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July08bride
07-01-2008, 02:28 PM
We will be giving a gift to my future in laws as a thank you for the encouragement they have given us. However, I don't want to say Dear mom and dad. I also don't think its right to just say dear sue and bob. How should I say it, Dear_________?
~*Kate*~
07-01-2008, 02:40 PM
:shrug2: I would just use their first names, since that's what I call my inlaws, but if you want to be more formal you could always say Mr. and Mrs. Last name.
July08bride
07-01-2008, 02:43 PM
Can I still use their first names if their son and I both sign the card?
~*Kate*~
07-01-2008, 02:47 PM
Oh, I get you! :lol: I thought you were weirded out by calling them by their names. I don't know if there's really an etiquette for this... my mom still leaves messages on our phone saying, "Hi, it's Diane. Or Mom. Or Nana. Whoever." :laugh3: You could just leave the "dear so and so" part off-- I usually just write my message on a card without that part anyway.
jillian
07-01-2008, 02:47 PM
I know you don't want to use mom and dad but since your FH is giving them the gift as well I think it's appropriate.
carolinalady67
07-01-2008, 04:24 PM
I agree with Jillian. If we are giving his mom a card together, I always put mom on it and have DH sign it first. If just I'm giving her a card I use her first name.

If you really don't want to put mom and dad on it then I would go with Kate and just leave the dear so and so off.
Angela
07-01-2008, 05:34 PM
I agree - since your FH will be signing the card, it should be "dear mom and dad" or whatever.
hellobethie
07-02-2008, 01:12 AM
We do both Mom (or Mum in my case) and Dad/insert names here. They sign emails like that. We call them that we address things like that. It's actually kind of hilarious.
Winter_Bride
07-09-2008, 01:15 AM
As Jillian said, I think it'd be appropriate to address the card to "Mom and Dad" if your husband is signing the card as well. That's what we do with our parents. But as Kate said, if you're still not comfortable with that, I don't think there's anything wrong in leaving that part out of the card.
Raychel
07-09-2008, 04:04 AM
As Jillian said, I think it'd be appropriate to address the card to "Mom and Dad" if your husband is signing the card as well. That's what we do with our parents. But as Kate said, if you're still not comfortable with that, I don't think there's anything wrong in leaving that part out of the card.

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Deidre98
07-09-2008, 10:53 AM
Kate, my mom does the same thing when she calls. "Hello, it's Mom, or Marsha, or whoever." :lol: On cards to the IL's, I usually put Mom (MIL's name) and Dad (FIL's name) when it's from both of us.
*Ashley*
07-09-2008, 03:07 PM
"Dear Mom & Dad Lastname," is how I would do it.