Suggest Money

[Brendamp]

My daughter is getting married in March and she and her fiance have had their own apartments/home so they already have a lot of duplicate household items and giving some of them away. They are going to register for a few gifts but money would actually be the better gift for them. Is this rude to suggest and how would you word it?

[~LeAna~]

IMO the only acceptable way to do this is word of mouth. If someone asks you what to get them, let them know that money would be great as they're saving for a house or whatever.

[Deidre98]

I agree with LeAna. If people ask, then spread it by word of mouth but I think it's rude to include something with the invitations.

[*Sarah*]

I, personally, believe it is rude to suggest. If someone is asking for gift ideas, that's a little different.

Gifts should not be mentioned in any fashion on the invitation, however, whether it is registry information or asking for money.

[Winter_Bride]

I was invited to a wedding this summer where it was strongly suggested on their website that they wanted money for a gift. I don't mind giving people gift cards or money for their wedding (especially if I know they're in a situation like the bride and groom), but it's rude when it's asked for.

I agree with what others have said. Hopefully by only registering for a few items, more guests will ask for guidance, in which case it might be approprite for family or friends of the couple (not the couple themselves) to suggest money "for the honeymoon" or "for a new home", as they are otherwise well-established.

[MsJessica07]

I had a friend who asked for money "if people choose to give a gift" because they are both studying abroad for the next year or so, and would have to store any gift they got somewhere and they're both going to be teachers so who knows where they'll end up after this year. They didn't put this on the invitation, but rather on the website, and that was where we got the information and they also had a small registry, since they knew there would be people who wanted to buy gifts. We ended up getting them something that they will use while they are abroad. The idea is that you don't want to assume that people are going to give you a gift, nor dictate what they give you.

[Maria 05]

word of mouth only and only if asked.

[km]

I agree if someone asks what the Bride and Groom really need you can suggest money, but never on the invitation,

[Maria 05]

I have seen poems for money on invitations and it is really not good. It is really tacky.

[SueMartin]

word of mouth only and only if asked.
ITA

[Brendamp]

thanks for everyone's input.

[BASIA]

My Brother just got married and for the shower they wanted money. The did register AFTER the invites went out so most people gave them money and the people that wanted to give gifts called someone in the bridal party and asked if there were registered. But by word of mouth it was spread and by the fact that there was no big registry.

[Mandy&Nick]

Only by word of mouth... Mentioning monetary gifts in the invitation is tacky and rude, but unfortunately some still do it.

[Finally tying the knot]

I agree that asking for money in the invitations is rude. I have, however, seen it when a couple registers for a few things, but the wedding invitation (http://www.mygatsby.com/wedding-invitations.html) states that they just want their guests "presence," people tend to give more money than gifts. People feel compelled to give something at weddings.