To have a bow or not have a bow...

[mrodr21]

Ok, so I have been spending tons of late night hours looking at wedding stuff, from invitations to bedspreads. While looking at invitations, I always love the ones with the ribbon and bow on them. Well, I've showed my fiance about 20 diff ones with the bows, and he told me, "I just don't like the bow, why can't you just have the plain ribbon?" I didn't say anything, but I don't understand why he's making such a big deal over a bow?! I really want the bow, and I hope he caves in but how do I deal with trying to avoid an argument over a wedding invitation?

[jillian]

I'll tell you why, because he's a man. For the most part, they aren't fans of girly things.

[mrodr21]

Yea, thats what my dad said. Did your husband care about the invitation? My dad said he really didn't care about all the planning my mom did, just the fact that he was marrying her. I guess when I ask for his opinion, he's gonna give it to me!

[carolinalady67]

I would ask DFH how important an issue this is for him, and you figure out how important it is for you. Maybe both of you can rank it on a scale of one to ten. If it ends up being something he doesn't care for but it isn't that important to him ask him if he would please compromise on it because it is really imporant to you.

Maybe try reasoning with him that the invitation is going out to the guests and not something he will ever have to really look at again.

[Winter_Bride]

My husband definately had an opinion on EVERYTHING when it came to the wedding :lol: And I got frustrated sometimes because he didn't like things I wanted, or wanted things I didn't like. So we made a list and compromised. He gave in on some things that weren't as important to him, I gave in on others that weren't as important to me.

What if you both sat down and looked through an invitation sample book, or online, and see if you can reach a compromise? Otherwise, does he know how much the bow means to you? It might not lead to an argument, but if he knows how much it means to you, maybe he'll realize that you care more to have a bow than he does to not have one :shrug2: If that made sense! :lol:

[km]

a smaller bow? maybe?

[mrodr21]

thanks for all the tips, I will def do the list of important things, and I like the ranking idea. I will also let him know how important it is to me. Thanks again!

[Winter_Bride]

Good luck! :hug: Keep us updated!

[mrodr21]

OK!