Is it right to do a gift registry for destination wedding?

[destinationbride07]

see i was thinking if they attend no need for gift...but if they dont they can give a gift if like...but how do i put that in words?? any thought??

[KathyandJer]

Personally I wouldn't put it in words - I would just let your family and BP know if/where you're registering...if people want to know, they will ask!

Or put it on your wed-site if you have one :)

[destinationbride07]

ok...so i should not tell those who are coming to hawaii to not gift? see i dont want folks to think i am being greedy :(

[Sk8ermaiden]

Miss Manners said that even if it's a DW that a guest is spending money to attend, they still have to get to a gift. (Even if a very small or inexpensive one.) Now that doesn't mean they have to, of course, but it does mean your mannersy guests will want to get you one regardless. I would tell everyone that their presence is all the gift that you could want, but tell your mom, dad, and one of your friends where you are registered in case they "insist."

Plus, people who can't attend generally will still get you a gift, so a registry is helpful all around.

[*meghan*]

I went to a DW in December and we sent them a gift before the wedding. They didn't expect us to because we paid a lot of money to attend their wedding, but we felt it was appropriate to get them a gift. I agree with everyone else - spread the word about any registries that you have.

[lizaanne]

Yes, even a small token gift is required.

~Liza

[destinationbride07]

thanks for the info guys :)