Strippers...for or against?

[Emily]

what do you all think about having strippers at the bachelor/bachelorette parties?? I really don't mind it. We had them at ours.

[Mandy]

I guess I've never really had a stand on it one way or another...I know my FH will be more embarassed than anything else. As far as me, I'd probably prefer not to have one, only because it would be awkward...I mean, having some strange guy rub his junk on me kinda freaks me out ;). I'm sure I'll have one though, my MOH tends to love that kind of stuff ;)

[Krissy]

Oh goodness....let the mayhem begin. lol

If I'm going to be honest, I'm against them. I don't care what other people do, but I would have been uncomfortable with either of us having a stripper. But then again, I would have been REAL shocked if DH wanted one. It's just not his cup of tea.

[Deidre98]

I don't mind if he has them because I know he will be good and his BM already told me he was going to stay sober that night because his main priority is to watch FH and make sure he doesn't get out of control (which I can't see happening). As for me, if we go to a club, then I don't mind them but at my cousin's party, we were at someone's house and the stripper was just a little too close for comfort and it was kind of uncomfortable.

[Melly]

Oh goodness....let the mayhem begin. lol
:lol:

I didn't mind at all. I knew it was something his friends would want to do and I know that he's not the type to do something stupid he would later regret.

[StaceyG]

i dont mind them we did a kinda co thing at a strip joint it was a blast

[nikkiana]

Not a fan personally... Unless I can pay a stripper not to strip and to just hang out with us for the night!

[smiles]

I'm against it. DH wanted to have him at his bachelor party, but he respected my wish and is now happy he didn't go to a strip club. They just make me uncomfortable.

[TeenieBeanie]

I'm not a fan & thank goodness neither is DH! It's just something we're not interested in.

But to each their own....

[Rebecca]

Depending on the other guest! Had a surprise one at my 28th b-day and we all had a complete ball and laughed about it so many times later! Looking never hurt anything :heee:

[MrsRea]

I am against it. I did NOT want one and for him I didnt care if he went to a strip club or something, but I wouldnt be happy with a stripper coming to a house for him. They didnt do either though.

[fizbobunny]

I think I'll just sit this one out :)

[Kari]

Since it is my hometown, I am scoping out strip clubs for the bestman.

As for my party, my girls know what I am about and that is what matters.

:)

[*Stacie*]

I am 100% against it. Mine is for moral reasons (I'm a Christian). Bryan will not be going to a strip club. Call me uptight, a prude, whatever... I just think the whole thing is kind of disgusting. That is just my opinion however.

[Robbys Girl]

I don't see any point to them. We both think they're kind of dirty and wouldn't want them near us. Having strippers around wouldn't be our idea of a good time, a good time to us is socializing with friends, having some drinks, and just partying, not looking at skanky strippers :dunno:

[Jaime]

I don't like it for either of us. It goes against my beliefs to participate in that. And yes, if I went to someone else's party and there were strippers I most likely would not stay.

[-->Kat<--]

FH & I feel the same about strippers. We're both uncomfortable with strangers getting naked or half naked in front of us. I just don't see the purpose in them :headscratch:

[*Stacie*]

I don't like it for either of us. It goes against my beliefs to participate in that. And yes, if I went to someone else's party and there were strippers I most likely would not stay.

I would not stay either.. My Mom told me when she went to a bachelorette party years ago, her best friend was getting married and someone hired a stripper. Her and another lady both went into the kitchen to not watch. They got made fun of, but at least they stood up for what they believe in!

[nikkiana]

I know I already answered this, but I'm going to answer it again for more clarity... Neither FH or I (or any of our wedding party for that matter) are into strippers.... While I don't really have much issue with strippers themselves or FH looking at partially naked women, I *DO* have issues with the way some strip clubs I know of in my area treat the women that work for them.

[TeenieBeanie]

I am 100% against it. Mine is for moral reasons (I'm a Christian). Bryan will not be going to a strip club. Call me uptight, a prude, whatever... I just think the whole thing is kind of disgusting. That is just my opinion however.

Yeah this is our main reason, plus we feel it's degrading to both women & men.

[Aurora_K]

Generally speaking, I don't have a problem with strippers or strip clubs or the whole strip/porn industry . . . However, the whole idea of it being part of the "last hurrah" does bother me. Once Ed and I were engaged (hell, even before that) we stopped being emotionally single. Since we're a monogamous couple (a choice every has to make for themselves, I don't have a problem with swingers either) I'm uncomfortable with him getting sexual entertainment without me being involved. It's hard for me to explain sometimes, because like I said, I'm not against strippers.

[Andrea]

AGAINST...why should we look at other naked ppl dancing around looking like idiots

[KathyandJer]

I went with a friend and was quite happy to be trapped behind a table where we didn't get any participation! I was embarassed :lol:

Jer has never been, but isn't all that interested. We've decided that someday if he wants to go, we'll go together :) Until then, it just doesn't matter!

[Alice]

I really don't care one way or the other. I imagine that my bachelorette party will probably end up at a strip club, mostly because my best friend is the hairdresser at one of the local ones & we hang out there on a semi-regular basis. Free drinks are actually a bigger draw than strippers, though the strippers are fun, too. ;}

If Squeezums (or his friends) want to spend his bachelor party at a strip club, that's fine, too. Neither of us really look as strippers as being a sexual thing... they're just fun to look at & drink with. ^_^

[RadishWife]

Since my DH would throw up seeing a stripper, because he actually thinks they are slutty slimy skanks he would not go see them.
I have been to a strip club once a long time ago (I had a weird idea I wanted a breast job and I thought what better place to see what they really look like in person...I do not need a breast job or want one anylonger) while I know that these girls are not slutty (not all) if my husband did want to go, it would make me uncomfortable and we both try to steer clear of doing things that do not sit right with each other.

[Alice]

my DH would throw up seeing a stripper, because he actually thinks they are slutty slimy skanks

The strippers might not think much of him, either. ;P

[Sk8ermaiden]

I know FH's bachelor party will almost certainly end up at a strip club, just because of the people involed. He's never been, but I'm sure he'll have fun. I actually wish I could come along, because I'm sure they'll have a heck of a lot of fun. FH is the second in the group to get married, but the first guy who will have a traditional bachelor party, if I denied the boys, there'd be an uprising.

Mine however will not have strippers, because neither I nor my friends enjoy strange naked men, and my MOH will be 15 at the time, so the entertainment will be strictly PG-13.

[*alissa*]

Neither of us HAD a bachelor/ette party, because to us, we weren't "single" while not yet legally married, in our minds, we were. Make sense?
If we had decided to have them, I would be against strippers for me personally,I just don't really *get* it.
As for DH, I know he wouldn't be caught dead in a strip club. He just isn't into it. He just doesn't think it is right for women to dress scantily, or to show off thier "stuff. "

[Poloke]

I don't care if FH goes to see the strippers dance. No biggie.

I've always wanted to see the male revue but all the ladies in the wedding are pretty much against going to see the guys dance. UGH.

[Rebecca]

Not sure if I posted here before or not but anyways...do not care if FH goes or not! As I see it he comes home all hot and bothered to ME! :hehe:

[katieandalex]

100% against!!! I think its a very inappropriate time to go to a strip club.

[*Ashley*]

I am 100% against it. Mine is for moral reasons (I'm a Christian). Bryan will not be going to a strip club. Call me uptight, a prude, whatever... I just think the whole thing is kind of disgusting. That is just my opinion however.

PRUDE! Haha, just kidding Stacie! You love I love you! I also don't think you're uptight or prude, if you are that against it then he should respect that and I think it's great that he is being so respectful!

I'm cool with them to be honest, it doesn't bother me as long as he doesn't touch them in the naughty spots, kiss them or receive anything hem hem from them, which I've been promised -- he was grossed out that I would think he'd do that, so that was a good sign. A hot girl dancing in front of him or giving him a lap dance doesn't bother me -- he comes home to me :)

I do NOT want a stripper at mine -- that doesn't bother me but I'd laugh at him the entire time and feel rude, so it'd be a waste of money. My girlfriends know the guidelines already for what I want -- a lot of drinking, not a ton of shots with one liquor out of the question and one shot no way, and bar hopping with the games :) No strippers ;)

And Sk8ermaiden -- if it's in Houston, we pretty much live in the strip club capital it seems like, next to Vegas (which is where mine is going), so it's kind of inevitable, LOL! So no Le Bare for you? :p

[Sk8ermaiden]

And Sk8ermaiden -- if it's in Houston, we pretty much live in the strip club capital it seems like, next to Vegas (which is where mine is going), so it's kind of inevitable, LOL! So no Le Bare for you? :p
No, no Le Bare for me! I think I would be MORTIFIED if a stripper started shaking his stuff in front of me. I know this sounds really strange, but I think I would have much more fun at a strip club for guys. But since MOH will be 15, there will be no strippers or drinking, and really, those things aren't very me. We'll have much more fun going bowling and chowing on pizza.

[~Tala~]

Well, neither of us had them...and we were fine with that. DH explained he didn't really want them--he wanted a relaxed, hang out and drink beer experience with his buddies...and that is what he got. If the guys had dragged him to a club--I'm sure he wouldn't have resisted. As far as the question goes--I don't really care, however I would have cared if strippers came to them (on a secluded houseboat in the middle of a lake!)

[*Stacie*]

PRUDE! Haha, just kidding Stacie! You love I love you! I also don't think you're uptight or prude, if you are that against it then he should respect that and I think it's great that he is being so respectful!

Thanks Ashley :) And you know I love you too!!!

[angie]

We're not having strippers. It doesn't seem to flow well with a wedding celebration to us. I wouldn't be mad if they were at the bachelor party, but I was kind of relieved when FH told his best man that he did NOT want strippers of any kind.

[Deidre98]

Not sure if I posted here before or not but anyways...do not care if FH goes or not! As I see it he comes home all hot and bothered to ME! :hehe:

Exactly Rebecca!!!

[Cindy]

I'm neither for it or against it. I know that FH is coming home to me, so if he and the guys want to go, that's fine. But I believe we had this conversation and he did not have a good time at one once...

I however, was part of a bachelorette party kidnapping about 10-11 years ago. We went and ate at McDonalds, and then swept the bride off to "The Sugar Shack". I was 25 and tried to be a silent bystander. It was okay, but I don't think I'd want to do it again. We weren't wild by any means, not like some of the other groups that were in there.

[bnd94]

I guess I'm not for it or against it either. My FH would never want to go to anything like that. He says those girls actually gross him out. Personally I wouldn't want to go see male strippers either. So I guess it works out well for both of us. :)

[Hughto]

We will not have them.

[rowanmayfairs]

I don't see James having one cause its really not his thing..

But I guess it doesn't matter cause I doubt either of us will have a bacholer/bachorlette party. His friends all lives out of state and will do good to afford to come for the wedding.

I only have one or two friends so I won't do anything :)

[Christa]

I would not want them because it just really doesn't sound like a good time to me. FH doesn't want them either, but if he did want to go I wouldn't have a problem with it (just this once.) If he wanted to go all the time I would have a problem with it.

[Trinia]

ah yes the wonderful stripper thread...

Evan has made it clear that he doesnt want to have one, Like others it isnt FH I am worried about it is his single friends that will think it is an awesome idea, We are thinking of having our Stag/Staggette together so hopefully it will solve that problem :)

[Crystal]

There was a strippe at mine and I kind of wish we didn't have one. It was fun at times, but I think it would have been just as fun with just everything else we had there.

[Naima]

Not an issue for us. DH had them, I didn't, and that was fine.

[lunarmagic]

I feel bad for admitting this, but I totally had a freak out at DH about this, because I was sure his friends were going to get a stripper for a bach party. And that really made me feel unhappy. ANY other occassion I would have no problems with it, but I really really didn't want a stripper at HIS bachelor party, when he's the guest of honor and all that. Just weirded me out.

He ended up not even having a bachelor party, he went golfing with his brothers the morning of the wedding instead. So I freaked over nothing. :/

No strippers at mine. We had a very low-key night out.

Edited to add: I'm not against strippers or strip-clubs! But like Aurora_K said, it being part of a "last hurrah" is what bothers me - I hate that idea. Lapdances bother me. I'm all for going and watching, but lapdances... uhh, no. And that was what bothered me about the idea, because at a bachelor party they'd get the groom to sit there and participate, and yech.

But in GENERAL I'm still telling Den he's under orders to take me to a strip club. :) (Female strip club - I think that would be more interesting than a male one!) Unfortunately Den tells me they're all full naked strip clubs around here, and that's not my interest... lol

[sweetiez]

its a big fat NO . FH knows how i feel about stirppers. Honestly i feel as if he would be cheating on me. Even though he wasn't doing anything. Its the point. They in my opinion are Dirty! You can earn money other ways.. so its a HUGE no. he doesn't want to anyways! Thankfully all his "dirty" friends are gone. ( They had a fall out lets say) . When me and fh went to a strip club together when we first started to date yeah... it was very weird! He was way into me anywho ;). but thats how i feel about this!

[belle67]

If have no problems with them. FH has been to them before we met and since we have been together. In fact, I have even driven him and his buddies a few times so they could cab it home. ;) We are both adults and I trust him. He has even assured me that they never sit in the peepers first row. I on the other hand wouldn't like to go see guys strip. I have heard what goes on and women can be so nasty, worse than men! For my bachelorette party, FSIL asked what I didn't want to do. That was it.
Lap dances on the other hand (both men and women) I am totally against them and FH feels the same way.

[lalalola]

I am against becaue I think that the women are degrading themselves and that my FH is also degrading them for participating. and i don't get the whole its my last night of freedom bit, i think it makes for the wrong start on a marriage. but that is just my opinion and i'm open to others

[Mandy]

I just wanted to ressurect this thread. Our Bachlor/ette parties were this weekend and things got a bit out of hand. Chad and I had spoken on a number of occassions about whether or not we would feel comfortable having stippers at our respective parties and we both agreed it was not something we could tolerate.

Flash forward to this past weekend. Chad's groomsmen had been planning his B-party for awhile and it sounded like it was going to be an awesome time. They had invited a lot of our college friends that had moved away and they would all be suprising Chad at dinner. Then, I find out that very afternoon that they had ordered strippers. I didn't think I would be as mad as I was. Apparently, only 2 of Chad's GMs (who are both engaged) were against it...and they were overuled. I was fuming. They knew I was against this and did it anyway.

So, I thought I would be a lot cooler about it than I was. When it came down to it, I was flat out insulted. I don't care if it's the "norm" for that kind of thing to happen. The fact is, you're not celebrating the end of single life...Chad hasn't been single in 4 years! I don't see how a dancing naked girl could yeild positive results. I've lost a lot of respect for Chad's friends (they knew I would be upset...and did it anyway). When I spoke with a few of the guys about me getting a male stripper at my B-party (most had girlfriends and fiances that were at my party), they flipped out and said it was unacceptable. WTF?!

So...long story short (too late for that I guess!): the strippers ended up not coming and everything worked out. I guess I'm upset because I don't understand why naked people dancing for a dollar should be included at these events.

[MostlyMel]

Let's see... short answer, I'm against them. Now that doesn't mean that I have a problem with strippers themselves or even FH going to a strip club, I guess it just depends on the situation. I'd be okay with it if I knew he was just going and watching. However, I know how some of his friends are, and they'd definitely want to buy him private dances, which I think is unacceptable. There is no reason why he should need that from another girl. Obviously I also don't agree with having private strippers at home either, because in that case, anything can go. Not that I don't trust FH, but his friends.. ugh.
I also don't understand it being a celebration at the end of single-hood. We haven't been single in a looong time! If someone is about to get married then they should love and respect that other person enough to not need other naked women rubbing their bodies all over them. And that goes for women with male strippers too. It's fine to watch as just a fun show but anything beyond that.. wrong. 'Nuf said.

[purple_octopus]

Strippers don't really bother me. Although the last bachelor party FH's out of state friends called from (to tell FH what he was "missing out on") apparently they were in the negotiations with a stripper for... more than the "usual services". I don't exactly think highly of these friends to begin with, and I they are flying FH to N. VA in a few weeks for his bachelor party. I *know* they will drag him to a strip club, even though it is *not* his thing. I know he'll go just to keep them from bitching about it. I trust him, though. It really isn't his thing at all, and I know he won't enjoy himself. I don't care if he looks, and I trust him not to touch. I can say that I'm a bit concerned about his friends, though. The last thing we need is for his friends to get caught trying to buy sex from a stripper, and FH to get caught in the middle of that. I'll just pray they behave themselves out of respect for FH. (Yeah, right.) I suppose I ought to be praying that he realizes what @$$hats these guys are. (I think he kinda knows, but has been friends with most of them since childhood.)

Originally, neither of us were going to have bachelor/bachelorette parties. I am still not having a party. He is only doing this to please his friends. I will be going to an MMA show the weekend of his bachelor party, and a girlfriend of mine told me there will be plenty of guys there with no shirt on. :p (I know some of these guys, and their wives, and I can assure you there will be no dollar bills going into their shorts.)

[US_UKlove]

Feh. If FI wants to look at an unrealistic looking woman, he can knock himself out. I trust him, and I know all he'd do is look and still be more than happy to have me to come home to. He has 'been there, done that' and just really couldn't give a crap, nor could his BM.

I have always found male strippers to be grosser than gross. Shaved body hair and fake tans? No thanks. I'll never get over the time when a male stripper rubbed his butt on my forearm on my 21st birthday and I felt stubble. Ewwww!!!! That seriously turned me off them forever. Aside from the fact that the only man I have any interest in watching do a strip tease is my FI. :) *drool* ;)

[*Stacie*]

I just wanted to ressurect this thread. Our Bachlor/ette parties were this weekend and things got a bit out of hand. Chad and I had spoken on a number of occassions about whether or not we would feel comfortable having stippers at our respective parties and we both agreed it was not something we could tolerate.

Flash forward to this past weekend. Chad's groomsmen had been planning his B-party for awhile and it sounded like it was going to be an awesome time. They had invited a lot of our college friends that had moved away and they would all be suprising Chad at dinner. Then, I find out that very afternoon that they had ordered strippers. I didn't think I would be as mad as I was. Apparently, only 2 of Chad's GMs (who are both engaged) were against it...and they were overuled. I was fuming. They knew I was against this and did it anyway.

So, I thought I would be a lot cooler about it than I was. When it came down to it, I was flat out insulted. I don't care if it's the "norm" for that kind of thing to happen. The fact is, you're not celebrating the end of single life...Chad hasn't been single in 4 years! I don't see how a dancing naked girl could yeild positive results. I've lost a lot of respect for Chad's friends (they knew I would be upset...and did it anyway). When I spoke with a few of the guys about me getting a male stripper at my B-party (most had girlfriends and fiances that were at my party), they flipped out and said it was unacceptable. WTF?!

:agreesign: with you 100%!

[Flying_V_Goddess]

Female strippers I don't mind, but for some reason...male strippers make me go "Bleh." I have no idea why the male strippers are such a turn off. Maybe its the fake tans and overtoned muscles. And I don't find strippers degrading really...unless they're doing something beyond stripping. I would hope they're enforcing the "you can look, but not touch" policy.

Personally, I don't think I would have strippers (of EITHER gender) at my bachlorette festivities. They're fun, I believe there are other forms of entertainment that can be just as fun, if not more. Plus, they are kind of out of my price range. But even if I did have the money, I'd much rather blow $500 worth of quarters in an arcade with my bridemaids and have loads of fun playing games for a while than $500 on a person to take off their clothes. :P And really...do I want to watch sexy people taking it all off with my best friends? Um...no!

If you're REALLY into celebrating single hood (which does sound stupid since if you're engaged you've probably not been single for a while), you really don't need strippers for the occassion. You can do other fun stuff, too.

[Kathy]

I would definitely not want a stripper at my bachelorette party - I just think that would be weird. If we do anything sex related, I'd prefer a sex toy party or just something that we'd find funny ... without laughing at some guy gettin nekked :lol:

And I highly doubt Brian would go for a stripper. He and his friends would probably just hit up a pub for a few beers and call it a bachelor party.

[stephjhudson]

Ok, poo poo me if you want, but I told FH if there was a stipper. there would be no wedding
i dont care how much BM, GM plan, FH has free will and knows better
its dirty
so what im conservative

[theAmericanNtheSwede]

FH has never been to a strip club (although there was a stripper at his brothers bachlor party) and doesn't seem all that interested. i have been to a party at a male strip club and found it just embarrising.

if there is a stripper at his party, so be it. i don't mind at all. as others have said- he is coming home to me.

[Kristie]

Strippers in general dont make sense to me at these events.

They say it's your last "single" night, blah blah...but you're NOT single. You're with your fiancee. PLUS does having a stipper at your last night as a "single" guy give you the go ahead to cheat? No I dont think so...

I think strippers are a tacky way of celebrating a new beginning!

[Kya]

I think strippers are a tacky way of celebrating a new beginning!

I also think it is a tacky way of celebration, but I also feel that its a very fun thing b/c of it kind of being a tradition.

I don't care if FH goes to see the strippers dance. No biggie.

I've always wanted to see the male revue but all the ladies in the wedding are pretty much against going to see the guys dance. UGH.

I personally DON'T mind Marc going, b/c I trust him enough not to be immature and or do anything Outlandish. Yes, Marc does have immature friends who would do things outlandish.
But, it doesn't mean that I would keep him from doing something that I know would not affect my relationship. Most strip joints are hands off, and depending what kind of club it is.

Meaning some clubs don't have strippers who completely gets naked, and some where they don't take everything off. Some clubs were even the strippers just give a dance and can only touch certain parts of the person they give the lapdance too, or the can touch where ever.

Now a another poster said, something about Having a friend of the her Fh making sure things don't get too out of hand. I love that ideal and the fact that there is still good friends out there. I have two also for Marc that are in his wedding party, and they don't drink but they have went to clubs.

Do I feel weird about another woman dancing nude infront of Marc, kind of but it is no different then watching porn when a naked women is having sex on the t.v and he watches, or what about sex or nude scenes in Movies. But, I am okay with it.

Matter of Fact I am with Kathy, Marc and I want to go together and experience this together. We even talked about a co-ed parties to where we all go to the club. I've been to strip clubs for men, and it is so so fun, and we also go more then less for the drinks.

[stephjhudson]

i'm such a stick in the mud :)

[Kya]

No, why would you say that Steph?

[Rebecca]

I could care less if FH went to a strip club now or when we are married...I trust him and know he is coming home to me. What is better than an excited man coming home to play with me! I doubt he would go to many b/c he is just not like that but I really do not care at all. Sexuality is a beautiful thing to me and should not be treated as a terrible secret or forbidden garden!

[Jelly Bean]

I am against them myself. I wouldn't want one and I wouldn't want DH to have one either as much as he probably would have liked one if he had a bachelor party.

[Raychel]

No. I think that if that is how you have to spend on of your last nights before you are married something is wrong there.

[nikkiscott]

It doesn't bother me at all if fh was to have strippers at his party. I am not that type of person to get mad or jealous of a stripper. Fh comes home to me every night. And there is no need for him to get his rocks off by a stripper when I can get his rocks off all the time.....lol

We live in a small town so there really aren't any strippers here. The only thing I have to worry about when his friends throw him his party is how drunk and sick is he going to be when they bring him home.....

[*Stacie*]

I don't think it is a matter of being jealous or intimdated by the strippers, its more for me a motal issue. Another reason I am against it is the majority of people who end up in the sex industry, whether it be doing pornographic movies, stripping or becoming a prostitue, statistically they were victims of sexual abuse. They see themselves as worthless and don't care about their bodies anymore. It is so sad. I would never want to be someone who doesn't think about what happened to cause them to be up there removing their clothes and grinding up to guys so that they can get their jollies. Who cares if your guy is coming home to you! If he is turned on when he comes home it is because another women did it, not you. I would rather be the one turning him on and having him thinking of me the entire time. IMHO

[MostlyMel]

I don't think it is a matter of being jealous or intimdated by the strippers, its more for me a motal issue. Another reason I am against it is the majority of people who end up in the sex industry, whether it be doing pornographic movies, stripping or becoming a prostitue, statistically they were victims of sexual abuse. They see themselves as worthless and don't care about their bodies anymore. It is so sad. I would never want to be someone who doesn't think about what happened to cause them to be up there removing their clothes and grinding up to guys so that they can get their jollies. Who cares if your guy is coming home to you! If he is turned on when he comes home it is because another women did it, not you. I would rather be the one turning him on and having him thinking of me the entire time. IMHO

Well said. I completely agree.

[*Stacie*]

Thank you Melanie! :)

[Rebecca]

Maybe some of the people in the industry were molested or had sexual problems in the past but in knowing a few strippers myself they were single mothers that chose to work 2 nights a week instead of a regular 40 hour a week job to have time to be with their child and finish school. Not everyone has been molested or has a bad image of themselves. Also the sex industry goes along with how sexual you are as a couple. Interested in plain mom and pop sex then porn and sex shops would not be for you but if you are a couple that thinks that gets a bit boring after a few times...then the sex industry can really heat up the bedroom through everything from toys to role playing which the strippers play into also.

[*Stacie*]

I am not going to think it's right just because someone wants to work 2 nights a week instead of 40 hours a week. It's disgusting. Period.

[Trinia]

I don't think it is a matter of being jealous or intimdated by the strippers, its more for me a motal issue. Another reason I am against it is the majority of people who end up in the sex industry, whether it be doing pornographic movies, stripping or becoming a prostitue, statistically they were victims of sexual abuse. They see themselves as worthless and don't care about their bodies anymore. It is so sad. I would never want to be someone who doesn't think about what happened to cause them to be up there removing their clothes and grinding up to guys so that they can get their jollies. Who cares if your guy is coming home to you! If he is turned on when he comes home it is because another women did it, not you. I would rather be the one turning him on and having him thinking of me the entire time. IMHO


I agree :)

[Kari]

While everyone has an opinion, this thread is about whether you are for or against strippers at a BP NOT what your feelings are on the strippers themselves, the sex industry or why people choose to strip.

Please keep your posts relevant to the original topic. We will not allow this to become a "bash the strippers" or a "bash the ones that bash the strippers" thread.

[*Diane*]

Can you believe that Mark has never been to a strip club? I have seen the Chippendales a time or two but he just says he doesn't have any interest. Why would he when he can come home to a non-watered down drink and me in my flannel jamers? Now that is sexy right there, I don't care who you are. :hysterics:

[*Stacie*]

While everyone has an opinion, this thread is about whether you are for or against strippers at a BP NOT what your feelings are on the strippers themselves, the sex industry or why people choose to strip.

Please keep your posts relevant to the original topic. We will not allow this to become a "bash the strippers" or a "bash the ones that bash the strippers" thread.


The name of this thread is "strippers.... for or against?"

I just want to make it clear that my post was why I was "against" it... I was not bashing them or anyone else.

[Kari]

what do you all think about having strippers at the bachelor/bachelorette parties?? I really don't mind it. We had them at ours.

And the above was the very first post in this thread, which clearly states what the point of this thread was.

Stacie, that post was not meant specifically for you. I have been around these boards for almost 3 years and I have seen these these types of threads deteriorate very quickly into mud slinging and ripping strippers/the industry/members/etc.

My post was meant as a warning that we won't tolerate THIS thread doing that hence me posting the part about "we won't allow...."

[lk718]

I don't think it is a matter of being jealous or intimdated by the strippers, its more for me a motal issue. Another reason I am against it is the majority of people who end up in the sex industry, whether it be doing pornographic movies, stripping or becoming a prostitue, statistically they were victims of sexual abuse. They see themselves as worthless and don't care about their bodies anymore. It is so sad. I would never want to be someone who doesn't think about what happened to cause them to be up there removing their clothes and grinding up to guys so that they can get their jollies. Who cares if your guy is coming home to you! If he is turned on when he comes home it is because another women did it, not you. I would rather be the one turning him on and having him thinking of me the entire time. IMHO

Another one who agrees with you, Stacie! :) Especially the last part.

[*Kim*]

Well I have been to the strippers before, both male and female. I dont find them dirty or anything, but a lot of the time I end up just having a good time. Most of the time, we end up not even watching the strippers, but just hanging out. if FH wanted to go to the strippers, then fine. I know he is coming home to me and that he wouldnt do anything immoral. it's not like he is going to be "coveting" the girls on the stage, because frankly, he isnt into that body type. he likes a bit of chubb on his woman. as he lovingly tells me, "i like something to hold on to."

[sweetiez]

personally i agree with staci..

[Celeste]

I think fear of your husband being around strippers shows an insecurity in the relationship. As for strippers at a bachelor party? Fine with me, as long as that's what the guy wants. I don't think he should have it forced on him, just because the best man wants to get his rocks off.

[carolinalady67]

I think it is a personal choice for each couple to make. If I'm against it I would hope FH would love and respect me enough to not have them. Same other way around, if he doesn't want strippers at my party I wouldn't have them.

as a side note, if I read this thread title one more time as "slippers .. for or against them" I will have to go get my eyes checked. By they way, I am totally for slippers ;)

[*Diane*]

I think it is a personal choice for each couple to make. If I'm against it I would hope FH would love and respect me enough to not have them. Same other way around, if he doesn't want strippers at my party I wouldn't have them.

as a side note, if I read this thread title one more time as "slippers .. for or against them" I will have to go get my eyes checked. By they way, I am totally for slippers ;)


:rofl: I don't like the big cartoon character slippers but I am totally for the almost footy kind of slippers. :) They go so well with my flannel jamers. :heee:

[MostlyMel]

I think fear of your husband being around strippers shows an insecurity in the relationship.

I somewhat agree, but I think for some of us (okay, at least for me), it's not necessarily a fear, it just doesn't seem like an appropriate way to celebrate getting married. I mean, why would my FH need to go and watch other girls dance naked if he is satisfied with me? :dunno:

But for those of you that are okay with it... more power to you.

[*Stacie*]

I somewhat agree, but I think for some of us (okay, at least for me), it's not necessarily a fear, it just doesn't seem like an appropriate way to celebrate getting married. I mean, why would my FH need to go and watch other girls dance naked if he is satisfied with me? :dunno:


:agreesign:

[sweetiez]

I somewhat agree, but I think for some of us (okay, at least for me), it's not necessarily a fear, it just doesn't seem like an appropriate way to celebrate getting married. I mean, why would my FH need to go and watch other girls dance naked if he is satisfied with me? :dunno:

But for those of you that are okay with it... more power to you.
agree also. good way to put it.

[Celeste]

You added on to what I meant perfectly. :nod:

And I was flame baiting a bit. I think it's all about the couple and what they're ok with.

[MostlyMel]

Of course, that makes sense. :)

[Kya]

My answers is like all and always been my own since I can remember.

Whatever FLOATS your BOAT or even ROCKS your Ship, then Party Hard!

This I don't mind b/c it is entertianment and this regardless of the fact before a wedding or right after it is all said and done.

I trust him, I don't mind, I do shake my ass for him, he doesn't mind, and he shakes his ass for me and other parts I might add (LoL!!).

But regardless it all what you personal life and mind is and not for me too speak on.

[Jaime]

I think it is a personal choice for each couple to make. If I'm against it I would hope FH would love and respect me enough to not have them. Same other way around, if he doesn't want strippers at my party I wouldn't have them.

as a side note, if I read this thread title one more time as "slippers .. for or against them" I will have to go get my eyes checked. By they way, I am totally for slippers ;)

I totally agree with you. This is not exactly the kind of debate that can be settled. Ever! So it is pointless to argue about it. I mean, this is like any other debatable topic, there is no final answer. No one will say "Oh, okay, because you say it is okay to have strippers, then that is what I think too." kind of thing.

Does that make any sense? :hehe:

It is just up to each couple. You two have to work it out on your own. It was not right for me, but what is not right for me doesn't mean that someone else can't stick dollar bills down a guy's g string with her tongue :eyebrows: and have a grande ole time and a great marriage! It is all what you and your FH/DH think is right.

Carry on!