it's their senior year) so i went up and visited them and told them i had something important to tell them. they thought i was pregnant! haha! no!
one of the girls (there's three) wasn't there! but i decided to ask them anyway.
I told them I had been thinking a lot about the wedding and would be honored if they would be my bridemaids. They were so excited, one had never been a bridesmaid before :)
After I left, I called the other girl because she was home in jersey and just asked her over the phone. She was excited too. And then, my MOH is my cousin, so i just asked her on AIM, but i unofficially told her a few months before that she would probably be my MOH.

~LeAna~

10-26-2006, 02:40 PM

I sent each of the girls cards and little Easter baskets full of candy! Except my roommate- she got the popcorn popper she kept saying she wanted!

sweetiez

11-06-2006, 06:44 PM

im boring too i asked my moh over im when i talked 2 her there of course i knew she would wanna anyways.. and brides maids asked over the phone ;)
yeah ..im SOO creative..:eek: i was way to excited to wait;)

PurpleFlower

11-06-2006, 09:30 PM

I asked each in person but it was nothing fancy! I had never heard of the fancy letters and such till I started comming to the wedding boards.

~LeAna~

11-07-2006, 07:57 AM

I sent them cards and little Easter baskets in the mail. I just bought blank cards and really stressed out over what to write. I wish now that I had known that "Will you be my bridesmaid?" cards exist. I wouldn't have been so stressed.

jenn2350

11-22-2006, 12:20 PM

Well my BM is my sister so I just asked her in person, and my MaOH is my best friend but she lives an hour from me so I just called her and asked in mid conversation. She was shocked and started crying and said yes. It was like I asked her to marry me! :laugh3:

Kathy

11-22-2006, 12:25 PM

Well I told my sister I was going to ask her and three friends, then I've asked two of the girls over AIM, and I haven't asked the third girl yet ... perhaps I'll do it like I told her I was engaged, in a voice mail message :lol:

Kimberly

01-17-2007, 11:47 AM

I wish that I would have thought to even ask in a creative way. I just asked Amy one day while we were out if she would be my maid of honor. I already knew she would say yes, and she already knew that I was going to ask I am pretty sure. LOL.

Josh and I asked Jessica and Josh to be in our wedding party at the same time, just when they were over at Josh's house and we were hanging out.

The most boring "asking" would have to be how I asked my friend Angie. I just called her.

Yeah . . . so nothing fancy at all.

*TanyaJeanne*

01-17-2007, 11:48 AM

One of them I asked online because I was so excited and couldn't wait anymore, and the rest I asked with a card :)

Kathy

01-17-2007, 12:13 PM

I have asked the fourth by now, and I just asked her over the phone. She was just as excited as if I had sent her a cute little card, so it all works :)

mrs.g

01-17-2007, 02:27 PM

For my wedding that never happened, I just asked them. This time around I want to do something cute and special. But first I need to figure out who is going to be in the BP (besides my sister), IF there is going to be anyone else.

sarahm08

01-18-2007, 02:14 PM

I made everyone little cards with these heartfelt poems and only ended up using one of them.

I gave it to my MOH right after she had her daughter, she was really hormonal and bawled her eyes out giving me a huge hug saying she was honored.

I asked one of my BM's (who I have since asked to step down) when we were drinking one night.

I asked my cousin via MSN.

I'm asking my MOH's sister to replace the BM who has stepped down with a nice card this weekend.

Dmsangel

01-23-2007, 03:11 PM

For my maid of honor, I got a sappy friend card and wrote a little something, asking her. I figured this way she'd have a keepsake of it forever.

My sister and future sister-in-law I just asked flat out. My 3rd bridesmaid I haven't asked yet because I want to do it in person and she lives a few hours away. I'm seeing her Sunday though!

AmyMichelle

01-24-2007, 10:21 AM

AmyMichelle

01-24-2007, 10:26 AM

I made cards to ask my MOH, BMs, FG, and RB using card stock cards. On the front of each there was a picture of a formal dress that I had cut out of a magazine on the girls and a tux for the RB. I had also cut letters out of magazines and the front they said things like, "Will you be my maid-of-honor?" and on the inside there was a poem, I can't even remember what it said anymore, I wish I had pics of them, I will try to get my BP to take some pics of them for me lol.
<3

belle67

01-24-2007, 04:07 PM

Since 3 out of 4 of my BM and the MOH live in my hometown, I set up and evening where we could all get together for dinner there. They had no idea I was going to ask them and when I did they all were very happy and said yes.
The other BM was my SIL and I asked her at a family function. I said a little speech and then she said yes and starts crying, then the whole family started crying including my FIL! :lol:

Raychel

01-26-2007, 10:40 PM

I feel like a huge bitch. I just kind of told my sister if she wanted to stand up with me that would be good. :lol:

Allyson

01-27-2007, 11:04 AM

I just asked. I didn't even think to do something really cute.

laurak83

02-02-2007, 12:36 PM

I've talked to mine already to make sure they're cool with it. I ordered cards from etsy.com and I'm sending them out in the next couple weeks, just to be "official." Also I have an obsession with stationary, so I have to buy a card for everything!

dolface546

04-05-2007, 09:41 PM

I've decided on the BP, my sisters are both MoH and I felt bad that they got pushed into it so I made them little packages:
http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y104/dolface596/Wedding/100_0487.jpg
(contains pad of paper, bookmark, and magnet for picture)
A poem was written on a scrapbook page reading:
Make a note and mark the date
I need my sister to be my MoH
Help me make memories, be my Maid of Honor

For my friend Meg (a BM) I sent a request on nice paper using ideas I got off here (some verbatim, they weren't copyrighted right?:caught:) and some of my own ideas:

Needed:
Someone that I’ve known since before I can remember
Who is a rock of sense,
But is still tempted to jump church pews to see the engagement ring
Who can make the bride laugh,
But listen when needed
Must have ability to stop any Bridezilla moments using any reasonable means (murder, bashings and maiming are not REASONABLE)
Perks include: Laughter, Love, and Joy
(not to mention dressing up!)

Meg, Please be my bridesmaid!

I've got one more BM, but she lives with me, I shall have to be sneaky.... :caught:

laurak83

04-07-2007, 06:44 PM

I talked to them beforehand so they knew, but I "officially" asked them with cards. I just wrote how much they meant to me on the card, and kinda tried to also be light-hearted about it, so I wrote some kind of joke about having to sign their name in blood that they were going to work on craft projects with me (for my sister and best friend, FI's sister didn't have to promise any crafts, lol).
http://images.etsy.com/all_images/f/f7e/d2e/il_430xN.5312930.jpg
from oliostyle.com (also oliostyle on etsy.com)

Mel

11-05-2008, 09:23 AM

i took inspiration from this thread and real life....

sent out this card (yay vistaprint) and wrote a nice note on the back to the specific person about why i wanted them....
http://i122.photobucket.com/albums/o253/smelis/inspiration/livepreviewaspx.jpg

Amy

11-05-2008, 01:26 PM

There are some great ideas in here! Maria I really love your advertisement one!

I just asked my girls in person, it was great to see there faces when I asked them which is why I didn't want to call or email them, since I called them when I got engaged and missed their expressions for that!